do you want kids? - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

Rooni321 · 22nd Jan 2012, 05:47 PM

Just curious because I was just at a baby shower...I've got babies on the brain.

So what's the story behind your choice? How many do you want? (:

Jessica816 · 22nd Jan 2012, 06:02 PM

Nope I realized awhile ago that I don't want kids...I have 2 nieces and 4 nephews that's enough for me.

Sunsetting · 22nd Jan 2012, 06:04 PM

yes i would, but i think it might be too late for me

i want to love them and them to have a dad who can play with them like crazy!

midwestgirl89 · 22nd Jan 2012, 06:06 PM

Yeah eventually I want to have kids. I want 2 or 3. It will probably be along time away though. I'm not ready for kids right now.

Allegro molto · 22nd Jan 2012, 06:09 PM

Helllll no. After baby sitting most of my cousins (at least A DOZEN that are younger than me) and having to live with my youngest sister who is almost 10 years younger than me, I've found out that I have absolutely no patience for anyone under the age of 17.

sanguine · 22nd Jan 2012, 06:14 PM

YES indeed, so i can teach them what love is suppose to be,and hopefully they spread that notion to their own kids and many others, sort of like a virus on contact, thats what im hoping anyways, ive been also inspired by my english teacher who has adopted kids from countries that are suffering from poverty, she said she wanted a rainbow family with kids from different nations

breakingboxes · 22nd Jan 2012, 06:17 PM

yess!! i think two.

Mlpguy88 · 22nd Jan 2012, 06:19 PM

No not sure right now. But that could change, I'm still young.

-My 18 year old cousin had his baby three days ago, so I'm really leaning away from the idea right now.

FJ Cruiser · 22nd Jan 2012, 06:19 PM

I almost think I'm hardwired to be a dad. I would love to have a biological son and my future husband have a biological son himself, but the logistics, probability, and stigma make that reality very unlikely. I wouldn't mind adopting at all though.

Since this isn't a perfect world put me down as a "maybe so."

Sunsetting · 22nd Jan 2012, 06:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by FJ Cruiser

I almost think I'm hardwired to be a dad. I would love to have a biological son and my future husband have a biological son himself, but the logistics, probability, and stigma make that reality very unlikely.

stigma is virtually non-existant in lots of areas of the country and you're young man.. you wait and see

Nazo · 22nd Jan 2012, 06:25 PM

As my favorite English teacher once said
"Here is dating, over here is marriage, then here is establishing a life. Then way, way, waaaaaaaaaaaay down the line, all the way down the hall (He was using his room as a reference) is when kids can come into the picture>"

I guess I sort of really agreed with that. I have absolutely no desire for children right now, and I wouldn't want to go through the infant/toddler stages, but adopting an older kid might be something I would like way, way, waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay down the line.

Noir · 22nd Jan 2012, 06:25 PM

Yes, even if I have to adopt!! ><

Daisy1 · 22nd Jan 2012, 06:25 PM

Rooni, you're all about the polls today!

I would love to have kids. I think it's probably one of the most amazing experiences in the world. I really hope to have children that are biologically mine, and hopefully have a friend as a donor.

solarcat · 22nd Jan 2012, 06:30 PM

I think I do want kids. No more than two, but I think I'd like that.

My only experience with kids comes from my sister's daughters, but I'd like to have some of my own one day.

Alexandria · 22nd Jan 2012, 06:32 PM

I want two as well. I wanted four - but after spending several months in a house with four kids, I decided two would be sufficient.

sugarcubeigloo · 22nd Jan 2012, 07:35 PM

Yes. Very much so. In fact, that was one of the things that made me afraid of being gay. But I know that it can happen one way or the other. I can already tell you that I'm going to be the kind of parent that makes lunch for my kids and puts notes in them.

I don't care if they're in high school.

alan t · 22nd Jan 2012, 07:48 PM

Yes, I think I would. Right now I don't but I can imagine it at some point. Its not going to happen though.

AloneOutHere · 22nd Jan 2012, 07:55 PM

Ever since i came out to myslef i've been thinking about all sorts of things like this. I always knew i wanted to raise a child and be proud... but i feel like i would be putting my child at some sort of disadvantage. like i'd put him/her as an easy target for bullying.. which i know all to well sucks.

---do all want a boy or a girl? I think having a boy would be wierd if he had two fathers(he might be confused/feel awkward)... THOUGHTS????

