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Robert · 20th Jan 2012, 12:22 PM

Are you content with where you are in your life at the moment? Why/why not?

Allegro molto · 20th Jan 2012, 12:32 PM

No. And, unfortunately, uncontrollable circumstances are making it really hard and painfully slow to try to change my life around.

needshelp · 20th Jan 2012, 12:33 PM

nope, not at all but things will get better. they have to.

Kidd · 20th Jan 2012, 12:43 PM

Mostly, yes. I'm almost done with school but I'm ready to move on to the next phase of my life. I'm working an internship and networking. I love my friends and I'm generally having fun. The only thing I could possibly ask for is someone to share it with and that will happen whenever it happens, or maybe not. I'll be fine either way. ^_^

Zontar · 20th Jan 2012, 12:49 PM

Is this a gradient option or something? If so, I selected where I think I'm about at.

A lot of other things are coming together (money, success, etc), but my woeful personal life continues to be a significant and persisting problem. For the record, I still have no concrete proof that I'm desirable as a sexual being, and I still get near-constant rejection for no coherent reason at all.

So, when I sweep that other thing under the rug, everything's golden. :/

Robert · 20th Jan 2012, 12:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Zontar

Is this a gradient option or something?

Yes.

Chouchou · 20th Jan 2012, 01:00 PM

I'm in a pretty good place, but it could definitely be better.

Rooni321 · 20th Jan 2012, 01:09 PM

Eh its alright. I want to say that its moving by slowly but at the same time I should cherish all the time I have left in California. I'd just rather be in college working on being a nurse. High school just feels so pointless! My friendships at the moment are a little shakey but they're getting better. And of course I would LOVE a job but I love kickboxing more than I want a job so I have to work on that.

My decent friends, grades, and kickboxing are keeping me from reaching ground zero.

**Owen** · 20th Jan 2012, 01:28 PM

I'm actually extremely content with where my life is right now. I love the college lifestyle, I enjoy the part-time job I have while I'm at school, I really like my friends, and though I may not be in a relationship, I'm legitimately content with being single. Things are actually really awesome right now.

There's only one thing pulling me down, but it's pulling me down pretty far. I'm a talented guy, so everyone (and I mean fucking everyone) is telling me I should set my sights on some kind of prestigious, intellectually challenging, or high-class job/degree. That's not what I want for myself, but everyone I know tries to make me feel guilty for not wanting better for myself.

And the thing that really sucks is, it's working. I used to think I'd be content with some kind of unremarkable job (say, working in a café, or as a receptionist), but all those "You can do better," messages have gotten to me, and I've started seeing those kinds of jobs as undesirable. I was once happy to settle, and now I'm not. Jerks.

b0i70y · 20th Jan 2012, 02:23 PM

It's going better than usual, but I'm falling behind in college work. This degree is really important to me because I've never had a job before, and if I don't get a college degree no one will hire me for anything.

mAOz · 20th Jan 2012, 02:30 PM

I like where I am in life at the moment, I have great friends and fun learning

FJ Cruiser · 20th Jan 2012, 03:02 PM

I'm really happy with my university choice and major, and I'm happier with myself now more than I've ever been I'd say. Still, I'm struggling to make more than a few friends and be outgoing. I'm really burnt out on school, and the high GPA requirements for my scholarships, though not immediately threatening, are very stressful. Schoolwork is constantly bogging me down from accomplishing everything I want to do. Perhaps I'm just another case of the "grass is greener" syndrome, but I'm ready to have a good job that I can just leave at the workplace and not have any stupid take-home work holding me back from traveling and hobbies.

Artemicion · 20th Jan 2012, 03:11 PM

Not that content, but not that bad either...but things are moving along in my life. I don't have any problem getting basic needs. I've graduated last year, don't have a job right now, had a job for three months - didn't like it. I've become a bit of a social hermit since I haven't really exposed myself to new environments. Been working on my own things which is nice, but there's still some troubling issues like getting another job and such.

JohnnyBoy · 20th Jan 2012, 03:15 PM

Im very happy. I love my school, my major, my classes, my roommate, my friends, my job, I have a very loving boyfriend who keeps me sane, just came out, don't have any secrets to hide, like/almost love my physical appearance...I've just accepted everything in my life and know I can't change much so I don't worry about much!

Aya McCabre · 20th Jan 2012, 04:42 PM

I'm not happy about the extremely slow progress I'm making getting my hip problems diagnosed (I'm sitting here with tears running down my face and three different over the counter pain drugs in my system) but apart from that it's going pretty well at the moment.

