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Hexagon · 27th Dec 2011, 03:45 PM

Do you have a genetically related family member who is LGB (No T, because it aint the same)? I just thought it would be a good way to try and see if there really is a correlation between genetic similarity and homosexuality. I realise this study isn't perfect, as a gay family member probably wouldn't have reproduced, but still worth doing if the gene is recessive.

*thinks too much sometimes*

I don't have anyone in my family who is LGB.

thecat06 · 27th Dec 2011, 03:48 PM

I don't have any LGB family members that I know of. I don't know all of my family though.

Cookie34 · 27th Dec 2011, 03:57 PM

I don't or at least i have never been told i have =/

GoinStag · 27th Dec 2011, 03:59 PM

Two of my sisters identify as bi. There are of course a few other family members I have suspicions about, but being that they're all on my mother's super conservative side of the family they wouldn't come out either way.

needshelp · 27th Dec 2011, 04:17 PM

not that i know of but then again, i've had my suspicions with certain family members but being that they're not in america to begin with and neither is most of my family. it really wouldn't matter. i would pretty much still be alone stuck in a house with three other straight people.

Tracker57 · 27th Dec 2011, 04:30 PM

Gayness runs in my family, but they won't admit it! I had a couple of great uncles who were probably gay...they were two old single men who my family NEVER talked about. (They were from a time and place where everyone got married and had lots of kids to work the farm.) My cousin is gay, but he denies it now. (I know men he's tried to have sex with.) And his son is gay. And of course, I'm gay, too.

Super Trouper · 27th Dec 2011, 04:33 PM

Nope, don't think so...

Allegro molto · 27th Dec 2011, 04:53 PM

My family is extremely large (my mother has 9 siblings [one died in his childhood, though] and my dad has 9 siblings [two of his sisters died, but they left behind children]), so it's going to be likely that there is someone other than me who is LGB. I only know of the ones on my mother's side since I don't have anything to do with my dad's side of the family, but my uncle's daughter is a lesbian and my aunt's husband has a gay son, and another son who is probably bisexual (he's married, but he's done things with guys before).

Mercy · 27th Dec 2011, 04:54 PM

3 of my aunts r

Artemicion · 27th Dec 2011, 04:59 PM

Not that I know of so far....but then again, the vast majority of my extended family lives in Asia which the conversation topic and knowledge of LGBT is pretty much non-existant.

Austin · 27th Dec 2011, 05:00 PM

My uncle is gay. Also, I believe my mom said her grandpa was gay (married for a long time, and finally told his wife etc).

MikeyHonore · 27th Dec 2011, 05:00 PM

My cousin is a lesbian.

Homo Novus · 27th Dec 2011, 05:04 PM

That depends... How extended are we talking here? Because none of my immediate family and relatives (aunts, uncles, first cousins) are (I have roughly 120 of them -- BIG family), but if we're talkin' second-, third-cousins, etc... then... Yes, there are 2 others. Haha.

RaeofLite · 27th Dec 2011, 05:19 PM

I know I have an uncle. Possibly a couple cousins.

Hexagon · 27th Dec 2011, 05:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Homo Novus

That depends... How extended are we talking here? Because none of my immediate family and relatives (aunts, uncles, first cousins) are (I have roughly 120 of them -- BIG family), but if we're talkin' second-, third-cousins, etc... then... Yes, there are 2 others. Haha.

That is like seriously against the odds. If the odds are taken to be 10%.

Hmm. Maybe there are multiple causes or gayness or something. Like genetic or something else.

Homo Novus · 27th Dec 2011, 05:30 PM

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Originally Posted by RubiksCube

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Originally Posted by Homo Novus

That depends... How extended are we talking here? Because none of my immediate family and relatives (aunts, uncles, first cousins) are (I have roughly 120 of them -- BIG family), but if we're talkin' second-, third-cousins, etc... then... Yes, there are 2 others. Haha.

That is like seriously against the odds. If the odds are taken to be 10%.

Hmm. Maybe there are multiple causes or gayness or something. Like genetic or something else.

I always thought it was against the odds too. But my relatives are mostly grown up now, and no sign of queerness in anyone so far... LOL. And I tend to have an impeccable gaydar, so if there WAS someone, I think I'd know. I knew about a third-cousin of mine back when we were in junior high. She has since come out. :P

Anyway, I think it may have something to do with the fact that I come from a very Catholic, old-school French family. That may tip the scale a bit.

