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Earendil · 12th Jan 2012, 09:16 AM

1) What's the worst part of being a member of the LGBTTP community?
2)What's the best part of being a member of the LGBTTP community?

I'll start:
1) Don't know, I'm not part of it.
2) Don't know, I'm not part of it but I'm thinking to be, that's why I posted this, to get some point of views.

FJ Cruiser · 12th Jan 2012, 09:26 AM

1) The acronyms :P Seriously, I would say the stereotypes and rejection.
2) I make friends with guys the easiest, so I love that my relationships will involve both "bro-ing" it out and being romantically involved with a guy. I'm not saying straight couples aren't this way, it just seems to me like homosexual couples are more likely to be best friends.

Sunsetting · 12th Jan 2012, 09:39 AM

bro, you are so darn thoughtful about things. very cool questions. in advance, sorry for breaking out of the format already lol.

i'm not really a part of "it", meaning a 'gay community' in the sense i think you mean. looking at it more closely, i'm a part of many communities, simply by virtue of the fact that we share interests, loves and hopes. some of them overlaps the LGBTTP community simply in the fact that i'm asking questions about myself and my orientation, some of it doesn't.

i am actually am finding that it's ok to be myself independent of what the stereotypical LGBTTP community looks like. on some issues i agree, in other areas, i disagree, but that's everywhere. part of really being me is being independent of (the sometimes stifling) labels, even though at times i want to have a label because it makes me feel like i belong...its kind of a pack mentality. Reality is that i am one person with many different facets and have many communities where i relate. it's actually a touch more challenging, but at the same time more freeing.

no matter the age, being accepted is a big deal and we want to embrace and be embraced by a community we appreciate. i would encourage you, young frodo baggins, to remain strong in developing your likes, your dislikes, your passions, your ability to reason and your character. and people will simply love you for you

... simply because it's... YOU

heatqueen · 12th Jan 2012, 02:10 PM

The worst is not only the way that people stereotype LGBT people, but the way many (though not all) stereotype themselves and there doesn't seem to be as much acceptance for people who don't fit those stereotypes within the LGBT community.

The best is that people are considerably more open minded towards people and the idea of freedom of expression and being oneself. I guess this kind of conflicts with the above point, but I am in fact talking about 2 different things here...

Kenko · 12th Jan 2012, 05:12 PM

I'll intentionally answer out of order.

2) What's the best part of being a member of the LGBTTP community?
In can provide an easy way of making friends. Between GSA type things, and just hanging out / meeting people of your kind. Making bros with other mo's. Bro-mo's.

1) What's the worst part of being a member of the LGBTTP community?
Too easy to make friends, to the point that everyone knows everyone. It's kind of weird how it seems everyone has dated the same people.

starfish · 12th Jan 2012, 06:17 PM

What the heck is the TP for?

Earendil · 12th Jan 2012, 07:37 PM

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Originally Posted by starfish

What the heck is the TP for?

It's because I don't know anything about this community and I searched for it and said that LGBTTP stands for: Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Transexual & Pansexual. I only posted what I read. Sorry if I'm not right.

Rooni321 · 12th Jan 2012, 11:57 PM

1)The stereotypes within the community make dating really hard. Or everyone just wants to hook up!
2)Everyone is SO cuddley and for the most part, understanding!
Plus, I love rainbows. Duh <3

Sunsetting · 12th Jan 2012, 11:59 PM

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Originally Posted by starfish

What the heck is the TP for?

Either the bathroom or to trail over bushes

sokk · 13th Jan 2012, 02:32 PM

1) the part that you don't fit into society's idea of what's "normal", you're basically discriminated against, but then again.. you're constantly being discriminated against by your own community too, at least that's how I feel. There's a lot of homophobia and self hatred in the gay and lesbian community. I feel like I don't fit in because I'm bisexual, and I have heard more times than one that lesbians hate bi chicks, but why? I don't get it.. this is how I am. I can't change who I am. Why am I hated for being who I am? I would expect this coming from straights, but not the LGBT community. I also feel that because I don't fit into your typical square lesbian box that I'm basically in the middle. I don't belong to the lesbian community and I don't belong to the straight community. I am not butch, I have long hair, I wear make up, I like to dress up. I feel like I don't belong at all.. like there's no place for femme lesbians, because some of the butch lesbians are really nasty to us, and it's horrible :/

2. I honestly don't know what's good. I think I just have bad experiences when it comes to the community.

12th Jan 2012, 09:16 AM	#1
Earendil Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: I can admit that for now I like a guy Out Status: About this situation, only to my bff. Location: Carolina, PR Age: 17 Posts: 23 Join Date: Jan 2012	Member of LGBTTP community 1) What's the worst part of being a member of the LGBTTP community? 2)What's the best part of being a member of the LGBTTP community? I'll start: 1) Don't know, I'm not part of it. 2) Don't know, I'm not part of it but I'm thinking to be, that's why I posted this, to get some point of views. __________________ ''Hereby Frodo Baggins, I give you the light of Earendil. It is our most beloved star. May it be a light in the dark places, when all the other lights go out.''

