I finally was able to go! Or at least have someone that would go with me. I might actually go alone now. I had so much fun, more then I've had in a long time. I went with a couple friends, both girls. Even ran into someone from high school. I must say it was very odd being touched so much, can't say I complained but it was stranger. There's no point in this thread, just wanted to share!
I just recently discovered that there is a gay club here in my Southern town! and a lesbian one as well!!! Now I've just got to get up my courage to go! Tell us about what it was like!
yay! i went to my first gay club last weekend and had a great time. way more fun than just hanging out at a bar or even a regular club.
It was, I don't know why I never went alone. People are friendly. I am shy to begin with so I wasn't going to try meeting people why dancing, at least at first, so I met a few people out smoking and at the bar and what not. I loved it. I haven't gone to many clubs anyway. Lots of touching, but nothing too bad. One guy creeped me out staring. And another guy damn near attacked me. He started dancing really close and asked if I was gay, which I thought by the way I reacted that it was fairly clear. But his hands went everywhere and I had to push him off some, and then I was saved by my friend. Totally worth it. I drank more then I should have, which I don't reccommend. I can handle myself well enough, but the drunker I was the more attention I got. It did make me more comfortable though. I did go the last hour shirtless too, lol. That didn't help.
What have been some of your guy's first experience to a gay club/bar? I'd like to go to more of a bar next time, something that's a little less intense. Axis, the club I went to was very much a club. Though I did absolutely love dancing, especially since there were so many gay and lesbians there. lol
Over a month ago my friend and I went to a bar together to see what it was like, since neither of us had gone to a gay bar before. The one we checked out was a cowboy bar with people line dancing and a mixture of country and dance music. It was fun and definitely a unique experience. We acted like we were a couple so no one would hit on us though. A week after that I went solo to a gay sports bar where a guy started hitting on me and later on we went over to the gay cowboy bar. I shouldn't have drank as much to begin with, but I was nervous as fuck when I was just hanging out checking things out at the sports bar. I slowed down my drinking and started just having water later on since I knew I had to drive home, but luckily my buzz wore off before I had to drive anywhere. I discovered that trying to hook up at a bar is not the thing for me though. The guy I met was enamored with me, but I wasn't that aroused at all and my nervousness made my gag reflex act up bad while he was tonguing me. God damn that was embarrassing! Even though my anxiety (on top of depression I was going through at the time) probably didn't make it possible for me to successfully meet/hook up with someone, I don't think I can be that into someone that I've only been around for a few hours. At least not to the point where I would lose my virginity right away with them. Next I think I'll have to try online dating or maybe joining some sort of LGBT club (if those even fucking exist around here?). Or I'll just miserably wait until I meet someone going about other things in my life. I wouldn't mind going to hang out at one of those bars again, but I think I'll only do it when I have a friend to go with me so I'll have a lesser chance of getting hit on. I don't think going to a club would be any better, since I'm guessing even more promiscuous types go to those places and I personally can't stand pop/disco/techno music. I think it will probably still be a long while before I meet someone that I actually care about that's available to date (that isn't one of my ambiguously "straight" friends that I crush on!). Being a single gay virgin coming out later in life really fucking sucks!:bang:
the atmosphere was so stress-free and upbeat, though maybe that's because i felt more comfortable about guys not trying to pick me up. sadly, gay clubs are not without drama: my friends and i were outside for a few minutes and two guys were having some sort of fight, and the F word was used. we were like really? the F word at a gay club? do you know where you are? but at a regular club i'd see/hear like 8 fights, so it's still a way more positive environment.
I know what you mean about coming out a little late and having no experience. It's coming though, and I am slowly feeling more and more comfortable as a gay man. Going to this club though helped me out a lot too. I just felt more comfortable being so open and I got to see some variety in people. I'm surprised there was a fight at all, I didn't see anything like that, but that doesn't mean it doesn't happen. There's stupid gay guys too. I awesome you mean fag Amelia? I know gay guys who use it, I don't think someone straight would have the balls to alone. There were some straight guys there, but nobody hit on my girls. It was all on me for a change. It was nice not having to play the groups boyfriend with them. I'm a fairly reserved and quiet person, very mellow. But it was nice to let it out there. It was a blast, and all I had to do was dodge and put off the people trying to pick me up and then just leave at the end.
yeah. as much as fighting sucks it proves that people are people no matter what their sexuality is. maybe it was a fight about a very personal issue, i really don't know.
