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IllusiveRannoch · 6th Aug 2012, 10:02 AM

well, i just turned 20 today. so yay me. but i don't feel any difference from my last day as a teen yesterday. i dont think i will until i'm out & on my own at last. but it shouldn't be too long since i finally got a job at Target.

. more yay me. speaking of which:

ha, when me mum found out about their gay friendly cards, she went on this funny anti gay rant, something about 'you're not like that' or 'be careful. target is a liberal company'. to which i just let out a muffled laugh & said goodnight.

but what were some of your feelings when you turned 20?

Bobbgooduk · 6th Aug 2012, 10:09 AM

Happy Birthday!

I'm afraid I can't remember 20. I know I went to University

IllusiveRannoch · 6th Aug 2012, 10:14 AM

thanks. another year & i can

& party rock the clubs

(i dont plan on getting drunk)

vyvance · 6th Aug 2012, 10:22 AM

Usually too busy studying for final exams around my birthday to care much about it.

Shevanel · 6th Aug 2012, 10:48 AM

My feelings on turning 20.

"Fuck."

Lovely · 6th Aug 2012, 11:08 AM

"Ah, three tests on my birthday. Just lovely..."

alex2020 · 6th Aug 2012, 11:11 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Shevanel

My feelings on turning 20.

"Fuck."

This, pretty much.

Also, why does every year seem to get worse than the next?

**Lexington** · 6th Aug 2012, 11:16 AM

Probably hunger, horniness, and generic "I can't wait to get back to college" stuff. My birthday always fell during winter break, but after Christmas, so there was this sort of lag when nothing happened.

Lex

Brenny · 6th Aug 2012, 11:17 AM

Well I am a year or so older than most of my friends so they were all 18 and 19 when I turned 20 and I didn't like that much. Technically you aren't a teenager anymore. I think it makes you more "adult" than turning 18 does. Except for me, 20 was no different than 19. I still pass for 18 so I just go with it. As a kid I never wanted to grow up. Still don't.

Romi · 6th Aug 2012, 11:30 AM

When I turned 20 it just felt like another day. I mean, yeah, of course it was a fun day, unlike my 23rd birthday. :\ But anyway...I think because it wasn't one of those milestone years (16, 18, 21), the impact of the actual day wasn't felt as much as it was on the other years. Still..a birthday is something special. At least to most people. It's your day. So I enjoyed it, but the overall affect of turning twenty was that nothing had really changed at all, just the number I wrote down when expressing my age.

I'm pretty sure that's the norm, though. Everyone around here seems to be obligated or at least so tuned in to the customs around here to always ask the birthday person 'How does it feel to be __?" I've noticed that the response is usually the same no matter the person answering or their age. "It just feels like another day." "I don't feel any different." And so on.

FJ Cruiser · 6th Aug 2012, 11:41 AM

I turned 20 just a little over a month ago. I even have a picture on here just a few minutes after midnight of my birthday haha. For me, it felt very strange at first, but now I'm really excited for the next decade of my life.

I remember having a sinking feeling when I turned 13 because I felt really immature, and I felt like I was missing out on all the great things about being a teenager because I had few friends at the time. Puberty was awkward, and I felt like I didn't look old enough. I'm glad to leave my teens behind.

I think I've had a 20-something mindset for years now, and it feels good to actually be one now. I got out of my exceedingly long awkward teenager period, and now I'm accomplishing the things I want to. It's nice to be doing age-appropriate things with confidence.

Flow · 6th Aug 2012, 11:59 AM

I turned 20 a few days ago.. It's such an awkward number. You can't drink legally, and you're no longer a teen. Oh well, we all have to grow up sooner or later. x_x

prism · 6th Aug 2012, 11:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Shevanel

My feelings on turning 20.

"Fuck."

THIS exactly. I keep a journal and that's at it says on my birthday.

On my 20th birthday I went to class, went home, and studied all night for my chemistry final in the morning.

ameliawesome · 6th Aug 2012, 12:25 PM

Not much, I don't even remember what I did haha. But 24 was a big birthday because that's when I truly began to feel like an adult. I realized that everything I'd done up to that age had been done by kid-me. It was definitely a significant feeling.

Zontar · 6th Aug 2012, 12:35 PM

"I'm still a virgin? Everything about my body sucks ass."

That's also been every birthday since 18 or so.

Bree · 6th Aug 2012, 01:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Shevanel

My feelings on turning 20.

"Fuck."

Sums it up. I don't feel like I've accomplished enough yet to be 20 already.

Happy birthday anyways!

Lad123 · 6th Aug 2012, 03:04 PM

Happy Birthday!