Ghostly · 22nd Jan 2012, 07:55 PM

My Husband and I may adopt

Tiny Catastrophe · 22nd Jan 2012, 07:56 PM

Yes I definitely want kids and so does my girlfriend. I've always loved kids and babysat family members and neighbors kids my whole life. Now as for the number of kids, my girlfriend and I are still discussing that but I definitely don't plan on having them for a while. She wants 4 and I want 2.

View Poll Results: do you want kids?
Yes	73	42.44%
No	41	23.84%
I don't know/Maybe so..	56	32.56%
Already got 'em!	2	1.16%
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22nd Jan 2012, 05:47 PM	#1
Rooni321 EC's Hopeless Romantic Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: gay, str8, bi Out Status: Out to everyone Location: San Francisco, California <3 Age: 17 Posts: 1,321 Join Date: Oct 2011	do you want kids? Just curious because I was just at a baby shower...I've got babies on the brain. So what's the story behind your choice? How many do you want? (: __________________ "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially." Ernest Hemingway

22nd Jan 2012, 06:02 PM	#2
Jessica816 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bi-romantic lesbian? Still working on it Out Status: Out loud and so very proud Location: Kansas city, Mo Age: 23 Posts: 255 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: do you want kids? Nope I realized awhile ago that I don't want kids...I have 2 nieces and 4 nephews that's enough for me. __________________ "Every gay and lesbian person who has been lucky enough to survive the turmoil of growing up is a survivor. Survivors always have an obligation to those who will face the same challenges."

22nd Jan 2012, 06:04 PM	#3
Sunsetting Banned Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: bi, straight, gay Out Status: to some family and friends Location: New York Age: 42 Posts: 950 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: do you want kids? yes i would, but i think it might be too late for me i want to love them and them to have a dad who can play with them like crazy!

22nd Jan 2012, 06:06 PM	#4
midwestgirl89 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Interested in Women Out Status: Some people Age: 23 Posts: 559 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: do you want kids? Yeah eventually I want to have kids. I want 2 or 3. It will probably be along time away though. I'm not ready for kids right now.

22nd Jan 2012, 06:09 PM	#5
Allegro molto Kyoufu wo oshiete yarou. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Kinsey 6 (100% Gay) Out Status: Officially told 1 person! Posts: 2,333 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: do you want kids? Helllll no. After baby sitting most of my cousins (at least A DOZEN that are younger than me) and having to live with my youngest sister who is almost 10 years younger than me, I've found out that I have absolutely no patience for anyone under the age of 17. __________________ In the end, I always end up alone.

22nd Jan 2012, 06:14 PM	#6
sanguine a cow Full Member Gender: cow Orientation: cows Out Status: i dont care Location: Sydney Australia Age: 18 Posts: 446 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: do you want kids? YES indeed, so i can teach them what love is suppose to be,and hopefully they spread that notion to their own kids and many others, sort of like a virus on contact, thats what im hoping anyways, ive been also inspired by my english teacher who has adopted kids from countries that are suffering from poverty, she said she wanted a rainbow family with kids from different nations __________________ The most pathetic person in the world is someone who has sight but has no vision. Value yourself. The only people who appreciate a doormat are people with dirty shoes

22nd Jan 2012, 06:17 PM	#7
breakingboxes Happily Married. :) Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: USA Age: 21 Posts: 438 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: do you want kids? yess!! i think two. __________________ History, despite its wrenching pain, cannot be unlived, but if faced with courage, need not be lived again. Maya Angelou

22nd Jan 2012, 06:19 PM	#8
Mlpguy88 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Not out at all Location: Michigan Age: 21 Posts: 528 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: do you want kids? No not sure right now. But that could change, I'm still young. -My 18 year old cousin had his baby three days ago, so I'm really leaning away from the idea right now.

22nd Jan 2012, 06:19 PM	#9
FJ Cruiser EC Addict Full Member Gender: Guy Orientation: Guys Out Status: immediate family, a few friends Location: Deep in the Heart Age: 19 Posts: 520 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: do you want kids? I almost think I'm hardwired to be a dad. I would love to have a biological son and my future husband have a biological son himself, but the logistics, probability, and stigma make that reality very unlikely. I wouldn't mind adopting at all though. Since this isn't a perfect world put me down as a "maybe so." Last edited by FJ Cruiser; 22nd Jan 2012 at 06:22 PM..

