It's been four years since I stopped obsessively crushing on the first guy I ever fell for. But still, to this day, I think of him and what I wish we could have had. Same with guy number two (although it's now been two years for him). Now I'm on to guy number three and trying to get over him, but I don't want to have fleeting feelings for him throughout the rest of our time at university. I don't want to see him at the bars and remember how I shut him out while I was dealing with my PTSD and my parents kicking me out [until I slept with a female prostitute]. Does anyone ever get over the crushes they've had? Because it's annoying.
I don't know if I'd say you ever really get over old crushes, but for me I just stop thinking about them so much. When I crush on people I think about them every day but there comes a time where I stop thinking about them so much. It goes from thinking about them all the time, to thinking about them a few times a day. And then from there I'll think about them less and less. The best way to get over crushes for me is to keep myself busy, if I'm kept busy it's harder to think about them.
I used to have a huge crush on my ex-best friend. For about two years. It took a bit to get over her, but I have. You will eventually, too. (*hug*)
Crushes? Yes. Love is a bit more complicated. There's always something special about your first love. Everyone is different, but personally, I'm not sure if you ever fall out of love with someone. Over time you just realize that you're better off without them.
Well-put prism. Crushes fade away. Love is tough to stamp out though. You keep a bit of that person embedded in your psyche.
I've successfully gotten over my first serious crush. In retrospect, it was definitely with that time-distance-distraction combo that everyone keeps preaching around here: - It's been about 2 years since I've actually seen him (though I've talked with him a couple of times) - We go to different schools altogether and have no reason to bump into each other - I've got another very attractive friend to crush on So, I'd say it happens. Though I don't know if replacing unrequited love with unrequited love is the best solution...
yeah, it's possible. it just takes time. eventually, you'll just accept that your crush on somebody isn't going to go anywhere besides it being a crush and you move on with your life.
In my experience, my past crushes have become people with whom I would never associate myself. So in a lot of ways, I'm sort of glad that I've dodged those bullets. :lol:
I think that you would only truly lose feelings for someone if there was a reason. Something occurred that turned you off of them. Earlier this year there was a guy that was trying to subtly make advances at me. He seemed shy and nice, and eventually started to grow on me. Attractions/feelings started to appear. But then one day I was looking at my friends facebook(I refuse to make one >:C) and I came across his page, which he was apparantly using to compensate for being shy. He later got the idea that being the "rude bad boy" from his internet persona would definitly win me over . Long story short, his thoughts tend leave a bad taste in my mouth........ However, one of my best friends, who I have been head over heels for for years, is still a nice person and wonderful friend. I used to be obsessed with him which has passed now, but there really isnt a reason for me to not be attracted to him. So do feelings lessen, yes. But unless there is a reason I'm not sure why we would "get over" someone we care about.
Well, for me, I've had a few crushes over the past few years. They were pretty big and it took me awhile to get over them, and for awhile if I started to think about them again it kinda got me down. But now, after I've moved on, if I think back about them it's more with a kind of fondness than a sadness. I mean, if one of them came up and asked me out, I'd probably say yeah, but I don't really dwell on them or actively think about them anymore, and I don't get depressed anymore if I do.
I still am not over my crush on a guy, I have moved now and am about 1000 miles away from him now. It got so bad that I used to blink and I would just see his face in my head. I wouldn't even have to have been thinking about him at the time.
I get why not getting over a crush could be annoying, getting in the way of new feelings and such. I have my own method to deal with old crushes though... they just get put in my fantasy box in my head, along with beautiful strangers, porn stars, and so on. They are fantasy material, and to fantasize is very healthy. Though I have it kind of easy too since I can trust very firmly that nobody in the whole world could get between me and my wife!