Hexagon · 27th Dec 2011, 05:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Homo Novus

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Originally Posted by RubiksCube

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Originally Posted by Homo Novus

That depends... How extended are we talking here? Because none of my immediate family and relatives (aunts, uncles, first cousins) are (I have roughly 120 of them -- BIG family), but if we're talkin' second-, third-cousins, etc... then... Yes, there are 2 others. Haha.

That is like seriously against the odds. If the odds are taken to be 10%.

Hmm. Maybe there are multiple causes or gayness or something. Like genetic or something else.

I always thought it was against the odds too. But my relatives are mostly grown up now, and no sign of queerness in anyone so far... LOL. And I tend to have an impeccable gaydar, so if there WAS someone, I think I'd know. I knew about a third-cousin of mine back when we were in junior high. She has since come out. :P

Anyway, I think it may have something to do with the fact that I come from a very Catholic, old-school French family. That may tip the scale a bit.

You actually know your third cousins??? I don't think i've ever met mine.

My gaydar is a pile of BS. Although I have had some success with they eye flick method. but I can't hope to figure my own family out.

Gravity · 27th Dec 2011, 06:10 PM

Why is T not the same?

Absolutely nobody in my family is gay. Or if they are they're hiding it pretty damn well.

Kind of a bummer though.

LdSlnce · 27th Dec 2011, 06:14 PM

To the best of my knowledge, no...they're all very religious so it is entirely possible that they just don't want to say anything.

DJT · 27th Dec 2011, 06:17 PM

I don't think i have anyone, not even a distant relative. i would of liked to have a gay family member, just so i could get advice and help.

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27th Dec 2011, 03:45 PM	#1
Hexagon Bright Spark Full Member Gender: ?TM transguy Orientation: Panromantic Asexual Out Status: Pending review Location: Somerset, UK Age: 17 Posts: 1,051 Join Date: May 2011	Do you have a gay family member? Do you have a genetically related family member who is LGB (No T, because it aint the same)? I just thought it would be a good way to try and see if there really is a correlation between genetic similarity and homosexuality. I realise this study isn't perfect, as a gay family member probably wouldn't have reproduced, but still worth doing if the gene is recessive. thinks too much sometimes I don't have anyone in my family who is LGB. __________________ When god has low self-esteem, does that make him an atheist? Last edited by Hexagon; 27th Dec 2011 at 03:49 PM..

27th Dec 2011, 03:48 PM	#2
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Do you have a gay family member? I don't have any LGB family members that I know of. I don't know all of my family though. __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

27th Dec 2011, 03:57 PM	#3
Cookie34 Well Known Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Family only Location: England, Birmingham Posts: 101 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Do you have a gay family member? I don't or at least i have never been told i have =/ __________________ Come To The Darkside....We Have Cookies! xD

27th Dec 2011, 03:59 PM	#4
GoinStag I'm straight now............sikeeee Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Guy fetish Out Status: Parents, siblings, and therapist Location: Metro Detroit, Michigan Age: 18 Posts: 1,485 Join Date: May 2010	Re: Do you have a gay family member? Two of my sisters identify as bi. There are of course a few other family members I have suspicions about, but being that they're all on my mother's super conservative side of the family they wouldn't come out either way. __________________ *I've been thinking 'bout this all day long, Never felt a feeling quite this strong...I can't believe how much it turns me on, Just to be your man...*

27th Dec 2011, 04:17 PM	#5
needshelp really likes you Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: out to some, not family and friends though Location: in a closet near you Age: 25 Posts: 691 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Do you have a gay family member? not that i know of but then again, i've had my suspicions with certain family members but being that they're not in america to begin with and neither is most of my family. it really wouldn't matter. i would pretty much still be alone stuck in a house with three other straight people.

27th Dec 2011, 04:30 PM	#6
Tracker57 Married Gay Man Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay to Stay: I'm a 5.5 on the Kinsey Scale Out Status: Only to 8 friends, and some family Location: Tampa, Florida Age: 54 Posts: 175 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Do you have a gay family member? Gayness runs in my family, but they won't admit it! I had a couple of great uncles who were probably gay...they were two old single men who my family NEVER talked about. (They were from a time and place where everyone got married and had lots of kids to work the farm.) My cousin is gay, but he denies it now. (I know men he's tried to have sex with.) And his son is gay. And of course, I'm gay, too. __________________ Tracker I'm on a journey to finding the real me. I don't know where I will end up, but the trip is sure fun!

