So I decided I would go to a gay bar tonight. I met tons of great people and even found someone that was interested in dating. Things went great and we are suppose to meet again tomorrow. Anyway, besides that, there was this kid (I know he was 21 or older to be able to get into the bar) that was enjoying himself and seemed to be with this guy around my age or maybe a little younger, hard to tell. I'm not sure exactly what happened but they began to quarrel a little in my presence. This kid kept asking what it was that he had done to upset this guy. They guy was obnoxious and security noticed the quarrel. After a few mins of this kid pleading with this guy to find out why he was upset with him, the guy pushed the kid really hard. Security stepped in and grabbed the kid by the throat and pulled him out of the crowd and pushed him out the door. I don't know why they treated this kid like they did. I saw the whole thing and the kid did nothing except ask over and over again what he had done to upset this guy.The guy followed him out and I was worried about the kid so I went outside to see what the issue was. The guy yelled at this kid for a few mins and then acted like he was leaving the kid there. I'm not afraid of confrontation at all so after this kid started balling his eyes out I went up to the both of them and told the kid that if he needed a ride home I would gladly take him or pay for a cab and wanted him to know that I wasn't creeping on him. He said thank you and the other guy said that I didn't know what was going on. I told him that it wasn't any of my business about their argument, but he shouldn't get physical with this kid, and if I saw him touch him again that I would gladly return the favor. He left it alone and since security was around them I went back inside to my date. Another guy told me that this kid was a porn star and acted like it wasn't that big of a deal. I told him that I didn't care what this kid did for a living that it didn't mean that another person had the right to cause him harm. The guy just looked at me like I shouldn't care about this kid that way, but I be damned that someone should hurt a kid like this. Was I wrong in telling this guy that he should control himself? I know that it isn't my business to interfere with someone else's relationship, but I was pissed that the security guys grabbed this kid by the throat after this guy pushed him hard. I mean really hard. The kid didn't do anything physical whatsoever. If the security hadn't stepped in I really thought about beating this guy's ass. IDK if I'm right or wrong, but for those of you that are younger in this community, please don't put up with crap like this. No one has the right to harm you physically. I don't care what it is you do for a living or how bad you piss off your boyfriends. There are better people in this world and no one deserves to be treated like that. Anyway, it really bothered me seeing something like this. I kinda just wanted to get it off my chest and tell those of you that are younger that you deserve better. Please don't let anyone abuse you. I don't care if it is your parents, people at your school, boyfriends, girlfriends, whatever....Get rid of these people, please. There are people out there that will help you. Guidance counselors, teachers, Child support services, friends, police, just to name a few. I can't take seeing this kind of stuff. Now I know why I don't go out very often. Add this to this list of reasons why I don't like people in general that much.
Were you wrong to defend the man (21 is not a kid, eventhough he's 10 years younger than you)? No. Physical violence isn't an answer, but for that very same reason you shouldn't get physical with the other guy, unless it's to prevent the first guy from getting harmed. If you're going to push him or anything, things will just escalate. Better try and leave with they younger guy so the situation doesn't get worse. But I agree with you, abuse of any kind is intolerable, we just need to show we're better by not responding in kind.
So, I know I'm a fucked up person when I read this story and think: *sigh* "I miss being a bouncer in college" But seriously, that is messed up but shit happens at bars. Terrible things mostly.
I get what you are saying. I didn't push him even though I wanted to. ---------- Post added 26th May 2012 at 07:53 AM ---------- My experience is limited when it comes to bars so I guess it kind of shocked me a little.
You're amazing! You definately deserve some brownie points. I also hate to see other people being treated like dirt but the fact that you followed the guy outside to make sure he would be ok is admirable <3
