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breakingboxes · 6th Jan 2012, 12:53 PM

Ok everyone, I would love all of you to participate in this. I am doing an event for my college's GSA and I need your perspective. What are a few words/names that you get called or have heard that really hurt you? Why and How do they hurt you and, If you want to go more in depth, where did the word come from and what is its real meaning?
I will be taking these words and turning them into note cards that i will pass around with all of these aspects on them. so I will start:
Faggot. This really hurts when i hear others telling a male (or female) that they are a faggot. It has taken such a derogatory turn and it is offensive to all in the LGBTQ community. It is degrading when used this way. Its actual meaning is a bundle of branches.
Ready? GO! :P

Raug · 6th Jan 2012, 01:12 PM

Yeah I get called furfag.
I wear a tail. Nbd.
I get called wrong a lot.

breakingboxes · 6th Jan 2012, 01:13 PM

I love that you wear a tail!!!!

a fag is a cigarette...

Raug · 6th Jan 2012, 01:16 PM

Hehe ^^ it'd a fox tail.

breakingboxes · 6th Jan 2012, 01:16 PM

LOVE it!

Raug · 6th Jan 2012, 01:18 PM

:3 I'ma go add a pic of it.

breakingboxes · 6th Jan 2012, 01:21 PM

midwestgirl89 · 6th Jan 2012, 01:35 PM

I've heard people use faggot a lot. And my GSA friends have called me a dyke before. One gay guy calls my lesbian friend a bull dyke. I don't like any of those terms and it's weird to hear gay people using them toward other gay people. Do these names have to do with LGBT stuff or any names?

breakingboxes · 6th Jan 2012, 01:36 PM

any names are welcome although i am gearing this towards LGBTQ stuff. It is weird that a GSA member would call someone a dyke or bull dyke...

midwestgirl89 · 6th Jan 2012, 01:38 PM

Oh ok kool. Yeah, it is weird. It's mainly one guy and he has called people faggot, butch, dyke, bull dyke and pretty much whatever term he can think of.

breakingboxes · 6th Jan 2012, 01:40 PM

That is pretty offensive!! those are all words that we can use... we are trying to bring awareness to this but im worried it will backfire.

midwestgirl89 · 6th Jan 2012, 01:44 PM

What kind of event are you doing? It sounds like as long as you give info about what you are doing it will go well.

This is probably the most offensive thing I've ever heard>> 2 straight friends were discussing how the term "fag" means a cigarette/ a bundle of sticks (not sure) in Britain. So they started laughing and said "Let's go get us some fags and burn them!" The double meaning for the word was being used against it. They thought it was funny but I didn't.

breakingboxes · 6th Jan 2012, 01:49 PM

we are just passing out new note cards every day with different words on them. and posting posters up with alternative words to "Gay" like lame, boring, etc.

That is offensive too!

Mercy · 6th Jan 2012, 02:12 PM

Useless inconsiderate retarted alien bitch i could go on and on

Young Anonymous · 6th Jan 2012, 02:13 PM

"Queer" Can be a description of anybody LGBT if used right, but I usually hear it derogatorily like faggot.

Mercy · 6th Jan 2012, 02:14 PM

i forgot Ugly

SheWhoHasNoName · 6th Jan 2012, 03:26 PM

My older brother refers to things that are stupid as gay. It kind of implies that he thinks gay people are stupid which is false considering that there have been many geniuses who are gay. He calls me a fag when is he is annoyed (I'm not out to him).

thecat06 · 6th Jan 2012, 03:56 PM

I got told that since I am a lesbian (which I'm not, I'm bisexual) I had no soul.

I have no idea the things that people come up with sometimes..

Kev · 6th Jan 2012, 08:40 PM

I'd say "fag" is the worst one. I've never been personally called that, but I go to "straight bars" with my straight friends a lot and I tend to hear that word among a lot of the patrons (I live in a small, redneck town) when they're making jokes and such.

Sunsetting · 6th Jan 2012, 08:45 PM

faggot
idiot
dork
dumb-ass
fatso
queer
just some of the nicer ones from my brother, what else do we do now?

6th Jan 2012, 12:53 PM	#1
breakingboxes Happily Married. :) Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: USA Age: 21 Posts: 438 Join Date: Nov 2011	Words that hurt Ok everyone, I would love all of you to participate in this. I am doing an event for my college's GSA and I need your perspective. What are a few words/names that you get called or have heard that really hurt you? Why and How do they hurt you and, If you want to go more in depth, where did the word come from and what is its real meaning? I will be taking these words and turning them into note cards that i will pass around with all of these aspects on them. so I will start: Faggot. This really hurts when i hear others telling a male (or female) that they are a faggot. It has taken such a derogatory turn and it is offensive to all in the LGBTQ community. It is degrading when used this way. Its actual meaning is a bundle of branches. Ready? GO! :P

6th Jan 2012, 01:12 PM	#2
Raug Silent in secret Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Retreating to my walk in... Location: Mid-Michigan USA Age: 15 Posts: 225 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: Words that hurt Yeah I get called furfag. I wear a tail. Nbd. I get called wrong a lot. __________________ I am the patriarch

6th Jan 2012, 01:13 PM	#3
breakingboxes Happily Married. :) Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: USA Age: 21 Posts: 438 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Words that hurt I love that you wear a tail!!!! a fag is a cigarette...

