Am i welcome here? - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

Sebastiano · 21st Dec 2011, 10:24 PM

Hello everyone I am Sebastiano. im 23 an live in ontario.I am a sex addict.i have been addicted to porography and masterbation for over 10 years now. i have had a very strong desire for transexual women(male to female). i had discovers tgirls when i was 13 or 14 and i was fasinated. Im not sure if it makes me gay and im not sure of alot of things. I am not attracted to men at all but male parts on what looks like a woman is a huge turn on for me. I feel very alone and live a very secretive life regarding my feelings for trans women or should i say trans men?(im not sure please correct me if im wrong) I am completey uneducated about this site and dont want to offend anyone. i am simply here to hopefully talk to some folks who are in the same boat as me or can clear up some of my frustrations. I want to change my sexual thoughts from being dark and hidden to open and free. I would appreciate anyfeedback.Thanks everyone.

J Snow · 21st Dec 2011, 10:36 PM

Hi, welcome to the site =) There are a number of straight and questioning users so there is no reason for you to feel unwelcome. It might be a nice idea to make a thread in the introduction section if that would make you feel comfortable, but I'm sure everyone here will welcome you with open arms.

As for your having an attraction to MtF transsexuals, that's actually a very common fetish among straight and bisexual men, (or even people like me who want to be a woman). Recent research shows that its actually perfectly normal for heterosexual men to be attracted to women with a penis. The following video might be relevant to your interests. If you don't want to watch the whole thing at least least watch the part like 7 or 8 minutes in.

+ YouTube Video

That being said, I am a firm believer that sexuality is in fact a spectrum and almost everybody is bi to some extent or another. Go with the flow, and find out what you like and don't like. Don't get hung up on labels and just strive to be your true self.

Best of luck

PerfectInsanity · 21st Dec 2011, 10:45 PM

Don't worry about offending anyone; this site is for all of us who have in the past or are continuing to question our sexuality. Even those of us who feel confident about what we are now and are living openly at one point or another struggled with identity, especially in the heteronormative world we have to deal with. I personally don't have any advice to give here in regards to transgender attraction, but know that there are many others like yourself on this forum. When I first found EC I tried out the "search" function on the forums to find past advice on particular subjects, so that might be something you would want to look at. Welcome, and speak freely!

Sebastiano · 22nd Dec 2011, 06:21 PM

well id like to be myself but its difficult to explain to people.

Charni · 22nd Dec 2011, 06:32 PM

Everybody is welcome here. Quite a few people aren't LGBT, and are here to help other people, but that doesn't mean everybody does help. I came here because I was a cross dresser, and I later learnt I am a girl inside.

Hana Solo · 22nd Dec 2011, 08:08 PM

Everyone is welcome here

Robert · 23rd Dec 2011, 12:59 AM

Are you attracted to standard effeminate males or do they have to look a lot more womanly than that?

silverhalo · 23rd Dec 2011, 03:21 PM

Hey as the others have said everyone is friendly here.

malachite · 23rd Dec 2011, 04:05 PM

I won't kick you, I don't think I could anyway.

As far as being a sex addict, are you sure it's just not you being 23 years old?

21st Dec 2011, 10:24 PM	#1
Sebastiano Newbie Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Straight Posts: 2 Join Date: Dec 2011	Am i welcome here? Hello everyone I am Sebastiano. im 23 an live in ontario.I am a sex addict.i have been addicted to porography and masterbation for over 10 years now. i have had a very strong desire for transexual women(male to female). i had discovers tgirls when i was 13 or 14 and i was fasinated. Im not sure if it makes me gay and im not sure of alot of things. I am not attracted to men at all but male parts on what looks like a woman is a huge turn on for me. I feel very alone and live a very secretive life regarding my feelings for trans women or should i say trans men?(im not sure please correct me if im wrong) I am completey uneducated about this site and dont want to offend anyone. i am simply here to hopefully talk to some folks who are in the same boat as me or can clear up some of my frustrations. I want to change my sexual thoughts from being dark and hidden to open and free. I would appreciate anyfeedback.Thanks everyone. __________________ Confused about my sexuality

21st Dec 2011, 10:45 PM	#3
PerfectInsanity Now I know I'm living for who I am Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay dude Out Status: Most family & friends; more in due time Location: Arizona Age: 25 Posts: 161 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Am i welcome here? Don't worry about offending anyone; this site is for all of us who have in the past or are continuing to question our sexuality. Even those of us who feel confident about what we are now and are living openly at one point or another struggled with identity, especially in the heteronormative world we have to deal with. I personally don't have any advice to give here in regards to transgender attraction, but know that there are many others like yourself on this forum. When I first found EC I tried out the "search" function on the forums to find past advice on particular subjects, so that might be something you would want to look at. Welcome, and speak freely! __________________ "You do what you love and fuck the rest"--Little Miss Sunshine

22nd Dec 2011, 06:21 PM	#4
Sebastiano Newbie Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Straight Posts: 2 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: Am i welcome here? well id like to be myself but its difficult to explain to people. __________________ Confused about my sexuality

22nd Dec 2011, 06:32 PM	#5
Charni Banned Full Member Gender: Physically male, mentally everything but male. Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: My girlfriend and 8 others Location: Australia! Age: 16 Posts: 775 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Am i welcome here? Everybody is welcome here. Quite a few people aren't LGBT, and are here to help other people, but that doesn't mean everybody does help. I came here because I was a cross dresser, and I later learnt I am a girl inside. Last edited by Charni; 22nd Dec 2011 at 06:34 PM..

22nd Dec 2011, 08:08 PM	#6
Hana Solo EC's Dear Abby- talk to me! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Mostly into girls Out Status: Closet is getting a little crowded Location: Not even a dot on the Australian map Age: 17 Posts: 1,096 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Am i welcome here? Everyone is welcome here __________________ Thor: No matter what he's done, Loki is from Asgard and is my brother Black Widow: He killed 80 people in two days. Thor: ...adopted. ~The Avengers, 2012

23rd Dec 2011, 12:59 AM	#7
Robert EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male ♂ Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: World Posts: 971 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Am i welcome here? Are you attracted to standard effeminate males or do they have to look a lot more womanly than that? __________________ "I am like a mirror that dares not be what nature made it, but feels obligated, always, to reflect what surrounds it." - Frederick II of Prussia. "England is a Prison" - Gerrard Winstanley

23rd Dec 2011, 03:21 PM	#8
silverhalo EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Quite a few Location: England, Age: 29 Posts: 3,161 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Am i welcome here? Hey as the others have said everyone is friendly here.

23rd Dec 2011, 04:05 PM	#9
malachite EC's realist Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Orlando Posts: 6,480 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Am i welcome here? I won't kick you, I don't think I could anyway. As far as being a sex addict, are you sure it's just not you being 23 years old? __________________ It's the 21st century, your bigotry is outdated. Either upgrade or go away.