My first time visiting a gay bar was awful at the moment itself, and yet, these days, I look back on it rather fondly. I was dragged along by a gay friend of mine, who decided that I needed to get out more, and that "no" wasn't an answer he was prepared to take. So on that night, he took m to a gay bar, as a prelude to going to a gay club. He was rather well-prepared too: took a few of his other gay friends, and even a few straight friends along for the ride. The gay bar itself was, as you might expect, filled with gay people. The gay ones (not including me) had been there often enough, so they fit right in with the patrons. We took a table in a corner, and got some drinks. The rest of the time, the gay ones socialised with the patrons, the straight ones had a blast flirting with the patrons (honestly, once they got over the awkwardness, they seemed to like the attention), and I... crawled into the darkest corner and spent the time looking at the floor and trying not to look gay. This, incidentally, succesfully warded off the locals. Or if any of them made a pass at me, I was too busy inspecting my shoes. The party afterwards was slightly less shell-shocking. I still stuck to the corners, I danced mostly by myself or with the straight people (none of which seemed too much at ease), and I spent liberal amounts of time standing against the wall, sipping a drink. Again, I didn't make any eye-contact with other people, and if anyone did show interest, I was probably too busy hyperventilating to notice. And yet... even if the above sounds horrible: I do still think I had a total blast. The evening itself was stressful, but it was really the first time I noticed just how many gay people there were, and how they didn't seem to fit any stereotype. For every obvious gay one, there was one or more guys who looked like I could pass them in the street and never have a clue. Even if I segregated myself, it felt like I fit in. Somewhat like home, I guess. The other times I went were variations on the same theme, basically: I was always dragged along, and spent the time against the wall or in a corner, as invisible as possible, and not really interacting with people. But I do like the feeling of "fitting in" that I get at those places. Still don't feel entirely confident enough to go by myself, though (then again, I don't go to straight venues by myself either). But we'll see what happens when my friends decide to drag me along next time
Congrats! I went to my first gay club about a month ago. It was interesting but still fun. I went with two of my best friends and we only danced with each other. I'd go back again, but I'd prefer a gay bar with less dancing, where you can talk over some drinks. I'm much more a bar than club kind of person.
Heh, the first club I ever went to, they were having an underwear party that night. Let's say, if you love physical attention, it's nice being surrounded by nearly naked hunks who are interested in petting and rubbing literally every single inch of your body, and I think that I could have ended up in a freaky hentai bukkake scene if I'd stayed long enough. It was great. Anyway, as nice as the club scene is, I do think that an established relationship is better. Just a personal opinion.
Too sleazy for me but I can understand how it could be fun, gays are too good at finding me in straight bars anyways. I think the majority of straight clubs are gross too though.
I've been to a gay bar, but not a club yet. First time I went was on Halloween with a friend and his boyfriend. I got druuunk and mostly stood outside with the outside crowd ause I don't dance. Met a few guys, none of which I found attractive, and also met a very hot trans guy. Ended up staying the night at my friends place and paying for the cab cause they were awesome enough to bring me to my first gay bar experience and protect me from the bears....I swear I'm honey to bears lol
i went to my first gay club with my cus it was weird because i wanted to dance and have fun but im still in the Big C so i had to act like the nerves straight guy but a few guys walk up to me and complainted me on what i was wearing it ment the world to me but had too keep quite sad really but it was the time of my life
I almost did a few days ago! That was because my STRAIGHT friends wanted to go there because it's cheap and open late. xD
My experience of LGBT clubs... I managed to hook up with what must have been the only straight guy in the club. :/ Also, from various encounters with people in clubs, I conclude: Clubs are not the way to go if you are seeking a relationship. Gosh, I make it sound really horrible don't I? Actually I really enjoy gay clubs. They play damn awesome music for one thing (Lady Gaga is a common one ). One thing I will say, though, is that if you go out with my university's LGBT society, they will be ALL. OVER. EACH. OTHER. Which I personally find a bit awkward, but hey, whatever suits them.