27th Dec 2011, 04:33 PM	#7
Super Trouper ABBA & Eurovision <3 Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everyone that matters. Location: Portugal Age: 18 Posts: 1,168 Join Date: Jul 2010	Re: Do you have a gay family member? Nope, don't think so... __________________ Yaoi is my oxygen...

27th Dec 2011, 04:53 PM	#8
Allegro molto Kyoufu wo oshiete yarou. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Kinsey 6 (100% Gay) Out Status: Officially told 1 person! Posts: 2,334 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: Do you have a gay family member? My family is extremely large (my mother has 9 siblings [one died in his childhood, though] and my dad has 9 siblings [two of his sisters died, but they left behind children]), so it's going to be likely that there is someone other than me who is LGB. I only know of the ones on my mother's side since I don't have anything to do with my dad's side of the family, but my uncle's daughter is a lesbian and my aunt's husband has a gay son, and another son who is probably bisexual (he's married, but he's done things with guys before). __________________ In the end, I always end up alone.

27th Dec 2011, 04:54 PM	#9
Mercy EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: A few people Posts: 1,412 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Do you have a gay family member? 3 of my aunts r __________________ Some times the ones you least expect too whal in to your life and change it for the better

27th Dec 2011, 04:59 PM	#10
Artemicion :D :D :D Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Anyone who asks, but parents in denial. Location: Vancouver BC Canada Age: 23 Posts: 1,112 Join Date: Aug 2010	Re: Do you have a gay family member? Not that I know of so far....but then again, the vast majority of my extended family lives in Asia which the conversation topic and knowledge of LGBT is pretty much non-existant.

27th Dec 2011, 05:00 PM	#11
Austin Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Most people in my life. Location: Orange County, California, USA Age: 19 Posts: 1,790 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: Do you have a gay family member? My uncle is gay. Also, I believe my mom said her grandpa was gay (married for a long time, and finally told his wife etc). __________________ Can I sail through the changing ocean tides, can I handle the seasons of my life?

27th Dec 2011, 05:00 PM	#12
MikeyHonore Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Lafayette, Louisiana, USA Age: 17 Posts: 24 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: Do you have a gay family member? My cousin is a lesbian. __________________ Sincerely, myself.

27th Dec 2011, 05:04 PM	#13
Homo Novus ...A homo novus, if you will. Full Member Gender: Estrogen-based organism Orientation: Totally queer Out Status: My closet's for clothes. Location: P.E.I., Canada Age: 20 Posts: 157 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Do you have a gay family member? That depends... How extended are we talking here? Because none of my immediate family and relatives (aunts, uncles, first cousins) are (I have roughly 120 of them -- BIG family), but if we're talkin' second-, third-cousins, etc... then... Yes, there are 2 others. Haha.

27th Dec 2011, 05:19 PM	#14
RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Do you have a gay family member? I know I have an uncle. Possibly a couple cousins. __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

27th Dec 2011, 06:10 PM	#18
Gravity EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Arizona Age: 31 Posts: 642 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Do you have a gay family member? Why is T not the same? Absolutely nobody in my family is gay. Or if they are they're hiding it pretty damn well. Kind of a bummer though. __________________ "If you didn't think it would hurt your reputation, what would you choose?"

27th Dec 2011, 06:14 PM	#19
LdSlnce Banned Regular Member Gender: Fancy Orientation: I like who I like Out Status: It's getting complicated! Location: Not On Your Street Posts: 153 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: Do you have a gay family member? To the best of my knowledge, no...they're all very religious so it is entirely possible that they just don't want to say anything.

27th Dec 2011, 06:17 PM	#20
DJT EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: I'm having adventures in Narnia, with Aslan Location: England - Preston Age: 18 Posts: 413 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: Do you have a gay family member? I don't think i have anyone, not even a distant relative. i would of liked to have a gay family member, just so i could get advice and help. __________________ Willow Hi, um... Tara. How are you? I was wondering... do you want to go out sometime? For coffee? Or food? Or kisses and gay love?

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