FleetFish · 20th Jan 2012, 05:58 PM

I like how you set up that poll!

Overall, yes! I have a decent job that I don't totally hate, I am going to a school that I LOVE, I live in 'my own' city but close enough to my parents and friends, I have several awesome friends, my pets are healthy and I don't have too-too many, and I am able to pay all of my bills without selling excess pets into scientific experimentation.

I don't have a lover, but that is about the only thing bugging me just a little. I also already have my AA degree, so that is awesome! My sis doesn't even have her AA, and she is 18 months older than me. >_>

So, really, I am quite happy!

Colton · 20th Jan 2012, 06:04 PM

Yes

Why shouldn't I?

Black Cat · 20th Jan 2012, 06:39 PM

Nope. Not at all.

I'm essentially alone, no friends, emotionally isolated from my family, etc.
I'm the heaviest I've ever been.
I'm unemployed.
I'm without a computer, which means little to no creative outlet for me to utilize.
And to top it all off, I'm within a breath of being officially diagnosed with full-blown clinical depression.

At least my sense of humor is still with me. And I survived my mid-life crisis I had last year.

duriru · 20th Jan 2012, 06:55 PM

For the most part, yes.
I like the classes I'm taking so far. I've met new people this past week, and have actually made friends with some of them, which isn't something that comes easy to me. I'm not stressed with college yet, since it's my first week back. I'm not dating or anything, but I'm not sad because of that, since I've decided to not date until I go away from this country. I haven't fallen into depression since last year. And I'm losing weight.

And it will get better. In about three months I'm moving to a bigger house, that's also closer to college. And maybe getting a car. So, yeah, I'm quite happy with where I am right now.

AngelicDemonic · 20th Jan 2012, 07:06 PM

No, but tbh I'm just starting.

For where I'm stuck in my life I'm reasonably content to keep moving forward? if that makes sense.

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20th Jan 2012, 12:22 PM	#1
Robert EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male ♂ Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: World Posts: 971 Join Date: Jun 2011	Are you content with where you are in your life at the moment? Are you content with where you are in your life at the moment? Why/why not? __________________ "I am like a mirror that dares not be what nature made it, but feels obligated, always, to reflect what surrounds it." - Frederick II of Prussia. "England is a Prison" - Gerrard Winstanley

20th Jan 2012, 12:32 PM	#2
Allegro molto Kyoufu wo oshiete yarou. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Kinsey 6 (100% Gay) Out Status: Officially told 1 person! Posts: 2,333 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: Are you content with where you are in your life at the moment? No. And, unfortunately, uncontrollable circumstances are making it really hard and painfully slow to try to change my life around. __________________ In the end, I always end up alone.

20th Jan 2012, 12:33 PM	#3
needshelp really likes you Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: out to some, not family and friends though Location: in a closet near you Age: 25 Posts: 691 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Are you content with where you are in your life at the moment? nope, not at all but things will get better. they have to.

20th Jan 2012, 12:43 PM	#4
Kidd You'll love me! Full Member Gender: ♂ Orientation: ♂ ♥ ♂ Out Status: Out Location: N.W. Ohio Age: 21 Posts: 1,430 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: Are you content with where you are in your life at the moment? Mostly, yes. I'm almost done with school but I'm ready to move on to the next phase of my life. I'm working an internship and networking. I love my friends and I'm generally having fun. The only thing I could possibly ask for is someone to share it with and that will happen whenever it happens, or maybe not. I'll be fine either way. ^_^ __________________ I feel a hunger. Take my picture by the pool, because I'm the next big thing. Fingers crossed, my time is coming now...

20th Jan 2012, 12:49 PM	#5
Zontar Mister Funny Man Full Member Gender: Male Location: Binghampton, NY Posts: 1,536 Join Date: Oct 2010	Re: Are you content with where you are in your life at the moment? Is this a gradient option or something? If so, I selected where I think I'm about at. A lot of other things are coming together (money, success, etc), but my woeful personal life continues to be a significant and persisting problem. For the record, I still have no concrete proof that I'm desirable as a sexual being, and I still get near-constant rejection for no coherent reason at all. So, when I sweep that other thing under the rug, everything's golden. :/ __________________ Get up and open your eyes...Don't ever let yourself ever fall down... Get through it and learn how to fly...I know you'll find a way...today. -Days of the New, "Dirty Road"