Hmm i also didn't feel any different when I turned 20, and that goes the same for 21, 22 and 23 lol. I Agree with BZ4591 about not wanting to grow up, its just not appealing at all...

**BudderMC** · 6th Aug 2012, 03:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by FJ Cruiser

I think I've had a 20-something mindset for years now, and it feels good to actually be one now. I got out of my exceedingly long awkward teenager period, and now I'm accomplishing the things I want to. It's nice to be doing age-appropriate things with confidence.

Definitely this. Teens were rough for social and personal reasons; having to stay back an extra year was just icing on the cake. By the time I got to university, I never wanted to look back. Even when I go and visit my high school now, I go with a smile on my face not because I remember being there, but that I'm happy I'm not :P

Also these are worth a read:

Why Being In Your 20s Is Awesome | Thought Catalog
Why Being In Your 20s Sucks
21 Ways You Should Take Advantage Of Your 20s

Bolin · 6th Aug 2012, 03:23 PM

I wasn't even aware that I had turned 20 until I checked Facebook that day, haha. I really didn't care.

GingerGuy · 6th Aug 2012, 03:35 PM

Haven't turned 20 yet, but I think I can still give you some advice: don't worry about anything, because the next decade is probably going to be the best one of your life! (before things go downhill after 30 lol) The mid-life crisis is still distant in the horizon, so just chill out, work hard and have fun - safely! ;-)

6th Aug 2012, 10:02 AM	#1
IllusiveRannoch ElusivelyIllusive Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: I'm into guys Out Status: work in progress Location: USA Age: 20 Posts: 340 Join Date: Jul 2012	Feelings you had when you turned 20 well, i just turned 20 today. so yay me. but i don't feel any difference from my last day as a teen yesterday. i dont think i will until i'm out & on my own at last. but it shouldn't be too long since i finally got a job at Target. . more yay me. speaking of which: ha, when me mum found out about their gay friendly cards, she went on this funny anti gay rant, something about 'you're not like that' or 'be careful. target is a liberal company'. to which i just let out a muffled laugh & said goodnight. but what were some of your feelings when you turned 20? __________________ Garrus: "You sure you want to play this game Vega?" James: "What’s the matter, Vakarian , you chicken?" Garrus: "I don’t even know what a chicken is – though I’ve heard everything in the galaxy tastes like it."

6th Aug 2012, 10:09 AM	#2
Bobbgooduk Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 54 Posts: 703 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: Feelings you had when you turned 20 Happy Birthday! I'm afraid I can't remember 20. I know I went to University

6th Aug 2012, 10:14 AM	#3
IllusiveRannoch ElusivelyIllusive Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: I'm into guys Out Status: work in progress Location: USA Age: 20 Posts: 340 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: Feelings you had when you turned 20 thanks. another year & i can & party rock the clubs (i dont plan on getting drunk) __________________ Garrus: "You sure you want to play this game Vega?" James: "What’s the matter, Vakarian , you chicken?" Garrus: "I don’t even know what a chicken is – though I’ve heard everything in the galaxy tastes like it."

6th Aug 2012, 10:22 AM	#4
vyvance Ukeme Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family Location: Texas Age: 24 Posts: 1,083 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Feelings you had when you turned 20 Usually too busy studying for final exams around my birthday to care much about it.

6th Aug 2012, 10:48 AM	#5
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Little Neck, NY Age: 22 Posts: 7,766 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Feelings you had when you turned 20 My feelings on turning 20. "Fuck." __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

6th Aug 2012, 11:08 AM	#6
Lovely Insomniac formerly known as Shades Regular Member Gender: Male-ish. Often feel agendered. Orientation: The answer to that depends on your defintion. Out Status: Barring some extd. fam., out to anyone who asks :) Location: Montana or Seattle, dependent on time of year. Age: 21 Posts: 1,555 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Feelings you had when you turned 20 "Ah, three tests on my birthday. Just lovely..."

6th Aug 2012, 11:16 AM	#8
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 43 Posts: 13,959 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Feelings you had when you turned 20 Probably hunger, horniness, and generic "I can't wait to get back to college" stuff. My birthday always fell during winter break, but after Christmas, so there was this sort of lag when nothing happened. Lex

6th Aug 2012, 11:17 AM	#9
Brenny EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Gaining outage. Location: US Age: 22 Posts: 431 Join Date: Apr 2012	Re: Feelings you had when you turned 20 Well I am a year or so older than most of my friends so they were all 18 and 19 when I turned 20 and I didn't like that much. Technically you aren't a teenager anymore. I think it makes you more "adult" than turning 18 does. Except for me, 20 was no different than 19. I still pass for 18 so I just go with it. As a kid I never wanted to grow up. Still don't. __________________

