Age of realization - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

pronua · 30th Jan 2012, 05:31 PM

How old were you when you figured out you were LGBT? I have always known I was different but not until middle school, around age 11-12, did I figure out I was "gay".

Mlpguy88 · 30th Jan 2012, 05:36 PM

Me too, I always felt different and didn't really understand why. But eventually when I was 12 I knew, I didn't like it but I knew.

Zontar · 30th Jan 2012, 06:12 PM

I knew at about fourteen, which is comparatively late compared to everyone else, and it makes me doubt myself very often.

Random Dent · 30th Jan 2012, 06:19 PM

I was 15 when I realized I liked girls but I didn't come out until I was 26.

Revan · 30th Jan 2012, 06:31 PM

Oh good lord this is like :S I think I first had exposure to a gay yaoi comic that caught my attention, but it wasn't till I got oral from a friend of mine that I started realizing something different about me. Then over the time we kept doing that, and I started transitioning from primarily straight porn to gay porn and eventually after my.....erm 9th failed relationship with a girl it just clicked in Grade 11 when I turned 17 (no lie, I realized ON my birthday). So that that was me lol

Hana Solo · 30th Jan 2012, 06:58 PM

I was 17, and still am, but my dad said he'd known since I was ten... apparently he knows me better than I know myself lol.

30th Jan 2012, 07:03 PM

i think i knew something was off by age 10-12

BroadwayDreamer · 30th Jan 2012, 07:06 PM

Around five years ago, when I was 7.

Chouchou · 30th Jan 2012, 07:26 PM

I have had crushes on girls since about age 8, but it didn't hit me until I was about 25 that I might actually be gay and not just a complete oddball who didn't socialize much and wasn't interested in dating at all.

waitingfordawn · 30th Jan 2012, 07:30 PM

I was... 11/12, but I wasn't really consciously aware of it, so I can't call it a realization. I only realized when I was 18, I guess. I'm still 18, so it's a recent realization, even if it's been a long time coming.

ahayzee · 30th Jan 2012, 07:47 PM

I started wearing women's clothes in like fourth grade, now I have have a small walk-in closet of feminine clothes to choose from

Danny19 · 30th Jan 2012, 08:01 PM

i think i always felt different and kinda knew in the back of my mind but i never really thought about it. i started thinking about more and more in middle school and kinda figured then. But i didn't fully accepted til i was in my junior year of high school.

Nightmaric · 30th Jan 2012, 08:04 PM

I think I was 13 or 14 when I had the scare and started prayed like crazy because of my masturbation habits. But, it wasn't till two girlfriends later when I realized I liked guys. I was 15. It's been about a year actually, it happened sometime is month. I know because I was taking my girlfriend on a date, getting gas for my mom ( she had to drive... Lame), methim in the station, he said hi, and I kinda just melted and realized if he can destroy a sorta crush I had for two months ( it was I liked hanging around her) with some really heavy crushing that I did on him, I kinda just realized. That and I tried kissing her and didn't feel anything, at all. So yeah.. My life story. Hope you enjoyed!

sanguine · 30th Jan 2012, 08:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BroadwayDreamer

Around five years ago, when I was 7.

i was very young like you too i guess, i was 5 or 6 though, and it was a topic i never wanted to think about until i hit puberty

Jonathan · 30th Jan 2012, 08:17 PM

I was around 12/13ish when I realized.

alex2020 · 30th Jan 2012, 08:48 PM

I had feelings for guys since I was around 11, but I didn't realize I was gay until I was thirteen or fourteen. That being said, I was in denial about it until I was 19.

Rooni321 · 30th Jan 2012, 09:05 PM

Almost exactly a year ago. But its been maybe a few weeks longer than a year.

thecat06 · 30th Jan 2012, 09:09 PM

I realized that I was something my freshman year of high school, which would be around 14 because I realized that I liked some of my friends a lot more then others...lol. I did not accept it and start coming out until high school which was last year.

solarcat · 30th Jan 2012, 10:49 PM

All of my feelings were either denied or ignored until about a year ago. I realized I liked guys and not girls around six months ago, and came out about a month later, when I was still 22. Questions about my gender started a month or so later, just after turning 23, but while those haven't been fully resolved just yet, I'm much less confused.

