I think I might be gay or bi but I'm not sure it really depends on the girl I look at but I often am attracted to guys. How do I know?
First - Welcome to EC. Second - You don't need to know right away. I believe everying sits somewhere on a continuum between 100% straight and 100% gay. Where you fall on that continuum might even change over time. You don't say how old you are, but regardless, there's no set deadline to figure it out. Others I'm sure will have some suggestions. Just hang around here for a while and get comfortable. I'm sure the answer will come to you eventually.
Thanks. I mean I talked to my dad and he was like " I think a person is either gay or straight not both so what should I believe? "
the more you stress about it the less sense it will all make i identify as gay, but i think every 1 in 1000000 girls is hot, but i still dont think id have sex with them.
I'm 15 and will be 16 in May so I mean I can get an erection to a guy quick but it takes longer for girls.
about what your dad said... it definately isnt someone is either gay or straight, black and white. it can be for some people, like me, but not all. ive always known i was gay since a very young age, but it doesnt always work that way for some people. i mean, where would bisexuals identify on something that was either "straight" or "gay". i dont think your sexuality changes really... i just think you need to figure it out. i mean, it has to do with who could you love and spend your life with. but i think you'd have to be sexually attracted to someone to have a lasting, fulfiling, relationship in my opinion. just go with your heart. you have time to figure it out.
it sounds like youre probably gay, in my opinion. can you picture yourself having sex with only one woman and being happy for the rest of your life? or vice versa, with a man? personally, a womans "lady parts" arent something i find visually pleasing. which is one reason i know im gay. sure, i know what a beautiful girl looks like. but i couldnt be happy sleeping with one.
Another question. Are you born gay or not cause when I was a kid I liked girls and now since I've seen a guy I became more intrested in guys. And yes I can picture me having sex with one girl because I've liked one girl for a while.
its certainly not a choice for me, i know i was born gay. maybe you are not completely gay then. you could be bisexual. just do what makes you happy.
I was born gay. . .even though i liked girls when i was little, but when i think about it, i think i actually liked guys back then. i think i only liked girls for that time bc that's what everyone was saying when i was young, "Guys marry girls"
Its not important to figure out your sexuality right now. Just spend time with people who make you happy.
Its difficult for me. My friends often say that I'm gay but because I have a high pitched voice for 15 and people often call me gay and being overweight doesn't help either and know that I think of it I think I am bi but I really don't know.
Give it some time. It may seem confusing to you now, and that is perfectly understandable and normal. There are many people on EC who are sorting through the same issues as you are. You may find some of the posts on EC helpful in sorting out your feelings. There is no need to rush things.
Time tells all. It really does. It took me about a year, and a half to finally reassure myself that I'm Bisexual. x] Time will give you the answers you seek.
You can be straight and have a high-pitched voice. o.o I know many straights with a higher voice than I.
One of my best friends is a trans. guy to girl, and he's a bass in the choir I wouldn't worry about labelling yourself right now, just go with the flow of life!
definately people are not just "gay" or "straight". so don't feel you have to choose one or the other. keep it cool, and remember that whoever you like is fine. it doesn't matter who you are attracted to, so long as your relationships cause happiness and not suffering. who you are generally attracted to may become clearer over time. just experiment, observe your feelings, and go with the flow. and welcome to EC! oh and as for feelings changing... i definately think feelings can change. not consciously, you can't deliberately affect them, but i believe it's fluid and can change. =]