6th Aug 2012, 11:30 AM	#10
Romi Love Full Member Gender: Genderqueer Out Status: Most are aware to some degree. Location: Virginia/NC Age: 25 Posts: 2,027 Join Date: Aug 2012	Re: Feelings you had when you turned 20 When I turned 20 it just felt like another day. I mean, yeah, of course it was a fun day, unlike my 23rd birthday. :\ But anyway...I think because it wasn't one of those milestone years (16, 18, 21), the impact of the actual day wasn't felt as much as it was on the other years. Still..a birthday is something special. At least to most people. It's your day. So I enjoyed it, but the overall affect of turning twenty was that nothing had really changed at all, just the number I wrote down when expressing my age. I'm pretty sure that's the norm, though. Everyone around here seems to be obligated or at least so tuned in to the customs around here to always ask the birthday person 'How does it feel to be __?" I've noticed that the response is usually the same no matter the person answering or their age. "It just feels like another day." "I don't feel any different." And so on. __________________ * * * If you get lost, you can always be found. Just know you’re not alone. Cause I’m going to make this place your home.

6th Aug 2012, 11:41 AM	#11
FJ Cruiser Motivated Slacker Full Member Gender: Guy Orientation: Guys Out Status: That cat's pretty much out of the bag. Location: Deep in the Heart Age: 20 Posts: 1,177 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Feelings you had when you turned 20 I turned 20 just a little over a month ago. I even have a picture on here just a few minutes after midnight of my birthday haha. For me, it felt very strange at first, but now I'm really excited for the next decade of my life. I remember having a sinking feeling when I turned 13 because I felt really immature, and I felt like I was missing out on all the great things about being a teenager because I had few friends at the time. Puberty was awkward, and I felt like I didn't look old enough. I'm glad to leave my teens behind. I think I've had a 20-something mindset for years now, and it feels good to actually be one now. I got out of my exceedingly long awkward teenager period, and now I'm accomplishing the things I want to. It's nice to be doing age-appropriate things with confidence.

6th Aug 2012, 11:59 AM	#12
Flow Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Houston Age: 20 Posts: 165 Join Date: Apr 2012	Re: Feelings you had when you turned 20 I turned 20 a few days ago.. It's such an awkward number. You can't drink legally, and you're no longer a teen. Oh well, we all have to grow up sooner or later. x_x

6th Aug 2012, 12:25 PM	#14
ameliawesome Banned Regular Member Gender: bender Orientation: homo Out Status: out is in Location: south jersey shore Age: 26 Posts: 601 Join Date: Mar 2012	Re: Feelings you had when you turned 20 Not much, I don't even remember what I did haha. But 24 was a big birthday because that's when I truly began to feel like an adult. I realized that everything I'd done up to that age had been done by kid-me. It was definitely a significant feeling.

6th Aug 2012, 12:35 PM	#15
Zontar Neko Boy Full Member Gender: Male Location: Binghampton, NY Posts: 2,081 Join Date: Oct 2010	Re: Feelings you had when you turned 20 "I'm still a virgin? Everything about my body sucks ass." That's also been every birthday since 18 or so. __________________ Get up and open your eyes...Don't ever let yourself ever fall down... Get through it and learn how to fly...I know you'll find a way...today. -Days of the New, "Dirty Road"

6th Aug 2012, 03:04 PM	#17
Lad123 Shine bright like a diamond Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Sister, sister-in-law, cousin, 3 friends Location: England Age: 24 Posts: 669 Join Date: Apr 2012	Re: Feelings you had when you turned 20 Happy Birthday! Hmm i also didn't feel any different when I turned 20, and that goes the same for 21, 22 and 23 lol. I Agree with BZ4591 about not wanting to grow up, its just not appealing at all...

6th Aug 2012, 03:23 PM	#19
Bolin CHESTO!!! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bryce-sexual Out Status: A few people Location: South Carolina Age: 23 Posts: 3,774 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: Feelings you had when you turned 20 I wasn't even aware that I had turned 20 until I checked Facebook that day, haha. I really didn't care. __________________ "I'm talking 'bout real* love." ~Bolin*

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6th Aug 2012, 03:35 PM	#20
GingerGuy EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: I would say the door is half open... Location: Rio de Janeiro, Brazil Posts: 359 Join Date: May 2012	Re: Feelings you had when you turned 20 Haven't turned 20 yet, but I think I can still give you some advice: don't worry about anything, because the next decade is probably going to be the best one of your life! (before things go downhill after 30 lol) The mid-life crisis is still distant in the horizon, so just chill out, work hard and have fun - safely! ;-)