Do people perceive your orientation correctly?

no xD I had one girl say "you're not gay, you don't seem gay!!". which sucks, I wish I could be gayer so that other gay guys would know I was when seeing me But alas, I am a straight-acting gay person xD

 

everyone I know who I've told didn't expect it except for family members

 

I'm very vocal and open about my sexuality, so people aren't exactly surprised these days when they find out. Back when I wasn't so eager to share it with the world, though, exactly one person figured it out before I told him (and he has a super-human ability for reading people, so he almost doesn't count). Even since I started wearing rainbow paraphernalia on my book bag, talking about it openly on Facebook, wearing shirts about it, and all sorts of other jazz, the memo hasn't quite reached everyone, and I've still caught some people off-guard with the news. And never have I ever gotten an "I knew it!" or "I kinda suspected," reaction. They are always, "I never would have guessed."

It always intrigued me how people say, "I never would have guessed," or "I never suspected," as if that's a compliment, as if I've been trying to keep it on the down-low (hah!) and they're congratulating me on a job well done. Or like being non-obvious is a desirable trait. Maybe I could see that being the case in a homophobic area, but I live in Massachusetts. Come on now...

 

I've received responses from both sides. There have been people who were completely shocked and to quote my friend "mind fucked" that I wasn't straight. On the other hand, some people said that it was obvious that I wasn't...so I don't really know lol.

 

Most people think I'm straight and shy.
The second part being true.
I have one friend who had a tiny, minuscule suspicion, but that's it.

 

I'm not out to many people so I can't answer too accurately, but it seems like they had some suspicions but didn't really know. I think part of that reason is that I'm bisexual and fit some lesbian stereotypes (ok, alot...lol), but maybe I seem straight sometimes too? I don't know. I confuse people...:lol:

 

most people consider the fact that I grew a bit of a beard on my chin as me not being gay xD

 

This is a tough question for me to answer, as I have told absolutely no one that I am bisexual.

But I am guessing that people would be absolutely shocked if/when I do tell them.

 

some do, some don't. i think some people are just more perceptive than others.

 

Well, I'm pretty open. I just basically function each day on the assumption that everyone knows I'm gay. I don't need to hint. I don't need to wear anything that says it or has rainbows (even though I do own some of that stuff). I just do whatever I do and say whatever I say. And people catch on or they suspect and ask. So it's difficult to tell if people would guess I'm gay if they didn't talk to me and just saw me somewhere.

Most people operate on the assumption that everyone around them is straight. You have to visibly break norms to make a blip on what most people call 'gaydar' (aka stereotype-ometer).

So, some figure it out right away without me saying anything. And others catch on eventually.

 

Well, one of my friends (who I haven't come out to yet) said to me on the bus a few days ago that I was 'obviously 100% straight'. The only person who I have come out to so far, even though I came out straight after I guessed she was bi, thought it was a joke at first, lol.

I guess people really don't know with me. However, I have been dropping a lot of hints recently, so maybe some of them suspect. I can't tell.

 

My parents had an idea, but other than that, no one had even thought to guess. When I told one of my good friends, he didn't believe me until I brought it up several hours later. Another one of my friends actually had a disagreement with his roommate about it. His roommate was in a group conversation with me where my orientation was brought up, and when he talked about it to my friend, my friend insisted that it must have been a joke.

 

well I'm really open in expressing my emotions to people who are close to me so most of the people I came out to, know it before, but there is a girl on the other hand who has a crush on me )
so it absolutely depends on how close they are

 

As far as I recall, prior to coming out at all, I think maybe one old school friend guessed I was gay and that was way before I ever said anything.

As for everyone else, I think they're usually pretty surprised. Must be my straight gayness. Though nowadays, I think I'm putting in a bit more effort to be open, so to speak, so who knows, in time maybe.

I voted for the third option anyway.

 

I know for a fact that many people question me. People have since elementary school. Within the last month though, I've become more open about it without specifically saying that I'm gay.
Most suspect, but since I haven't told them yet, they're giving me the benefit of the doubt.

 

they never guess.
i could probably make out with a girl in front of someone and they would just think i was kidding or something lol D:

however, when someone gets to know me most have said they can tell. but from no speaking to me/knowing me they cant tell.

 

Through school I often got the gay remarks etc. but for the past few years, I think people perceive me as completely straight. Not sure why. I never join in on conversations about girls, I certainly don't try hide my personality and it's kind of like I'm out, but people just assume that I'm straight.

My parents probably know though, as a child it was a little obvious (very stereotypical), I've changed a lot since then though.

 

The 4 people that I've told so far were completely shocked. They had no inkling whatsoever...I wonder if this is a good or bad thing :S