12th Jan 2012, 09:26 AM	#2
FJ Cruiser EC Addict Full Member Gender: Guy Orientation: Guys Out Status: immediate family, a few friends Location: Deep in the Heart Age: 19 Posts: 520 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Member of LGBTTP community 1) The acronyms :P Seriously, I would say the stereotypes and rejection. 2) I make friends with guys the easiest, so I love that my relationships will involve both "bro-ing" it out and being romantically involved with a guy. I'm not saying straight couples aren't this way, it just seems to me like homosexual couples are more likely to be best friends.

12th Jan 2012, 09:39 AM	#3
Sunsetting Banned Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: bi, straight, gay Out Status: to some family and friends Location: New York Age: 42 Posts: 950 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: Member of LGBTTP community bro, you are so darn thoughtful about things. very cool questions. in advance, sorry for breaking out of the format already lol. i'm not really a part of "it", meaning a 'gay community' in the sense i think you mean. looking at it more closely, i'm a part of many communities, simply by virtue of the fact that we share interests, loves and hopes. some of them overlaps the LGBTTP community simply in the fact that i'm asking questions about myself and my orientation, some of it doesn't. i am actually am finding that it's ok to be myself independent of what the stereotypical LGBTTP community looks like. on some issues i agree, in other areas, i disagree, but that's everywhere. part of really being me is being independent of (the sometimes stifling) labels, even though at times i want to have a label because it makes me feel like i belong...its kind of a pack mentality. Reality is that i am one person with many different facets and have many communities where i relate. it's actually a touch more challenging, but at the same time more freeing. no matter the age, being accepted is a big deal and we want to embrace and be embraced by a community we appreciate. i would encourage you, young frodo baggins, to remain strong in developing your likes, your dislikes, your passions, your ability to reason and your character. and people will simply love you for you ... simply because it's... YOU

12th Jan 2012, 02:10 PM	#4
heatqueen Official #1 fan of Celine Dion Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual/Homoromantic bisexual Out Status: Generally whoever asks Location: I travel a lot Age: 20 Posts: 5,706 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Member of LGBTTP community The worst is not only the way that people stereotype LGBT people, but the way many (though not all) stereotype themselves and there doesn't seem to be as much acceptance for people who don't fit those stereotypes within the LGBT community. The best is that people are considerably more open minded towards people and the idea of freedom of expression and being oneself. I guess this kind of conflicts with the above point, but I am in fact talking about 2 different things here... __________________ Don't drink and drive. You might hit a bump and spill your drink. Co-founder of the 'Sailor Moon Made Me Gay' club...and the lesbians.

12th Jan 2012, 05:12 PM	#5
Kenko EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few friends + parents Location: Canada Age: 26 Posts: 1,407 Join Date: Jan 2007	Re: Member of LGBTTP community I'll intentionally answer out of order. 2) What's the best part of being a member of the LGBTTP community? In can provide an easy way of making friends. Between GSA type things, and just hanging out / meeting people of your kind. Making bros with other mo's. Bro-mo's. 1) What's the worst part of being a member of the LGBTTP community? Too easy to make friends, to the point that everyone knows everyone. It's kind of weird how it seems everyone has dated the same people. __________________ Some of us are at different harmonics, but we all have the same fundamental frequency.

12th Jan 2012, 06:17 PM	#6
starfish This space for lease. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I like guys Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Hippie Town, Alberta of the US Age: 31 Posts: 2,108 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: Member of LGBTTP community What the heck is the TP for? __________________ All the problems of the world could be settled easily if men were only willing to think. The trouble is that men very often resort to all sorts of devices in order not to think, because thinking is such hard work. --Thomas J. Watson

12th Jan 2012, 11:57 PM	#8
Rooni321 EC's Hopeless Romantic Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: gay, str8, bi Out Status: Out to everyone Location: San Francisco, California <3 Age: 17 Posts: 1,321 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Member of LGBTTP community 1)The stereotypes within the community make dating really hard. Or everyone just wants to hook up! 2)Everyone is SO cuddley and for the most part, understanding! Plus, I love rainbows. Duh <3 __________________ "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially." Ernest Hemingway

13th Jan 2012, 02:32 PM	#10
sokk EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: The closet is my friend Location: Norway Age: 24 Posts: 312 Join Date: Dec 2009	Re: Member of LGBTTP community 1) the part that you don't fit into society's idea of what's "normal", you're basically discriminated against, but then again.. you're constantly being discriminated against by your own community too, at least that's how I feel. There's a lot of homophobia and self hatred in the gay and lesbian community. I feel like I don't fit in because I'm bisexual, and I have heard more times than one that lesbians hate bi chicks, but why? I don't get it.. this is how I am. I can't change who I am. Why am I hated for being who I am? I would expect this coming from straights, but not the LGBT community. I also feel that because I don't fit into your typical square lesbian box that I'm basically in the middle. I don't belong to the lesbian community and I don't belong to the straight community. I am not butch, I have long hair, I wear make up, I like to dress up. I feel like I don't belong at all.. like there's no place for femme lesbians, because some of the butch lesbians are really nasty to us, and it's horrible :/ 2. I honestly don't know what's good. I think I just have bad experiences when it comes to the community. __________________ John: "Oh please.. can we not do this this time?" Sherlock: "Do what?" John: "You.. being all mysterious with your cheekbones and turning your coat collar up so you look cool." Sherlock: "I don't do that." John: "Yes, you do."