So for me, pretty much all questions of that sort happened around 22/23 years old.
As opposed to almost everyone else who seems to have known (or questioned) since their teens. I feel slow...

Allegro molto · 30th Jan 2012, 10:52 PM

I don't think there's a specific age for me...I've kinda always had crushes on boys since I was little, so I'm not really sure. It's like I've always known, or something....I don't know.

30th Jan 2012, 05:31 PM	#1
pronua Member Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: 1 person Location: Atlanta Age: 15 Posts: 87 Join Date: Sep 2011	Age of realization How old were you when you figured out you were LGBT? I have always known I was different but not until middle school, around age 11-12, did I figure out I was "gay".

30th Jan 2012, 05:36 PM	#2
Mlpguy88 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Not out at all Location: Michigan Age: 21 Posts: 528 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Age of realization Me too, I always felt different and didn't really understand why. But eventually when I was 12 I knew, I didn't like it but I knew.

30th Jan 2012, 06:12 PM	#3
Zontar Mister Funny Man Full Member Gender: Male Location: Binghampton, NY Posts: 1,536 Join Date: Oct 2010	Re: Age of realization I knew at about fourteen, which is comparatively late compared to everyone else, and it makes me doubt myself very often. __________________ Get up and open your eyes...Don't ever let yourself ever fall down... Get through it and learn how to fly...I know you'll find a way...today. -Days of the New, "Dirty Road"

30th Jan 2012, 06:19 PM	#4
Random Dent Liebe ist für alle da! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: La la la ladies Out Status: I don't care who knows Location: California Age: 27 Posts: 1,692 Join Date: Feb 2011	Re: Age of realization I was 15 when I realized I liked girls but I didn't come out until I was 26. __________________ No government has the right to tell its citizens when or whom to love. The only queer people are those who don't love anybody Rita Mae Brown

30th Jan 2012, 06:31 PM	#5
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: M for MEEP! Orientation: Mutant and Proud Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 24 Posts: 6,564 Join Date: Jun 2005	Re: Age of realization Oh good lord this is like :S I think I first had exposure to a gay yaoi comic that caught my attention, but it wasn't till I got oral from a friend of mine that I started realizing something different about me. Then over the time we kept doing that, and I started transitioning from primarily straight porn to gay porn and eventually after my.....erm 9th failed relationship with a girl it just clicked in Grade 11 when I turned 17 (no lie, I realized ON my birthday). So that that was me lol __________________ "Is there some reason my coffee isn't here? Has she died or something?" - Miranda Priestly. Strength is not defined by physical capacity, but by indomitable will. ~ Mahatma Gandhi Procrastination is like masturbation, in the end you just wind up screwing yourself.

30th Jan 2012, 06:58 PM	#6
Hana Solo EC's Dear Abby- talk to me! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Mostly into girls Out Status: Closet is getting a little crowded Location: Not even a dot on the Australian map Age: 17 Posts: 1,096 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Age of realization I was 17, and still am, but my dad said he'd known since I was ten... apparently he knows me better than I know myself lol. __________________ Thor: No matter what he's done, Loki is from Asgard and is my brother Black Widow: He killed 80 people in two days. Thor: ...adopted. ~The Avengers, 2012

30th Jan 2012, 07:03 PM	#7
GoogieHowser Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Age of realization i think i knew something was off by age 10-12

30th Jan 2012, 07:06 PM	#8
BroadwayDreamer Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lip Stick Lesbian Out Status: All but family Location: Lousianna Posts: 70 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Age of realization Around five years ago, when I was 7. __________________ "The only straight I am is straight up bitch." -Santana Lopez

30th Jan 2012, 07:26 PM	#9
Chouchou Warrior Goddess Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Homosexual (asexual?) and mostly homoromantic Out Status: To some friends, but not to family Location: Wisconsin, USA Age: 26 Posts: 1,109 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Age of realization I have had crushes on girls since about age 8, but it didn't hit me until I was about 25 that I might actually be gay and not just a complete oddball who didn't socialize much and wasn't interested in dating at all. __________________ "The good neighbor looks beyond the external accidents and discerns those inner qualities that make all men human and, therefore, brothers." -- Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

30th Jan 2012, 07:30 PM	#10
waitingfordawn Well Known Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Queer Out Status: to friends and anyone that asks. Except family. Location: Montreal Age: 19 Posts: 140 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Age of realization I was... 11/12, but I wasn't really consciously aware of it, so I can't call it a realization. I only realized when I was 18, I guess. I'm still 18, so it's a recent realization, even if it's been a long time coming.