20th Jan 2012, 01:00 PM	#7
Chouchou Warrior Goddess Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Homosexual (asexual?) and mostly homoromantic Out Status: To some friends, but not to family Location: Wisconsin, USA Age: 26 Posts: 1,109 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Are you content with where you are in your life at the moment? I'm in a pretty good place, but it could definitely be better. __________________ "The good neighbor looks beyond the external accidents and discerns those inner qualities that make all men human and, therefore, brothers." -- Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

20th Jan 2012, 01:09 PM	#8
Rooni321 EC's Hopeless Romantic Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: gay, str8, bi Out Status: Out to everyone Location: San Francisco, California <3 Age: 17 Posts: 1,321 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Are you content with where you are in your life at the moment? Eh its alright. I want to say that its moving by slowly but at the same time I should cherish all the time I have left in California. I'd just rather be in college working on being a nurse. High school just feels so pointless! My friendships at the moment are a little shakey but they're getting better. And of course I would LOVE a job but I love kickboxing more than I want a job so I have to work on that. My decent friends, grades, and kickboxing are keeping me from reaching ground zero. __________________ "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially." Ernest Hemingway

20th Jan 2012, 01:28 PM	#9
Owen Cleverly disguised as a responsible adult EC Admin Gender: Agendered dude Orientation: Panromantic androsexual Out Status: Everyone and their mother Location: Massachusetts, USA Age: 21 Posts: 2,872 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: Are you content with where you are in your life at the moment? I'm actually extremely content with where my life is right now. I love the college lifestyle, I enjoy the part-time job I have while I'm at school, I really like my friends, and though I may not be in a relationship, I'm legitimately content with being single. Things are actually really awesome right now. There's only one thing pulling me down, but it's pulling me down pretty far. I'm a talented guy, so everyone (and I mean fucking everyone) is telling me I should set my sights on some kind of prestigious, intellectually challenging, or high-class job/degree. That's not what I want for myself, but everyone I know tries to make me feel guilty for not wanting better for myself. And the thing that really sucks is, it's working. I used to think I'd be content with some kind of unremarkable job (say, working in a café, or as a receptionist), but all those "You can do better," messages have gotten to me, and I've started seeing those kinds of jobs as undesirable. I was once happy to settle, and now I'm not. Jerks. __________________ "Stand firm for what you believe in, until and unless logic and experience prove you wrong. Remember, when the emperor looks naked, the emperor is naked. The truth and a lie are not sort of the same thing. And there is no aspect, no facet, no moment of life that can't be improved with pizza." -Daria Morgendorffer

20th Jan 2012, 02:23 PM	#10
b0i70y Grypherin Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: One thing is for sure - I'm not straight. Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Minnesota Age: 20 Posts: 164 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Are you content with where you are in your life at the moment? It's going better than usual, but I'm falling behind in college work. This degree is really important to me because I've never had a job before, and if I don't get a college degree no one will hire me for anything.

20th Jan 2012, 02:30 PM	#11
mAOz Your friendly neighbourhood Bi! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: A few people Age: 14 Posts: 103 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: Are you content with where you are in your life at the moment? I like where I am in life at the moment, I have great friends and fun learning __________________ The Force. It surrounds us. It enfolds us. It gets us dates on Saturday Nights. - Obi Wan Kenobi, Famous Jedi Knight and Party Animal

20th Jan 2012, 03:02 PM	#12
FJ Cruiser EC Addict Full Member Gender: Guy Orientation: Guys Out Status: immediate family, a few friends Location: Deep in the Heart Age: 19 Posts: 520 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Are you content with where you are in your life at the moment? I'm really happy with my university choice and major, and I'm happier with myself now more than I've ever been I'd say. Still, I'm struggling to make more than a few friends and be outgoing. I'm really burnt out on school, and the high GPA requirements for my scholarships, though not immediately threatening, are very stressful. Schoolwork is constantly bogging me down from accomplishing everything I want to do. Perhaps I'm just another case of the "grass is greener" syndrome, but I'm ready to have a good job that I can just leave at the workplace and not have any stupid take-home work holding me back from traveling and hobbies.

20th Jan 2012, 03:11 PM	#13
Artemicion :D :D :D Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Anyone who asks, but parents in denial. Location: Vancouver BC Canada Age: 23 Posts: 1,112 Join Date: Aug 2010	Re: Are you content with where you are in your life at the moment? Not that content, but not that bad either...but things are moving along in my life. I don't have any problem getting basic needs. I've graduated last year, don't have a job right now, had a job for three months - didn't like it. I've become a bit of a social hermit since I haven't really exposed myself to new environments. Been working on my own things which is nice, but there's still some troubling issues like getting another job and such.

