I was reflecting a bit on the path that led me to coming out and a rather uncomfortable and embarrassing conversation that I had with my dad sprung to mind. I was in my mid-twenties and my father initiated one of his many (failed in my opinion) attempts at discussing relationships, why I wasn't dating, and what I could do to bring home a girlfriend. During the course of this particular conversation, if you'll excuse me for being a bit graphic, he told me I was too busy 'putting the pussy on the pedestal' and that I needed to look beyond that and start seeing women for the beautiful, intelligent people that they are (which I do). My initial reaction was "Eewww," but refrained from saying anything that would be incriminating. I do remember thinking though, "If that's what's up on the pedestal, I'm staying well away from it." So, anyone else out there have any funny/traumatizing/embarrassing conversations with your parents that centered around your orientation?
Mom: "I think you should... Maybe, um... Meet people... Like you... I mean, around your age... There's support groups, um... I mean - uhh... Well I love you." This was after telling her I came out to my dad. Any conversatiom about it is awkward just because they have to finally view me as having romantic and sexual feelings so it's a bit embarassing!
When I sang at school with my very terrible voice (yeah, laugh all you want), I came home and locked myself at my room for hours until my mother broke in and forced me to tell what was my problem. Along my confession of what really happened and a version of a homily built especially just for me that day, I confessed that I was bisexual indirectly. Me: "Ma, um, I think I like both girls and boys..." (sobbing) Mother: "Your classmates?" Me: "...Yeah..." (a bit hesitant) Mother: *long pause* "Well... just go with whatever you want. If you'll be happy with that, then go." After then, I never confronted any other problems of mine with her. I cried after our prom because of a gender issue and been crying the next few days but still, I didn't told her anything until she completely forgot it. Quite sad... and a bit funny, maybe.
I was coming out to my Gramma, and was getting really nervous. "So, um, Gramma? I gotta tell you something." "Okay Smoo, what is it? You don't have a boyfriend do you?" "Er, no, not really. No?" "You do! YOU'RE JUST A BABY!" "It's not a boyfriend." "Oh. Good. Well, okay, what's up?" "It's not a boy-friend." "I got that, now what's wrong?" "Gramma, listen closely. Not. A. Boy. Friend." "OKAY, you don't have a boyfr-" "Not a BOY friend! Not a BOY." "...... YOU'RE GAY?!" And later: "Have you kissed her yet?" "What?! Why would you ask that?!" "Did she turn you down?" "... yes." "Well you probably scared her! Slow down a bit!" "How are we on this subject?!" She teases me all the time about it, but it's the fun but extremely embarrassing kind of "AAWW, my little Smoo is so cute with her girlfriend!" and giving advice kinda Gramma stuff. I love her so much lol.
I'm not out yet, so embarrassing moments attack me from time to time.... At new year dinner: Grandma: " Geryon is so quiet today..." Uncle: "what's he doing texting on the phone?" nudges me "texting your girlfriend?" me: No! *annoyed* Grandma: Aww it fine if it's a girl you know... Uncle: Let me see if i can help you with the messaging Me: *pokerface* NO ------------------------- Mum: "I really wish you wouldn't lounge about in the house all day long" me: *silent* Mum: "Get out of the house and get a girlfriend, really" me: *annoyed silence* Mum: "It's fine which girl you date, tell me who do you like? that cute girl you went to prom with?" me: *gets up and leaves the room* Well, in retrospect theey are more annoying than embarrassing, but still i wish they would stop
With my sister, who knows I'm bi. We were sitting in my room, neither of us knowing what to say. Sis: So... Me: Yeah... Sis: You still have a crush on K? Me: Not really... Sis: Found a new chicky yet? Me: *blank stare* Sis: I get it *leaves* It was so awkward.
Me and dad...he still doesn't completely believe that I'm gay.. Dad: "Well you won't know unless you try girls!!" Me: "Tell you what: I'll try girls if you try guys" Dad: ".........I'm not done tryin' girls yet"
some of these are quite hilirious!!My friends are constantly trying to bring it up but its still just so awkward to talk about
This thread made my day Too bad I don't have anything to share since I'm not out with my family yet. :tears: Come on EC, there's bound to be more! Me want more!:tantrum:
well i think the most awkward one i had with my family was after a show at my universities theatre. I don't know why but my family has this idea that i run a harem and every girl that even thinks my name has the hots for me, and this is how the awkward conversation starts. girl #1 waves at me bro: who's that? me: thats m shes our asm mom: ooohhh the asm? shes pretty. me: yeah m and c (girl #2) do a great job of stage managing this show together. sis: oohh c is she cute? me: (annoyed at this point) what? she has a boyfriend! sis: uh-huh. girl #3 (who my entire family ,aside from my bro apparently, knows) walks by. bro: who's that? me: that's e. you should know e she went to high school with me and [sis]. bro: she's hot me: blank stare luckily the stare was funny to my brother because they started making fun of that and I was able to get them to go eat rather than stay in the lobby any longer.
The most awkward was when my sister told me she was gay. This was the worst kept secret in town. The awkward part was I was with my wife so I couldn't tell her that I was leaning the same way.
Mine happened last night with a really close friend while drunkingly walking home from town. I asked her if i was a real fem and flamboyant gay, she said no not really. I told her if i became to feminine and flamboyant she had to punch me in the ovaries. Then she said I will hunt you down whereever you are probably los angles, dress up like Mr T, give you a snikers bar, punch you in the ovaries and tell you to man up crazy fool! It wasnt embarrasing at all but just so funny
after takeing a colon cleanse i joked about seeing blood in the toilet and my mom said nothings wrong with my colon cleanse it proably has something to do with the things you do with guys......-_-
