im 21 and only slept with woman because i just came out. Iv heard horror storys like you need to wear a butt plug if you do it to much, i kinda dont want that.
Anal sex, receiving or giving, can be a very pleasure experience if done right. EC has a really great article about it that goes into more detail. Its hard to talk about every single detail, but the main things to keep in mind are: Lube Allow yourself to relax Condoms! Foreplay is key! If you don't prep for it then it can be painful If it hurts, STOP Talk to your partner Lube! The main questions are always about bottoming. The main this is no, its not supposed to hurt. If the person who is topping knows what he is doing and you are using enough lube then it shouldn't be painful at all. If it is, then stop and try again after prepping a bit more. I personally wouldn't suggest trying anal sex until you find someone who you can truly trust just because it can be much more pleasurable that way. At least in my personal experience, I didn't enjoy anal until I met my recent boyfriend. Every time before then wasn't all too great at all. I REALLY enjoy it now, though. Last thing, keep yourself healthy! If you think you are ready to have sex, then you better be ready to be responsible about your health. Get tested (most health clinics do it for free), ALWAYS wear protection, and choose who you sleep wisely. That is most certainly a myth. If you have too much sex you won't go loose and be unable to control your bowel movements. Think about it. Nothing going up the butt is bigger than what comes out. A bit graphic, but you get the picture.
I have dreamed and fantasized about being on the receptive end for a long time but have not been in the position to act. I was always a bit worried about some of the myths. Thanks for the thread and especially for the linked article.
There's a lot of stuff between being a virgin and anal sex. Like kissing. Like making out. Like holding hands. Like cuddling. Like exploring another person's body. For young guys, anal sex isn't always a lot of fun. For one reason, their partners are usually inexperienced and don't know what to do. And the first few tries at putting the round peg and the round hole can be pretty frustrating for everyone. When it's great, it's great. But my suggestion is to take your time, find the right person and make sure you're both ready for this step. In the meantime, indulge in all the fantasies about it that you want. A butt plug is just a tapered sex toy. It's used for the same reasons that most dildos and sex toys are used- for pleasure. It's not used to "plug" a loose ass, it's used actually to loosen up a tight ass. It's only called a "plug" because it has a tapered shape on the bottom and top. The taper at the bottom has a base that allows it to stay in so that it doesn't slip out like a regular dildo (or worse, slide all the way in). Here's the general idea of the shape (this is a traffic cone, not a butt plug since we don't allow sexual images at EC).
I would echo this resoundingly. I find that, without the right foreplay, it always stinks. I mean, seriously, it sucks. I would also say, you know you're in the right mood when you get that sense of "being in a steam bath." That's MY indicator, anyway. And this is a hard thing to do without breaking the all-important mood. The advisable thing is to avoid getting into a habit of silence. Also, with larger members, expect a shock of "owie" when you are being stretched at first. It's kind of like a bee sting. After that first shock and being given a chance to relax, it SHOULD be virtually painless, even he IS hung like a horse. Finally, remember to exercise good body posture. You have something large and stiff in there, and it's important to keep your body aligned in such a manner as to make the experience comfortable. As you can imagine, arranging all of this and relaying all of this information DOES all require some exchange between the partners, so, again, talking is good. Talking is ALWAYS good.
Inspired by KaraBulut's post, I now have placed the following T-shirts for sale in the EC shop. Joking aside, the information above is correct. Anal sex is generally something to work up to. And when it's time, it's best to go into it with as much information and knowledge as possible. Does talking about it "spoil the mood"? Perhaps. But nowhere near as much as a clod trying to shove his dick in you without knowing what the hell he's doing. Lex
Oh I'm glad this thread was created. I think I'll try to hold on onto my butt virginity for a little longer and not jump into anything too quickly .