|28th Jul 2012, 02:04 PM||#1|
Gender: Dinosaur.But mostly female.
Orientation: I fall for character and eyes,not genitals :)
Out Status: All but family
Join Date: Jul 2012
a confused bi girl-any bi ladies had experience with mtf transgenders?
At the risk of sounding a bit weird if not freakish,has anyone had this type of experience?
I am quite confused and I feel like I can't tell anyone about it,since my parents are homophobic and my friends had a very hard time accepting my sexuality as it is.
Any help or comments would be appreciated
Thank you very much
|31st Jul 2012, 05:58 AM||#2|
A very proud dad
Gender: Transgender - FtM
Out Status: Out to everyone except for at work
Location: Sherbrooke, QC Canada
Join Date: Mar 2012
Re: a confused bi girl-any bi ladies had experience with mtf transgenders?
I'm a bi transguy who is married to a MTF woman.
A mtf transgender identifies as a female, a mtf transsexual woman, in addition to identifying, intends to transition. In all cases you're dealing with a woman who has a "birth defect" and that's it.
You did good to come on EC to tell about it I just regret you haven't had more answers!
So, about my wife.. what so say, she's my Goddess But about her being transsexual I must admit I have my own difficulties with that. I can't help but feel terrible when I see her being depressive over her body, and when I think about the prospect of everything we're going to go through for her transition. She has to stop smoking, loose weight, go through a whole bunch of medical tests and see doctors... I fear the judgements some because it won't be aimed at me for myself to defend, I don't know if you get what I mean?
But I also know that no matter what I'm going to stay by her side. She deserves to be herself and to be recognized as such.
Tips for beginners: DO NOT talk to her/about her as if she was a boy. Try to completely ignore her male parts at all times, it can help if you see her as a woman (who she is) at all times. Just look through her eyes, beyond the appearances. If you can accept and love who she is she may stay by your side a long time, and then, you're going to see her flourish into the woman she always was inside.
That's a very tough and telling life experience that makes you evolve a whole lot as a human being, I can tell you this. If you're not ready for that you should tell her so, gently and truthfully.
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