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Olls91 · 21st Jul 2012, 12:15 PM

So here's the thing when i kissed girls I felt it was a little bit forced. When i kissed a guy i felt sooo relaxed and could hug him forages just kissing. So have others here been surprised to find out they like the same sex in this way ?

justinf · 21st Jul 2012, 03:40 PM

Yes! Although kissing girls did not feel forced.. but that's probably because I didn't know any better.
When I kissed a guy, though, it was so passionate yet so easy and relaxed.. That kiss was actually when I realized there was really no way around it, and I was not straight.

AshenAngel · 21st Jul 2012, 03:48 PM

Yep. being kissed by a guy and sharing a kiss with a girl are soo completely different. Being with my girlfriend just has something different- something unique- something only we could have.

caughtbywitness · 21st Jul 2012, 04:18 PM

:L um, so far the straight kiss was softer and nicer, even though I was drunk. but the girl was way more experienced and the guy was, ugh. so maybe it's just that, but i think i'm celibate anyways

Olls91 · 21st Jul 2012, 05:02 PM

Ha ha cool guys , well i won't say forced not the kiss more like the feeling , interesting to see there are similar situations and experiences to mine

. I don't know but i think it is a beautiful thing when you find love in a hopeless place (I love that song ha ha). Take care ladies and gents

x

---------- Post added 22nd Jul 2012 at 01:04 AM ----------

and as for Caughtbywitness , this is me calling kettle balck but try and relax you're only young

. Don't worry though i'm 20 and i'm still up in the air ha ha x

Jeca · 21st Jul 2012, 05:09 PM

Not that it felt forced but i did just do it to fit in, and there was nothing to it. I felt nothing and afterwards i was kinda like erm.. i have just wasted 45 seconds of life kissing this guy, why did i do that? But it's so much more natural with girls.

Mackattack · 21st Jul 2012, 05:11 PM

I agree with you, awkwardlyhers, being kissed by a guy and sharing a kiss with a girl are completely different, when I have a girlfriend, and I kiss her, to me it feels like the most natural thing ever.. It is unique.

After my first kiss with a girl, that's definitely when I realized that I was a lesbian for sure.

Olls91 · 21st Jul 2012, 05:39 PM

lol i'm still a bit in denial about myself saying that 3 great gay kisses were one offs ha ha oh dear. x

---------- Post added 22nd Jul 2012 at 01:45 AM ----------

Jeca , i have had on one occasion this hot drunk blond (well conventionally hot for a girl) come and kiss me in a club once i just thought meh , i was stoked that i got attention but still. Also she went straight on to my best friend after. Such a classy lady ha x

julia · 21st Jul 2012, 05:47 PM

Kissing guys is always so, so awkward for me and I felt absolutely nothing. Kissing girls always feels so natural and just, so lovely.

Olls91 · 21st Jul 2012, 05:50 PM

I mean my first gay kiss was meh , but i was taken by surprise by a kiss form a hot lad at uni in the student union bar. I had told him i thought i was bi (at the time).He got me to dance with him which was fun then he leaned in and kissed me honestly it took my breath away the whole room just span it was ahhh lovely only a one night stand though so didn't get to explore those feeling further

x

---------- Post added 22nd Jul 2012 at 01:52 AM ----------

Furthering that all gay kisses since have just made me feel so relaxed and happy feels so natural but still having trouble accepting things x

Aldrick · 21st Jul 2012, 06:27 PM

I think more than the obvious emotional and sexual attraction it was the difference between kissing a girl and kissing a guy that solidified things in my mind.

My first serious gay kiss, I'll never forget it. It wasn't romantic or anything like that it was just purely sexual and passionate. I initiated the kiss, and my body simply knew what to do. I really didn't have to think about anything. It was amazing.

My first serious straight kiss, I'll never forget that one either. She initiated it and managed to be successful by catching me off-guard. She had made attempts previously to kiss me, but I had always moved away and used the excuse that I wanted to "take things slow." In truth, I wouldn't have even dated her had I not felt pressured into it, and I was fearful that if I didn't people might suspect that I was gay. Anyway, after all my other evasion attempts she managed to finally catch me off-guard. I literally wanted to throw up, I was actually physically repulsed by it.