22nd Jan 2012, 06:25 PM	#11
Nazo Janis Ian's Lesbian Crush Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Facebook, not hiding at college Location: Michigan Age: 19 Posts: 2,071 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: do you want kids? As my favorite English teacher once said "Here is dating, over here is marriage, then here is establishing a life. Then way, way, waaaaaaaaaaaay down the line, all the way down the hall (He was using his room as a reference) is when kids can come into the picture>" I guess I sort of really agreed with that. I have absolutely no desire for children right now, and I wouldn't want to go through the infant/toddler stages, but adopting an older kid might be something I would like way, way, waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay down the line. __________________ are you feeling like a prisoner are you living life the way you want giving time to ones you love are you giving time to who you are

22nd Jan 2012, 06:25 PM	#12
Noir EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: A select few Location: Missing Age: 18 Posts: 361 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: do you want kids? Yes, even if I have to adopt!! >< __________________ The opposite of love isn't hate--it's indifference.

22nd Jan 2012, 06:25 PM	#13
Daisy1 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Girls Out Status: Pretty much out! Location: East Coast Age: 26 Posts: 307 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: do you want kids? Rooni, you're all about the polls today! I would love to have kids. I think it's probably one of the most amazing experiences in the world. I really hope to have children that are biologically mine, and hopefully have a friend as a donor.

22nd Jan 2012, 06:30 PM	#14
solarcat ducks all up! All up, I say! Regular Member Gender: Girlish? Orientation: Licks boys Out Status: Anyone that asks Location: CA Age: 23 Posts: 1,709 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: do you want kids? I think I do want kids. No more than two, but I think I'd like that. My only experience with kids comes from my sister's daughters, but I'd like to have some of my own one day. __________________ ._▲__▲ \(=•ω•=)/

22nd Jan 2012, 06:32 PM	#15
Alexandria lost up North Full Member Gender: somewhere between male to female Orientation: prefer mostly fems, ish. Out Status: A few people Location: NW Canada Age: 31 Posts: 208 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: do you want kids? I want two as well. I wanted four - but after spending several months in a house with four kids, I decided two would be sufficient.

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22nd Jan 2012, 07:35 PM	#16
sugarcubeigloo Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Philadelphia Posts: 65 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: do you want kids? Yes. Very much so. In fact, that was one of the things that made me afraid of being gay. But I know that it can happen one way or the other. I can already tell you that I'm going to be the kind of parent that makes lunch for my kids and puts notes in them. I don't care if they're in high school. __________________ ಠ_ಠ <(Hmmm...I see.)

22nd Jan 2012, 07:48 PM	#17
alan t EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: ontario, canada Age: 27 Posts: 340 Join Date: Jun 2010	Re: do you want kids? Yes, I think I would. Right now I don't but I can imagine it at some point. Its not going to happen though.

22nd Jan 2012, 07:55 PM	#18
AloneOutHere LAX LSM Regular Member Gender: Imma bro not a hoe Orientation: Dicks not Chicks Out Status: I came out 5-3-12 Location: Estados Unidos Age: 15 Posts: 172 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: do you want kids? Ever since i came out to myslef i've been thinking about all sorts of things like this. I always knew i wanted to raise a child and be proud... but i feel like i would be putting my child at some sort of disadvantage. like i'd put him/her as an easy target for bullying.. which i know all to well sucks. ---do all want a boy or a girl? I think having a boy would be wierd if he had two fathers(he might be confused/feel awkward)... THOUGHTS???? __________________ Let's get one thing straight, I'm not.

22nd Jan 2012, 07:55 PM	#19
Ghostly привет Full Member Gender: Un Garçon Orientation: I'm committed to this one guy Out Status: people that care for me Location: Canada Age: 17 Posts: 1,305 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: do you want kids? My Husband and I may adopt __________________ "Men fear death as children fear to go in the dark; and as that natural fear in children is increased by tales, so is the other" -Sir Francis Bacon

22nd Jan 2012, 07:56 PM	#20
Tiny Catastrophe Love is genderless <3 Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: 2 sisters, mom, friends, school Location: New Yorkish Age: 19 Posts: 863 Join Date: Jun 2009	Re: do you want kids? Yes I definitely want kids and so does my girlfriend. I've always loved kids and babysat family members and neighbors kids my whole life. Now as for the number of kids, my girlfriend and I are still discussing that but I definitely don't plan on having them for a while. She wants 4 and I want 2. __________________ Sometimes pain becomes such a huge part of your life that you expect it to always be there. Because you cant remember a time in your life when it wasnt but then one day you feel something else. Something that feels wrong, only because its so unfamiliar. Then in that moment you realize you're happy.