Lavender Marriage?

Why bother going through that when you can just have a regular marriage in this day and age?

Even if you agree to go about your own lives, you still have to worry about hiding what you're doing and all this other stupid bullshit that marrying a straight wouldn't solve.

 

I think they are a necessary evil, some people need to hide, especially in other countries. If there is no point to it, I don't see why there should be one, but in the end it's a personal decision.

 

I would never do it.

 

At least in the US, the UK and many other advanced countries, this isn't a necessity anymore. Maybe back when being gay could ruin your career yeah, but not now.

Honestly, love who you love. Marry/Civil-Union/Date them. Hopefully it'll be legal and accepted worldwide eventually, whether it be in a hundred years or a thousand.

In my opinion, I find it dumb that even though love and companionship has existed in all forms since the dawn of time, some members of a new race that have been around for a measly 2.5 million years have declared one type wrong and another right.

Not trying to dismiss human achievement. I'm just saying from the point of the grand scheme of things.

 

Only if we loved each other...
Otherwise, no, since gay marriage is legal in Canada and I have every intention of getting married.

 

I only know one couple in a lavender marriage. They're both bisexual and it's an open relationship. They truly love each other and are sexually attracted to one another, but they both recognize each other's need to be with the same sex from time to time.

However, I wouldn't do it. I can't even get it up for a girl, let alone be in a heteronormative relationship:lol:

 

My dream spouse! :eek:

 

I don't think it's an "evil," and people who think it is need to remember that we don't have a moral obligation to be out. We have a moral obligation to be out if we feel safe.

I have no desire to hear about how it's "hiding" or people trying to avail themselves of heterosexual privilege.

All I think is that it underscore the need either for marriage equality or for the state to end all privileges that attach to marriage.

I want a relationship like that so bad.

 

I would do it only if I were in an openly anti gay country. As is, no way

 

Not even. Coming out is a personal benefit exclusively.

I personally stand to lose a lot of money coming out to certain people, but I wouldn't say my safety would be in jeopardy.

 

Indeed the trouble with Lavender Marriages is that it is fine for the folk who do it, but the side effects on subsequent generations ( because often one child is concieved to convince the public) can be terrible.

The concept of a Lavender Marriage is quite old, and does not just belong to Holywood. There are many a British examples going back, and often the Lavenders are more concerned with themselves than their inadvertant victims. And then they cover up.

I have nothing against gay or lesbian relationships, but hiding it is a problem mainly for the offspring or adopted children. And therein lies the conundrum as often such folk are more concerned with their sexuality than their other responsibilities. It should maybe only be a choice for those who want to remain childless and not inflict other's choices on hetrosexual members of the family, which raises the problem of selfishness and deceit.

That is the problem with Lavender Marriages... one deceit leads to another.

 

Lol, god no.

I'm sexually attracted to both, so sexually it could work, but I have zero emotional connection with girls. Guys are for relationships and sex. Girls are just the occasional one night stand.

 

Yup, right after I got electroshock therapy to cure me of the mental illness that is homosexuality[/sarcasm] No, I live in the USA(albeit in a less gay friendly state) so why give up now when marriage equality is within our grasp?

 

I was raised a Jehovah's Witness and I know someone who did this. my sister knows a coupld of people who did this.

Sometimes people are so scared of others reaction of they live in small community (read: cult) where coming out would destroy their lives and they'd lose loved ones. So they get married to act straight.

 

I completely disagree with it, but i have a set view of marriage. I believe that marriage is for two people who love each other and are attracted to each other. That doesn't mean i think its evil mind you, but personally I would NEVER. I don't agree with open marriages either, or polygamy or anything either, but that's other peoples choices to make.

 

I almost ended up in a Lavender marriage my mom was gonna force me to marry some guy , and my aunt was also telling her to just marry me off . I probably would have told my husband off the bat that i'm not having sex with him and I'll only date and have sex with other women . I'm glad my mother never when through with this I remember my mom told some guy friend that she was going to do it and he told he doesn't think it's a good idea because I was too young .

 

My aunt and the father of her oldest child were in a lavender marriage, but it wasn't to conceal the fact that they were both gay/lesbian, it was "for the sake of the baby." Eventually, he was the first one to reveal that he was gay and couldn't be in the marriage anymore, and she eventually came out as well.