I met this girl couple of days ago. She's so charming and sweet. But I live in a society that doesnt really have any open lesbians. How do you know if someone's gay?
This is a good question I would like to get answered myself.. Sometimes I get a feeling, that the other woman could be probably gay or bi but I'm never 100% sure about it... It looks like I misinterpret some women sometimes but whatever... I'm not really sure what the answer could be...You could ask them of course or try to talk about gay topics or something like that. Or just try to look at their behaviour etc. but especially women can be misinterpreted...
Asking can be a bit tricky, inappropriate or even bold but if you don't really know them I would just ask them. If it would be one of my friends I wouldn't ask but wait until they say something themselves
If you don't want to outright ask them if they are gay, tell them you are gay (or bisexual, or whatever). People are much more willing to come out to someone who they know is also queer.
I can't really say Im gay, you know. I live in a little muslim country, we dont say it, we can only make this silent "I know you're gay - Im also gay" contact. Never seen her among gay girls, never heard of her in our little underground gay world. So, it makes it a little trickier.
This^ If you act trustworthy enough, open-minded enough, she will come out to you, provided that she is gay. If that's how you want it to go-- her telling you first. But even telling her first might prompt her into feeling trusted enough to tell you... Once again, IF she is
You ask them. Trying to judge based on how they "act" isn't very accurate (for example, I know a straight guy who acts very camp, but he's straight). Trust me, I know from experience.
I'd go with asking...there are tactful ways to ask, of course. "Do you have a boyfriend?" "Yes." (damn.) "Do you have a boyfriend?" "No." (maybe!) "Oh. [lightheartedly] Do you have a girlfriend?" "Ew, no!" (back off.) "Oh. [lightheartedly] Do you have a girlfriend?" "Haha, no, but there is this one girl/I just broke up with my girlfriend a while ago/yes, do you?" (GAY.) You'd probably get your answer this way.
