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Dating leads to sex which leads to...nevermind

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  1. Thatoneguy333

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    Would you let someone go all the way with you on a first date?
     
    #1 Thatoneguy333, May 27, 2012
  2. TheGreyMan

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    Absolutely not.
    Regardless of religious beliefs, I believe it certainly should be saved for when you truly love someone, whether a child will come out of it or not.
     
    #2 TheGreyMan, May 27, 2012
  3. Thatoneguy333

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    I'm not saying I would but I was just curious if other people would.
     
    #3 Thatoneguy333, May 27, 2012
  4. Mlpguy88

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    Agreed
    Granted that is not my main priority right now, but I would not have sex with someone unless there is a deep emotional bond first, and that takes alot more than a first date.
     
    #4 Mlpguy88, May 27, 2012
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    In the words of Kelly Clarkson... Well technically Katy Perry, "I do not hook up."

    I seriously will wait months. I need to really deeply trust someone before I take things that far.
     
    #5 Brenny, May 27, 2012
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    No. But I'll do quite a bit of fooling around.
     
    #6 Mogget, May 27, 2012
  7. Thatoneguy333

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    I was just thinking about my friend because he is always saying how he wants to get laid, so now I'm getting your opinion on it.
     
    #7 Thatoneguy333, May 27, 2012
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    Though I am in a committed relationship now, I definitely did go all the way on first dates. :slight_smile: I also had one night stands. I don't see the big deal. :slight_smile:
     
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    This is something that's totally different for everyone.

    Some find it to be a big deal while other's don't, really. I guess you just see it as something to wait on or you don't. There's really no gray area.
     
    #9 TheGreyMan, May 27, 2012
  10. Thatoneguy333

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    Why are you hurt? And personally I wouldn't go all the way I want it to be a good memory not one I regret later on.
     
    #10 Thatoneguy333, May 27, 2012
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    I definitely have good memories of all of them. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
    #11 breakingboxes, May 27, 2012
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    I had sex within three days of knowing a guy. I've not had any luck getting laid again, but I feel like I would wait at least two weeks to a month to have sex with another guy. I think now I want an emotional connection more than a physical one, but if tomorrow I want sex and not a lover, then I'd be more willing to hook up. For me, I think it is all about my day-to-day needs.
     
    #12 Atticus, May 27, 2012
  13. TheGreyMan

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    It's nothing...

    I just thought a guy was leading me on. I confessed my feelings and he's either straight or closeted. Doesn't matter, either way...

    It's just he's the first guy I've ever fallen for and he was kinda perfect and it's been building up for over a month and I just feel like I've been crushed to the floor.
     
    #13 TheGreyMan, May 27, 2012
  14. Thatoneguy333

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    Dang that sucks.
     
    #14 Thatoneguy333, May 27, 2012
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    Personally, I can see both sides of this issue. However, I am a big fan of...not hooking-up. There was a (very short) time in which I didn't care as much, where I...well, I'm not going to get into it (I did NOT have sex though), but now...(this is the first time I'm actually putting this thought into words) I'm saving myself for my wife. :slight_smile:
     
    #15 super confused, May 27, 2012
  16. thedreamwatch

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    For me it depends highly on the situation and the person. To be honest, it's such a personal thing that my opinion isn't going to change any minds, but I don't see the big deal about having sex with someone you like right away.

    I don't need to save myself. I don't need to wait til I'm committed. I don't need to love someone first. (In fact, I don't actually consider it being 'in love' until sex has happened...)

    But that's all just my feelings on the matter. Some people feel differently and that's really okay.
     
    #16 thedreamwatch, May 27, 2012
  17. Thatoneguy333

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    Ya I think situation has a big factor in it.
     
    #17 Thatoneguy333, May 27, 2012
  18. TheGreyMan

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    A bit yeah.

    Hopefully I'll get over him and he'll speak to me again one day.
     
    #18 TheGreyMan, May 27, 2012
  19. Thatoneguy333

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    Everything passes over time just hang in there. My mom is pissing my off though so sorry if the advice sucks
     
    #19 Thatoneguy333, May 27, 2012
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    As of now, I wouldn't have sex with someone on the first date. I've learned that I need to be emotionally attached to the person before I can go all the way.
     
    #20 midwestgirl89, May 27, 2012
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