It was after that kiss that I had to acknowledge to myself that I was indeed 100% gay. She was also the last girl I ever dated, and that was the last date we ever went on.

Olls91 · 21st Jul 2012, 06:39 PM

interesting stories people keep em coming

WillowMaiden · 21st Jul 2012, 08:39 PM

Wouldn't know. No experience with either.

Olls91 · 22nd Jul 2012, 02:33 AM

Awww in time you will

x

22nd Jul 2012, 02:47 AM

I have to admit, my first gay kiss was so amazing. So romantic and caught off guard. It was in public as well so I was totally not ready for it but I took advantage of it! haha. Kissing men feels like a drag for me. It's just different, I'm not sure what it is. It might be because I prefer a woman over a guy but I'm not sure; I just don't feel as comfortable.

Olls91 · 22nd Jul 2012, 03:01 AM

Ha ha cool chick , yer it certainly feels alot less forced emotion wise. Women so far have been lacking something ..

**Maddy** · 22nd Jul 2012, 04:23 AM

I've kissed a few guys, mostly just drunk mucking around, and it's always like "okay, cool, what is the purpose of this?" When I kiss girls, even when that's just mucking around too, it just feels much more natural.

Just Adam · 22nd Jul 2012, 03:10 PM

Kissing in general is awkward. Its not the kiss but when to stop ans how to react after the kiss. You eiter hae to kiss more or your expected to say something lol

flyinhernikes · 22nd Jul 2012, 03:56 PM

reading a few replys im the oddball haha.

back when i was 13-14
i felt nothing when i kissed random guys none of which i was obv interested in
i also felt nothing when i kissed random girls none of which i liked yet i thought i would feel something because that was the sex i am attracted to

but yet when i was about 15 and kissed a girl i liked it was amazing <3

girls have softer lips than boys though and kiss better :P

ameliawesome · 22nd Jul 2012, 06:30 PM

my first kiss was with another girl, though i don't really consider it much of a kiss because i was 16 and still slightly worried about being gay and was worried my parents would come downstairs and also she brought one of our mutual male friends over and i could see him in the other room. it wasn't an ideal romantic environment. then when i decided i wanted to kiss guys i really wanted to feel what i thought i was supposed to feel, but i did not. i had fun just having experiences, and it wasn't necessarily repulsive (except when my face hurt from stubble), but i'll never bother with that again.

21st Jul 2012, 12:15 PM	#1
Olls91 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Posts: 56 Join Date: Jul 2012	Straight versus Gay kiss So here's the thing when i kissed girls I felt it was a little bit forced. When i kissed a guy i felt sooo relaxed and could hug him forages just kissing. So have others here been surprised to find out they like the same sex in this way ?

21st Jul 2012, 03:40 PM	#2
justinf EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Sexual Location: Amsterdam Age: 20 Posts: 1,224 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Straight versus Gay kiss Yes! Although kissing girls did not feel forced.. but that's probably because I didn't know any better. When I kissed a guy, though, it was so passionate yet so easy and relaxed.. That kiss was actually when I realized there was really no way around it, and I was not straight.

21st Jul 2012, 03:48 PM	#3
AshenAngel as queer as a clockwork orange Full Member Gender: Comfortably female, but androgyne-minded Orientation: Somewhere between bi and pansexual Out Status: School/Friends, Some Family & Therapist Location: Monument, Colorado Age: 15 Posts: 950 Join Date: Jun 2012	Re: Straight versus Gay kiss Yep. being kissed by a guy and sharing a kiss with a girl are soo completely different. Being with my girlfriend just has something different- something unique- something only we could have. __________________ "You're perfectly flawed, You're perfectly incomplete. Like cracks in the glass, And faded photographs..." ~Otep <3

21st Jul 2012, 04:18 PM	#4
caughtbywitness Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Idek Out Status: Most people (: Location: Shropshire Posts: 435 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Straight versus Gay kiss :L um, so far the straight kiss was softer and nicer, even though I was drunk. but the girl was way more experienced and the guy was, ugh. so maybe it's just that, but i think i'm celibate anyways