30th Jan 2012, 07:47 PM	#11
ahayzee NewLadyBee Regular Member Gender: Crossdresser Orientation: Straight but curious Out Status: A few people Location: Washington Posts: 13 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Age of realization I started wearing women's clothes in like fourth grade, now I have have a small walk-in closet of feminine clothes to choose from

30th Jan 2012, 08:01 PM	#12
Danny19 Lets see what happens Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: i love boys!!! Out Status: Some people Location: Los Angeles Age: 19 Posts: 722 Join Date: Jul 2010	Re: Age of realization i think i always felt different and kinda knew in the back of my mind but i never really thought about it. i started thinking about more and more in middle school and kinda figured then. But i didn't fully accepted til i was in my junior year of high school. __________________ “Whats meant to be, will always find its way"

30th Jan 2012, 08:04 PM	#13
Nightmaric Well Known Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Eleven friends, immediate family, Councellor Location: Ohio Age: 16 Posts: 107 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Age of realization I think I was 13 or 14 when I had the scare and started prayed like crazy because of my masturbation habits. But, it wasn't till two girlfriends later when I realized I liked guys. I was 15. It's been about a year actually, it happened sometime is month. I know because I was taking my girlfriend on a date, getting gas for my mom ( she had to drive... Lame), methim in the station, he said hi, and I kinda just melted and realized if he can destroy a sorta crush I had for two months ( it was I liked hanging around her) with some really heavy crushing that I did on him, I kinda just realized. That and I tried kissing her and didn't feel anything, at all. So yeah.. My life story. Hope you enjoyed!

30th Jan 2012, 08:17 PM	#15
Jonathan Formerly Muzzy Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Illinois Age: 20 Posts: 3,036 Join Date: Oct 2007	Re: Age of realization I was around 12/13ish when I realized. __________________

30th Jan 2012, 08:48 PM	#16
alex2020 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everybody important, and anybody who asks. Location: Florida Age: 19 Posts: 1,437 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Age of realization I had feelings for guys since I was around 11, but I didn't realize I was gay until I was thirteen or fourteen. That being said, I was in denial about it until I was 19. __________________ “Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe, shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish.”

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30th Jan 2012, 09:05 PM	#17
Rooni321 EC's Hopeless Romantic Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: gay, str8, bi Out Status: Out to everyone Location: San Francisco, California <3 Age: 17 Posts: 1,321 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Age of realization Almost exactly a year ago. But its been maybe a few weeks longer than a year. __________________ "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially." Ernest Hemingway

30th Jan 2012, 09:09 PM	#18
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,503 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Age of realization I realized that I was something my freshman year of high school, which would be around 14 because I realized that I liked some of my friends a lot more then others...lol. I did not accept it and start coming out until high school which was last year. __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

30th Jan 2012, 10:49 PM	#19
solarcat ducks all up! All up, I say! Regular Member Gender: Girlish? Orientation: Licks boys Out Status: Anyone that asks Location: CA Age: 23 Posts: 1,709 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Age of realization All of my feelings were either denied or ignored until about a year ago. I realized I liked guys and not girls around six months ago, and came out about a month later, when I was still 22. Questions about my gender started a month or so later, just after turning 23, but while those haven't been fully resolved just yet, I'm much less confused. So for me, pretty much all questions of that sort happened around 22/23 years old. As opposed to almost everyone else who seems to have known (or questioned) since their teens. I feel slow... __________________ ._▲__▲ \(=•ω•=)/

30th Jan 2012, 10:52 PM	#20
Allegro molto Kyoufu wo oshiete yarou. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Kinsey 6 (100% Gay) Out Status: Officially told 1 person! Posts: 2,333 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: Age of realization I don't think there's a specific age for me...I've kinda always had crushes on boys since I was little, so I'm not really sure. It's like I've always known, or something....I don't know. __________________ In the end, I always end up alone.