Is there such a thing as wanting/expecting too much

Nope. Absolutely nothing wrong with wanting those things. Do what makes you happy, and don't let people try to talk you out of it.

You may have a hard time finding someone else who would also be having their first kiss with you, but nothing wrong with you wanting to do any of that with your special someone.

 

i'm sure you will get a boyfriend and no i don't think it is asking to much to want that to be special it seems sweet i want that :icon_wink on a is it asking to much related note (sorry if i am doing this wrong it is my first time posting sorry if i am n the wrong place ) i like this guy in school well love him actually and i told him, i know he is straight and has a girlfriend but i just feel so empty when he is not around and inferior when he is all i want is him to talk to me occasionally and maybe on the odd occasion give me a hug just when i look really down he can tell when i am sad (i know he asks me what is wrong and i say nothing whilst i hold back the tears to run of and cry he says he is there for me but the only thing get upset about is him so even though i would love it he cant' help me and he does not even no why

 

^ Don't be so hard on yourself Quit that negative thinking and look toward the possibilities. I'm sure there will be a guy out there waiting for you!

 

^ You may only be out to 2 people at the moment but its a start. I think you're well on your way to be fully out, it just takes time.

What don't you like about the partying?

 

^ Have you tried it at least? You may surprise yourself

Anyway its not always night life/clubbing to meet people, there is also a chance to meet people at work. Although there will be sometimes when they want to go out to bars and stuff but just go along and try to have fun.

Don't worry about it so much! (*hug*)

 

I get awkward too lol so I know how you feel, but you have only described house parties? Have you tried clubbing and going to bars? I'm sad that you didn't go out much and party during uni because thats where all the fun is! I think it is an experience that all students should try to enjoy.

Yeah not knowing anyone except 1 friend can be really daunting in a party so I'm not surprised you left. Just give it another chance is all

 

You can meet people through other activities--it's likely that there are activity groups for gay people in your area. That is what I would recommend. These would be groups that go hiking, read books, or whatever, really. If you can't find one, you could also start one.

Unless you are looking for one-night stands, bars and clubs are not the best places to meet people, really, anyway.

My recommendation would be to just try to make friends at first.

 

I consider myself a loner too but I always tried my hardest to socialise. I totally understand where you are coming from. During uni, I had like 2 friends in my first year that I would go out clubbing with and then it grew to 3 in my second year with a few others that were not close. It stayed like that in my final year so yeah, I was also quiet, my friends always said I was quiet too. The point is, you need to step out of your comfort zone and force yourself to socialise instead of staying in that shell, blocking people out.

I'm not trying to convince you that you will have a boyfriend because I know that you will

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Bars and clubs may be heavily 'one-night stands' in the US but it is not like that here in the UK. I'm not saying there aren't any people like that in bars and clubs but it certainly is not as bad. You will find that the majority of people just want to have fun and socialise rather than hook-up.

 

Just a question before I give any recommendations; Age?

 

Ah.

Highschool Reunions?