6th Jan 2012, 01:16 PM	#4
Raug Silent in secret Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Retreating to my walk in... Location: Mid-Michigan USA Age: 15 Posts: 225 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: Words that hurt Hehe ^^ it'd a fox tail. __________________ I am the patriarch

6th Jan 2012, 01:16 PM	#5
breakingboxes Happily Married. :) Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: USA Age: 21 Posts: 438 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Words that hurt LOVE it!

6th Jan 2012, 01:18 PM	#6
Raug Silent in secret Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Retreating to my walk in... Location: Mid-Michigan USA Age: 15 Posts: 225 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: Words that hurt :3 I'ma go add a pic of it. __________________ I am the patriarch

6th Jan 2012, 01:21 PM	#7
breakingboxes Happily Married. :) Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: USA Age: 21 Posts: 438 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Words that hurt kk

6th Jan 2012, 01:35 PM	#8
midwestgirl89 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Interested in Women Out Status: Some people Age: 23 Posts: 559 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Words that hurt I've heard people use faggot a lot. And my GSA friends have called me a dyke before. One gay guy calls my lesbian friend a bull dyke. I don't like any of those terms and it's weird to hear gay people using them toward other gay people. Do these names have to do with LGBT stuff or any names?

6th Jan 2012, 01:36 PM	#9
breakingboxes Happily Married. :) Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: USA Age: 21 Posts: 438 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Words that hurt any names are welcome although i am gearing this towards LGBTQ stuff. It is weird that a GSA member would call someone a dyke or bull dyke...

6th Jan 2012, 01:38 PM	#10
midwestgirl89 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Interested in Women Out Status: Some people Age: 23 Posts: 559 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Words that hurt Oh ok kool. Yeah, it is weird. It's mainly one guy and he has called people faggot, butch, dyke, bull dyke and pretty much whatever term he can think of.

6th Jan 2012, 01:40 PM	#11
breakingboxes Happily Married. :) Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: USA Age: 21 Posts: 438 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Words that hurt That is pretty offensive!! those are all words that we can use... we are trying to bring awareness to this but im worried it will backfire.

6th Jan 2012, 01:44 PM	#12
midwestgirl89 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Interested in Women Out Status: Some people Age: 23 Posts: 559 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Words that hurt What kind of event are you doing? It sounds like as long as you give info about what you are doing it will go well. This is probably the most offensive thing I've ever heard>> 2 straight friends were discussing how the term "fag" means a cigarette/ a bundle of sticks (not sure) in Britain. So they started laughing and said "Let's go get us some fags and burn them!" The double meaning for the word was being used against it. They thought it was funny but I didn't.

6th Jan 2012, 01:49 PM	#13
breakingboxes Happily Married. :) Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: USA Age: 21 Posts: 438 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Words that hurt we are just passing out new note cards every day with different words on them. and posting posters up with alternative words to "Gay" like lame, boring, etc. That is offensive too!

6th Jan 2012, 02:12 PM	#14
Mercy EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: A few people Posts: 1,412 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Words that hurt Useless inconsiderate retarted alien bitch i could go on and on __________________ Some times the ones you least expect too whal in to your life and change it for the better

6th Jan 2012, 02:13 PM	#15
Young Anonymous ˁ˚ᴥ˚ˀ Polar Bear ˁ˚ᴥ˚ˀ Full Member Gender: MtF Orientation: People Out Status: Mom Location: Oklahoma Posts: 105 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Words that hurt "Queer" Can be a description of anybody LGBT if used right, but I usually hear it derogatorily like faggot.

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6th Jan 2012, 02:14 PM	#16
Mercy EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: A few people Posts: 1,412 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Words that hurt i forgot Ugly __________________ Some times the ones you least expect too whal in to your life and change it for the better

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SheWhoHasNoName Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: love is love Out Status: the girl that likes me but doesn't wish to be w/me Location: Texas Age: 16 Posts: 17 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Words that hurt My older brother refers to things that are stupid as gay. It kind of implies that he thinks gay people are stupid which is false considering that there have been many geniuses who are gay. He calls me a fag when is he is annoyed (I'm not out to him). __________________ Live as if there is a God. If there is a God, then you will gain eternity. If there is no God, then you will lose nothing.

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6th Jan 2012, 08:40 PM	#19
Kev Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Close friends Location: Oregon Age: 24 Posts: 58 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: Words that hurt I'd say "fag" is the worst one. I've never been personally called that, but I go to "straight bars" with my straight friends a lot and I tend to hear that word among a lot of the patrons (I live in a small, redneck town) when they're making jokes and such.

6th Jan 2012, 08:45 PM	#20
Sunsetting Banned Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: bi, straight, gay Out Status: to some family and friends Location: New York Age: 42 Posts: 950 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: Words that hurt faggot idiot dork dumb-ass fatso queer just some of the nicer ones from my brother, what else do we do now?