The world's most irritating argument for gay people is back

ARGRGRRGRGR!!!

I just had an argument over the internet with one of my close friends about how people become gay, after discovering that he believes it's a choice!
Yes that's right, the most irritating argument ever, 'you chose to be gay'.

We argue quite a lot to be honest, but usually it's about silly little things and we argue in just a fun way, but tonight he seriously annoyed me, and what was worse was he just doesn't understand WHY he annoyed me.
Anyway, here's the conversation.

Me: - and then people who just think it's a choice, which frankly is offensive

Him: I think its a choice

Me: Really??

Him: Yeah I guess so

Me: Why the hell would I choose to be gay? Why would anyone?

Him: It's like if I wanted to be gay now then I could. It's my choice.

Me: Erm, explain to me how you'd stop finding women sexually attractive and instead find men attractive

Him: At the end of the day that what it comes down to, your atracted to men and not women, so u've made that decsion that u want it that way

Me: No I havent, at all! If I had the choice, I'd choose to be straight. When I see naked women on TV, I just don't find them sexually attractive at all, there's nothing I can do about that, but I do find men attractive. I didn't choose this at all, this is just how I grew up, like you grew straight. Did you choose to like women? No you didn't, you just grew up liking them

Him: Yeah I still chose it though

Me: What? How did you choose it at any point? When exactly during growing up did you say to yourself 'I'm going to like women'

Him: I said it loads of times lol, and i still think the choice was mine as it still is

Me: You're telling me if you wanted you could just start finding men physically attractive? I'm sorry dude but I think that's bollox. I'm telling you right now that if I could choose to like women instead of men then I would, but I can't control my sexual desires, I just like who I like

Him: i probably like guys just as much as you, well not quite as much, but i usually get on loads better with guys than gals, but then again i wudn't want a gf that acted like a guy so i guess u cant win

Me: I'm not talking about getting on with them, I'm talking about wanting to f**k them

Him: i no, but i dont like guys i made that choice

Me: like when you look at a naked girl and naked guy together, you're saying you could just decide which one you wanted to find attractive

Him: suppose

Me: How?????

Him: but it wud be the girl and i'd be tellin the guy to cover up

Me: I don't understand how you think it's a choice at all...

Him: summat else we have to disagree on a guess

Me: except this time this really does piss me off. Why would anyone choose to be gay if there's a choice involved??? No one would

Him: ok, i aint havin a go dude

Me: I know you aint having a go, sorry dude, it just really really annoys me when people say I chose to be gay like I actually WANTED to be gay it just really annoys me

Him: Ok.

(long silence)

Him: well seen as how i pissed u off, i'll head off now. have a gud en tomo whatever your doin. l8r

Me: I just wanted you to understand why it made me so pissed. I didn't mean to have a go at you

Him: ok man, night

 

Haha, I thought that myself briefly during the argument, but I've known this guy for about 2 years and there's just no way... He accepts that I'm gay, but he's a little disgusted if I mention anything about having sex with other guys around him.

Usually in cases like this I'd just forget about it and not let it bother me, but the problem is he's a really close friend, which means I see him quite a lot and I can't just let this go, everytime I see him or think about him all I'll be able to think about is this argument.

I don't want this to ruin our friendship, but I can't just accept that this is what he thinks and let it go, it annoys me too much to know he feels that way!

I think what waitingsucks said might the most accurate description of how he feels, 'homosexuality is choosing to have sex with another guy even though sexual attraction isn't involved'.

But dear god, it would be much better if he turned out to be Bi, lol

 

Well we're supposed to be going out next week for drinks because I'm leaving the country for a year on the 15th, so I'll be sure to let him know hehe

Which is another thing, I don't want to leave the country for a year on bad terms with him, because I think that would basically spell the end of our friendship.

I mean I know I could easily reconcile with him if I wanted to, but I just really want him to understand my perspective and accept it! I know that sounds really really stubborn and pathetic but god he annoyed me last night, I'm drinking tea by the pot load to calm my anger lol