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Closeted relationship not really feeling like a relationship...

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by colorful, Jun 5, 2012.

  1. colorful

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    Anyone else ever had this feeling?

    I have a girlfriend and we go out, but neither of us are really openly gay. We are both out to some, but I just wish that I could tell my friends. Its kind of an awful feeling when you are basically living two lives. -_- I don't know.
     
  2. addie88

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    I'm in a closeted relationship too. I'm openly gay but my girlfriend isn't.. in fact I'm pretty sure she doesn't fully understand her orientation herself. I told a few close friends about her and she told one friend about me, and, idk...I care about her so much that it gets to a point where, yeah, it sucks not to be able to do things like hold her hand in public, but whenever I'm alone with her everything becomes worth it.

    So, I don't know...maybe you could ask her if it'd be alright if you could tell a friend or two, just so you'd have someone to talk to about the relationship when you need advice or whatever. But if it's putting too much of a strain on the relationship, then maybe you could spend some time evaluating what you really want.
     
  3. Harve

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    I kinda like the idea of a closeted relationship, the secretiveness would make it more intimate somehow. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: But I suppose, in practice, it'd be a bit inconvenient and my cause tension if one half of the couple wants the relationship to be 'more public' or whatever.