21st Jul 2012, 05:02 PM	#5
Olls91 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Posts: 56 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: Straight versus Gay kiss Ha ha cool guys , well i won't say forced not the kiss more like the feeling , interesting to see there are similar situations and experiences to mine . I don't know but i think it is a beautiful thing when you find love in a hopeless place (I love that song ha ha). Take care ladies and gents x ---------- Post added 22nd Jul 2012 at 01:04 AM ---------- and as for Caughtbywitness , this is me calling kettle balck but try and relax you're only young . Don't worry though i'm 20 and i'm still up in the air ha ha x

21st Jul 2012, 05:09 PM	#6
Jeca EC Addict Full Member Gender: TransMale Orientation: Straight Out Status: I don't hide it Location: North West, UK Posts: 630 Join Date: Mar 2012	Re: Straight versus Gay kiss Not that it felt forced but i did just do it to fit in, and there was nothing to it. I felt nothing and afterwards i was kinda like erm.. i have just wasted 45 seconds of life kissing this guy, why did i do that? But it's so much more natural with girls. __________________ We are not heterosexual, homosexual, nor nonsexual. We are simply sexual. Deal with it.

21st Jul 2012, 05:11 PM	#7
Mackattack Well Known Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: A few people Location: Idaho Age: 24 Posts: 126 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: Straight versus Gay kiss I agree with you, awkwardlyhers, being kissed by a guy and sharing a kiss with a girl are completely different, when I have a girlfriend, and I kiss her, to me it feels like the most natural thing ever.. It is unique. After my first kiss with a girl, that's definitely when I realized that I was a lesbian for sure.

21st Jul 2012, 05:39 PM	#8
Olls91 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Posts: 56 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: Straight versus Gay kiss lol i'm still a bit in denial about myself saying that 3 great gay kisses were one offs ha ha oh dear. x ---------- Post added 22nd Jul 2012 at 01:45 AM ---------- Jeca , i have had on one occasion this hot drunk blond (well conventionally hot for a girl) come and kiss me in a club once i just thought meh , i was stoked that i got attention but still. Also she went straight on to my best friend after. Such a classy lady ha x

21st Jul 2012, 05:47 PM	#9
julia the road is long, we carry on Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Asexual? Bisexual? Lesbian? Out Status: Immediate family Location: Boston, MA Age: 21 Posts: 1,268 Join Date: Apr 2012	Re: Straight versus Gay kiss Kissing guys is always so, so awkward for me and I felt absolutely nothing. Kissing girls always feels so natural and just, so lovely. __________________ I hear the birds on the summer breeze, I drive fast, I am alone in the night. Been tryin' hard not to get into trouble, but I've got a war in my mind.

21st Jul 2012, 05:50 PM	#10
Olls91 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Posts: 56 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: Straight versus Gay kiss I mean my first gay kiss was meh , but i was taken by surprise by a kiss form a hot lad at uni in the student union bar. I had told him i thought i was bi (at the time).He got me to dance with him which was fun then he leaned in and kissed me honestly it took my breath away the whole room just span it was ahhh lovely only a one night stand though so didn't get to explore those feeling further x ---------- Post added 22nd Jul 2012 at 01:52 AM ---------- Furthering that all gay kisses since have just made me feel so relaxed and happy feels so natural but still having trouble accepting things x

21st Jul 2012, 06:27 PM	#11
Aldrick EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Virginia Age: 30 Posts: 829 Join Date: Apr 2012	Re: Straight versus Gay kiss I think more than the obvious emotional and sexual attraction it was the difference between kissing a girl and kissing a guy that solidified things in my mind. My first serious gay kiss, I'll never forget it. It wasn't romantic or anything like that it was just purely sexual and passionate. I initiated the kiss, and my body simply knew what to do. I really didn't have to think about anything. It was amazing. My first serious straight kiss, I'll never forget that one either. She initiated it and managed to be successful by catching me off-guard. She had made attempts previously to kiss me, but I had always moved away and used the excuse that I wanted to "take things slow." In truth, I wouldn't have even dated her had I not felt pressured into it, and I was fearful that if I didn't people might suspect that I was gay. Anyway, after all my other evasion attempts she managed to finally catch me off-guard. I literally wanted to throw up, I was actually physically repulsed by it. It was after that kiss that I had to acknowledge to myself that I was indeed 100% gay. She was also the last girl I ever dated, and that was the last date we ever went on.

