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What lies did you tell yourself?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by ccdd, Jan 17, 2008.

  1. ccdd

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    I'm curious: if there was a period when you were in the closet to yourself, what lies did you tell yourself to explain away your feelings?

    Some of mine:

    - It's a phase (after more than a decade this wears thin)

    - I just admire them. I don't *want* them, I want to *be* them

    - Everyone feels like this towards their own sex; when I eventually become interested in men, it'll be a qualitively different feeling

    - It's just a "girl crush"
     
  2. Gustav

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    -I'm not homo, because homos are flamboyant, and i am not.
    -I can be a priest to avoid my homosexuality.
     
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    I used this a lot.
     
  4. Latinokid

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    -I secretly like girls, I just don't know it yet.
     
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    "It's just a phase" was a big one...
    "Maybe one day I'll wake up and be attracted to girls"
     
  6. otc877

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    "You can't be gay, NOBODY in the family is"

    "You're just curious"

    "It's a phase"

    Then I started bargaining... :-\
     
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    "I bet that if I stop thinking about boys,these feelings will just go away"
     
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    The phase one. I kept telling myself that one day I will fantasize hard enough about girls, and, BAM, attraction will happen.
     
  9. bvtsjm116

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    "Its a phase, in a few years I'll start liking girls."
    "I'll just live single my whole life and nobody will have to know (I hope this is a lie ^_^)"
     
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    -Just a phase / I'll grow out of it
    -Naaaaawwwwwww I'm not gaaaaayyyyy.....
    -I am attracted to girls... just not sexually... yet.... ?
     
  11. ccdd

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    Oh yeah I forgot - all girls school for a couple of years, so:

    - it's cos I don't know any men (which is also a lie, cos I did, and all my friends found guys to date!)
     
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    My favorite one was:

    "I can become attracted to girls anytime I want, I just feel like looking at hot guys at the moment"

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    "I'm attracted to girls emotionally, and guys sexually, so I can get married and just not have sex that often"

    and then the cliche:

    "If I pray hard enough and go to bible camp enough then I'll be attracted to girls"

    and that's when I learned that half my clergy was openly gay...helped make that one go right away.
     
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    I told myself this i dont know how many times a day!
    I also did the force myself to think i liked girls only to have ever relationship crumble and end in fights.
     
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    LOLOLOLOL my favorite was

    "Im a virgin, once i get laid then everything will be ok and i wont ever think about a guy again."

    problem was i could never bring myself to have sex with a girl... had plenty of opportunities i just couldnt see myself doing that.
     
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    - I'd HATE myself if I were gay.

    Fortunately I managed to accept it rather quickly. :lol:
     
  16. GunStarre

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    I'm not gay. Period.
    I just need to get a girlfriend and this phase will be gone.
     
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    mine was: "It's just a phase. after i get a girl then everything will be fine."

    or: "There is no way I'm gay. Maybe i'm just losing my mind and going psycho."

    the second was the one i told my self most often. i don't know why
     
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    When I was younger, I was convinced that two women couldn't fall in love. If women kissed or anything it was only so straight guys could get off.
    So... "That's disgusting. I'm not a lesbian."
    (Denial, much?)

    And growing up, crushes were "What guy do you like?" so I never thought of my crushes on girls as anything but wanting friendship.
    So... "I'm just a late bloomer. I'll like boys eventually."

    Or since I'm obsessed with people's hair, anytime I'd think a guy's hair was awesome it was "He's so HOT! I can't be a lesbian if I think he's hot."
     
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    "I just haven't met the right girl. Some girl is going to come by and she'll be the BESTEST EVA :grin:!!!"

    "Uhm...That porn could be hetero...I'm only attracted to it becuase of the sexual atompshere"
     
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    BAM! right there! that was my biggest one! ...only, it was more like 'How can I like guys if I like girls?' I blame that ignorince of mine for half of my insanity, becuse I had no idea that a person could be Bisexual! :lol: