hate being single?

[Lovely]

I don't "hate" being single, I just know I felt much happier in experiencing my first romantic relationship (however relatively brief) than I do now.

If only I could have kept living in blissful ignorance!

[J Snow]

I hate being single at the moment because I just got out of a my first serious relationship that lasted over a year and a half. There were a lot of problems with it, but I felt like we stuck through it all as a team and that made us stronger. Now I feel betrayed.

It might sound cliche, but I literally feel like a part of me is missing, and I keep trying to fill that gap with friends and all this other stuff and so far nothing has helped =/

I wouldn't hate it so much if I knew what it were like being in a relationship.

I hate being single, but I don't like having many relationships. I'm not someone who gets into a different relationship every week with everyone I possibly can. I want to have a relationship, but, nobody I know is even a good person. I'm probably going to be single for a while, but I have a lot of love to give, and I feel like, I'm one of those nice people that gets rejected because I'm not an asshole.

[musikk021]

It's not that I hate being single but that I just wish I could experience a romantic relationship. I'm torn between wanting to be alone and wanting to have someone always around. I've had my experience of getting completely attached and being completely in love with someone who didn't love me back, and I just can't stand the pain. It's put me into a depression that I still can't get out of, so I often feel it's best to be alone. That way, no one can hurt me again like that and I can be safe in my own company. On the other hand, I know I can't go my whole life like this because the isolation sucks almost just as much. I just want to know what it feels like to have someone be in love with me for once. To have someone miss me, need me, want me, and completely trust and confide in me, as I wish to do with her. But then again, I feel like I'm not good enough for anyone and I'm too boring. I'll probably be single forever not by choice anyways =(

[prism]

I actually enjoy being single. I think it's because it's an area of my life that I'm not insecure about (I don't do too bad in the dating department). I'm comfortable with my personality and appearance, but I don't like dating for fun. To me it's a waste of time, so I'm just waiting to cross paths with the right person.

I enjoy the freedom. I'm young, I have the rest of my life to date and get married, so why tie myself to someone now? To clarify, depending on how much I've had to drink, I'm not the type to hook up. I'd rather be able to go out with my friends whenever I want.

[DrummerGirl]

I don't like being single. It's not like it's completely horrible to not be in a relationship. Some days it's nice to hit on random strangers and not feel bad about it. However, I'm kind of at a place where I want a girl to hold hands with and cuddle with and kiss (and do a little more than kiss, if you know what I mean). I'm a little bit of a romantic too and I end up just being really sweet to my friends and randomly buying them presents because I don't have a girlfriend to do that for.

[AspieXLDS]

Because of my autism, I sort of am used to being alone, used to not being someone who others care about. My mother, I believe I've mentioned, is on Hospice and my father is focusing his attention on her. Besides, he is a strong anti-LGBT member of the LDS (Mormon) Church and our relationship is already strained (though he claims otherwise) by my decision to leave. Being in an area highly-populated by LDS people, I get to see daily wedding announcements for early-20somethings, and I feel the ache in the heart for a companion, even if I'm currently uncomfortable with the idea of sex (thanks to my father).

My greatest dream is to find a man or woman who can accept me for all my little quirks, and be willing to adopt kids as I was adopted; but instead of showing them an uncaring front or being more concerned about ourselves, giving them everything parents should and giving them an open-minded view of the world rather than let them suffer the horrid nature of the foster care system or abusive adopted families. I was a bit lucky, since I was adopted within my own family.

Whenever I'm in one of those states of mind where I focus solely on the fact that I'm 26, sexually compromised, and surrounded by people who think I'm an aberration (though I haven't come out completely yet due to the need to find a place of safety), well, I find myself unable to even watch television shows or films where the relationships between characters is a key element.

I hope to one day find someone, whether its in Utah (where I live now) or elsewhere in the U.S. Guess in a way, I am afraid of being alone, even if I've enjoyed my solitude for the most part the past few years....

[vyvance]

I don't mind being single. Romantic relationships require a lot of effort, and I'm more focused on finishing my second degree/graduate school.

I really don't have many non-romantic relationships either. Just isn't really something I have any drive to seek out. I'm getting to where I'm pretty social casually, but I just don't have a drive for relationships deeper than acquaintances.