21st Jul 2012, 06:39 PM	#12
Olls91 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Posts: 56 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: Straight versus Gay kiss interesting stories people keep em coming

21st Jul 2012, 08:39 PM	#13
WillowMaiden I. drink. your. MILKSHAKE! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: As out as I can be as a person who no one knows.. Location: Detroit, MI Age: 20 Posts: 538 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Straight versus Gay kiss Wouldn't know. No experience with either. __________________ "I have a tender spot in my heart for cripples, bastards, and broken things." ~Tyrion Lannister "I have never been nothing. I am the blood of the dragon." ~ Daenerys Targaryen

22nd Jul 2012, 02:33 AM	#14
Olls91 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Posts: 56 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: Straight versus Gay kiss Awww in time you will x

22nd Jul 2012, 02:47 AM	#15
SydneyChick Guest Posts: n/a Tournaments Won: 15	Re: Straight versus Gay kiss I have to admit, my first gay kiss was so amazing. So romantic and caught off guard. It was in public as well so I was totally not ready for it but I took advantage of it! haha. Kissing men feels like a drag for me. It's just different, I'm not sure what it is. It might be because I prefer a woman over a guy but I'm not sure; I just don't feel as comfortable.

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22nd Jul 2012, 03:01 AM	#16
Olls91 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Posts: 56 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: Straight versus Gay kiss Ha ha cool chick , yer it certainly feels alot less forced emotion wise. Women so far have been lacking something ..

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Maddy Free Hugs EC Admin Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 23 Posts: 8,602 Join Date: Mar 2008 Tournaments Won: 4	Re: Straight versus Gay kiss I've kissed a few guys, mostly just drunk mucking around, and it's always like "okay, cool, what is the purpose of this?" When I kiss girls, even when that's just mucking around too, it just feels much more natural. __________________ how strange it is to be anything at all [Victor] 2:09 pm: and then halloween happened and I was outside in a skirt.

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Just Adam <3 Oscar Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Anyone with an open mind Location: My AV room Age: 24 Posts: 6,082 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: Straight versus Gay kiss Kissing in general is awkward. Its not the kiss but when to stop ans how to react after the kiss. You eiter hae to kiss more or your expected to say something lol __________________ Ninja Kick The Damn Rabbit !

22nd Jul 2012, 03:56 PM	#19
flyinhernikes EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Location: Scotland Age: 21 Posts: 1,346 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Straight versus Gay kiss reading a few replys im the oddball haha. back when i was 13-14 i felt nothing when i kissed random guys none of which i was obv interested in i also felt nothing when i kissed random girls none of which i liked yet i thought i would feel something because that was the sex i am attracted to but yet when i was about 15 and kissed a girl i liked it was amazing <3 girls have softer lips than boys though and kiss better :P __________________ What comes before part b? PART-AYYYYY

22nd Jul 2012, 06:30 PM	#20
ameliawesome Banned Regular Member Gender: bender Orientation: homo Out Status: out is in Location: south jersey shore Age: 26 Posts: 601 Join Date: Mar 2012	Re: Straight versus Gay kiss my first kiss was with another girl, though i don't really consider it much of a kiss because i was 16 and still slightly worried about being gay and was worried my parents would come downstairs and also she brought one of our mutual male friends over and i could see him in the other room. it wasn't an ideal romantic environment. then when i decided i wanted to kiss guys i really wanted to feel what i thought i was supposed to feel, but i did not. i had fun just having experiences, and it wasn't necessarily repulsive (except when my face hurt from stubble), but i'll never bother with that again.