20th Jan 2012, 03:15 PM	#14
JohnnyBoy I like tuhtles Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: St Louis Age: 22 Posts: 165 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Are you content with where you are in your life at the moment? Im very happy. I love my school, my major, my classes, my roommate, my friends, my job, I have a very loving boyfriend who keeps me sane, just came out, don't have any secrets to hide, like/almost love my physical appearance...I've just accepted everything in my life and know I can't change much so I don't worry about much!

20th Jan 2012, 04:42 PM	#15
Aya McCabre Beware of the Metaphor Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Dunedin, New Zealand Age: 21 Posts: 613 Join Date: Feb 2011	Re: Are you content with where you are in your life at the moment? I'm not happy about the extremely slow progress I'm making getting my hip problems diagnosed (I'm sitting here with tears running down my face and three different over the counter pain drugs in my system) but apart from that it's going pretty well at the moment. __________________ Time is on my side she said. He may be on your side I said, but it makes no difference in the end, He's coming after you my friend........

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20th Jan 2012, 05:58 PM	#16
FleetFish I was following the I Full Member Gender: Whatever Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Ponyville Posts: 150 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: Are you content with where you are in your life at the moment? I like how you set up that poll! Overall, yes! I have a decent job that I don't totally hate, I am going to a school that I LOVE, I live in 'my own' city but close enough to my parents and friends, I have several awesome friends, my pets are healthy and I don't have too-too many, and I am able to pay all of my bills without selling excess pets into scientific experimentation. I don't have a lover, but that is about the only thing bugging me just a little. I also already have my AA degree, so that is awesome! My sis doesn't even have her AA, and she is 18 months older than me. >_> So, really, I am quite happy! __________________ Saw a white dog chase its tail And a pair of hearts carved into a stone I saw kindness and an angel Crying, "Take me back home, take me back home"

20th Jan 2012, 06:04 PM	#17
Colton Hit the Lights Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Any one who wants to know Location: California Age: 15 Posts: 1,210 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: Are you content with where you are in your life at the moment? Yes Why shouldn't I? __________________ "It's always been about me, myself, and I. I thought relationships were nothing but a waste of time. I never wanted to be anybody's other half. I was happy saying I know love, it wouldn't last." <3

20th Jan 2012, 06:39 PM	#18
Black Cat As Seen On Hoarders... Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: This cat is out of the bag - I mean closet Location: Pennsylvania, with the cows Age: 21 Posts: 2,391 Join Date: Jun 2009	Re: Are you content with where you are in your life at the moment? Nope. Not at all. I'm essentially alone, no friends, emotionally isolated from my family, etc. I'm the heaviest I've ever been. I'm unemployed. I'm without a computer, which means little to no creative outlet for me to utilize. And to top it all off, I'm within a breath of being officially diagnosed with full-blown clinical depression. At least my sense of humor is still with me. And I survived my mid-life crisis I had last year. __________________ "Your life is an occasion. Rise to it." - Mr. Magorium

20th Jan 2012, 06:55 PM	#19
duriru Captain-Commander of the Gotei 13 Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Not out at all Location: Honduras Age: 18 Posts: 985 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: Are you content with where you are in your life at the moment? For the most part, yes. I like the classes I'm taking so far. I've met new people this past week, and have actually made friends with some of them, which isn't something that comes easy to me. I'm not stressed with college yet, since it's my first week back. I'm not dating or anything, but I'm not sad because of that, since I've decided to not date until I go away from this country. I haven't fallen into depression since last year. And I'm losing weight. And it will get better. In about three months I'm moving to a bigger house, that's also closer to college. And maybe getting a car. So, yeah, I'm quite happy with where I am right now.

20th Jan 2012, 07:06 PM	#20
AngelicDemonic Fire? Regular Member Gender: Girlygirl Orientation: Boobs nod Out Status: Ask, I tell. Location: PA Age: 13 Posts: 123 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Are you content with where you are in your life at the moment? No, but tbh I'm just starting. For where I'm stuck in my life I'm reasonably content to keep moving forward? if that makes sense. __________________ Toi et moi sommes pareils, tout comme la Terre et le Ciel; une seule famille sous le Soleil.