[Loras]

6 months ago I broke up with my ex girlfriend after almost 2 years. Im quite enjoying not being in something I don't want to be in, I enjoy being selfish and hanging out with my friends. Not so distracted from university and at the end of the year when i graduate I can choose were ever I go next I dont have to think about someone else.

But although that sounds great I would like to try a relationship with a guy which might be soon? I just try to see the positives about the situation im in. Personally I don't think im going to meet the person of my dreams for a while so I might as well enjoy the time it takes to meet him or her.

[LSunday]

For a long time, I didn't mind being single, but recently... I hate it. I went through all of high school and never even considered dating anyone I'd actually met.

But, because I'm a morbid type of person, seeing all the breakups and such that happen before heading off to college has made me realize I'm actually really lonely, and now I just want someone to be with.

Figures it would take a mass break-up for me to want to start dating.

[FJ Cruiser]

I wouldn't say I "hate" being single so much as I'm really wanting a change right now. I'm going through a weird stage where I'm getting used to being a social person after an exceedingly long awkward period that was partially caused by closet dwelling. I'm finding out that I don't really know how to be best friends with a straight guy because even though I'm not attracted to any of the guys I'm close friends with, there's a strange instinct in me that says the next step is physical and romantic intimacy. I think I'm incapable of handling a bromance basically.

All that's to say that I'm at a point in my life where I want a best friend and boyfriend in one. I've had a taste of that in the past year, and I was happier then than I'd been in the longest time. It was basically the impetus to me coming out, and I want that kind of happiness and confidence again.

[Gen]

Eh.....I'm not looking for a relationship or anything serious, but it wouldnt hurt to have a cluddle buddy .

But seriously I confortable where I am. I have options, but just none that I want to take at the moment.

[thedreamwatch]

Don't get me wrong, relationships when they're good are REALLY good. I love my girlfriend and wouldn't have my life any other way right now.

But there is something to be said about how much I got done while I was single. If there was something I didn't like about myself, I learned to like it or I fixed it. I got spectacular grades in school. I focused on maintaining a lot of my close friendships. I made sure I had balance in all areas of my life. I made sure that I wanted a relationship with someone not because I didn't want to be alone with myself, but because of wanting to be with the other person specifically.

A lot of that stuff wouldn't have happened and my current relationship would not be possible were it not for that length of time being solo.

[sugarcubeigloo]

I don't mind it. Its actually a relief in some ways, especially since I'm not out to my family yet. I don't think I would want to deal with the stress of feeling guilty about keep someone I love a secret. That being said, would I like a relationship? Yes! Of course. And I really feel like if I do find someone before I come out to everyone, that will be the push I need to completely leave the closet. If I love them, they're not going to be a secret. But for now, I'm OK with it. I'm just enjoying me.

Edited to add: Though, I could use a little less of "when are you going to bring home a girl?" It just reminds me of two things that I'm not doing.

[Tetraquark]

I'm not sure how I feel about being single. I'm very much an introvert, and I prefer to spend my time alone. However, thanks to a combination of my choices and circumstances that are beyond my control, I don't have any friends, and I'm not close to anyone in my family. Needless to say, this gets very lonely. Sometimes. Since it results in people leaving me alone, I usually like this.

On the other hand, many of my happiest moments last year were when I was with my roommate, which is probably part of the reason why I developed a crush on her. She didn't feel the same way about me, but if she had, I would have gladly been her girlfriend ("would have" being key words -- if by some bizarre twist of fate she contacted me tomorrow and asked me out, our friendship ended so messily I don't think I'd accept).

In short, it's complicated.

[Nightmaric]

I have not read everyone's response.

I probably have a different reason for hating my lack of a relationship. Right now as news of my sexuality spreads people think I'm doing it for attention and am just going through a phase.

[thecat06]

I don't mind being single. I have been single for so long now that I forget what it is like to be in a relationship.

Originally Posted by Lovely

I don't "hate" being single, I just know I felt much happier in experiencing my first romantic relationship (however relatively brief) than I do now.

I know the feeling. It was about two weeks, and I didn't even like her that much in all honesty... But I was definitely happier then

[Ace94]

I don't hate it, but I do wish I had someone...