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Can gay sex be just as intimate and special as straight sex???

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Gazza123, Aug 14, 2012.

  1. Gazza123

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    I don't really know where am coming from on this one. Guess it's my mind being it's usual curious self

    So

    Can it? Can gay sex but just as good, intimate and special as straight sex?
    Can things like such as oral and anal be intimate and somewhat special?

    I don't really know where to go from this

    Guess I'll see what you guys think. I think it probably to do with the representation of gay sex, its never shown like straight sex is if you understand what I mean

    anyways

    let me know your thoughts
     
  2. malachite

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    yes, but just like straight sex it can be meaningless too
     
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    Bit of a silly question.

    Why would it be any different?
     
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    I have no idea

    My mind is full of silly questions lately lol "wait that sounded weird"
     
  6. Pain

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    Of course. It has the potential to be just as intimate, but you get people who are into casual sex, gay or straight. For some people, sex is the ultimate showing of trust and love, and to others, it's not.
     
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    The intimacy in sex comes from the person and conditions you're doing it under, not the actions themselves.

    Let's talk straight couples for a second. This is why people can have just as intimate oral sex as other couples have intimate vaginal sex. By the same reasoning, any form of homosexual sex can be just as intimate as heterosexual sex.

    Intimacy comes from feelings and emotions and passion, not physical actions (though the former leads to the latter). So unless gay people for some reason don't feel the same feelings straight people do, they can have just as intimate sex if they want.
     
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    Can't get more intimate than having your partner inside you for a change...
     
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    QFT. :eek: :grin:
     
  10. TheEdend

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    Not sure where you got the idea that it was completely different, but yes. It can be everything you want it to be. What it probably wont be, any sex, is as flawless as they show in movies and porn, though. Its going to be a bit awkward, sometimes funny and sometimes clumsy, but it going to be awesome :slight_smile:
     
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    The kind of sex you're describing is an emotional experience more so than a physical one. Of course, the physical aspect of it is important, but being emotionally present and feeling an emotional (and some would say, energetic) connection with the person you're having sex with -- really being present, and allowing yourself to be fully vulnerable -- can make the difference between OK sex, good sex, and really amazing sex.

    It may be more difficult for LGBT people to have really deep, emotional connections, because vulnerability tends to be more difficult for us (and particularly for men), as a result of the numbing we do to get away from the negative and homophobic messages we hear growing up. But for those of us who work on being fully open and vulnerable, sex can be just as amazing with a same-sex partner as for opposite-sex partners.
     
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    I beg to differ. Back when I was young and trying to see if I really liked women(Because I always accepted I liked men) I made various attempts to be interested in straight porn. But I couldnt even stand it, let alone be interested in it. It had nothing to do with visual, it was the fact that is was not intimate and largely faker than gay porn. Some people argue that gay sex is protrayed too rough, but straight sex is widely shown as women screaming at the top of there lungs when a simple breeze blows between there legs.

    By no means am I saying that straight sex is actually like this is reality. It just in that often times it "seems" like gay men are realisticly enjoying it much more. It a "potrayel" way of course.
     
  13. Pain

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    By breeze, he means micropenis :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Yes, gay sex can be very passionate and intimate, especially if it's with someone you love.
     
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    of course it can! sex, whether straight or gay, can be intimate or not...doesn't matter the gender of each person, it depends on the connection you have. if you really care for someone, and that person feels the same, the sex is just going to be that much better. you want to take the time to make them feel good, you want them to feel pleasure when you touch them, you want them to feel beautiful...and imo intimate sex does just that, makes you feel beautiful. you can tell when someone's had sex, if it was intimate or if was just getting fucked...they hold their head higher, and walk with a little pep in their step, because they feel beautiful. they feel loved. and that love was felt through their intimacy with their significant other. there's nothing quite like it imo.

    just like love knows no gender, intimate sex knows no gender. it's an expression of love between two people...it doesn't care if they're the same gender or not
     
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    I hear if you perform gay sex improperly, you catch on fire. It's just that wacky and mysterious of a thing.
     
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    Sexuality doesn't weigh on how intimate or special something is.

    The foundation of your question is illogical. :eusa_danc
     
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    Yes it can. Actually any kind of sex can be intimate, romantic and special. It just depends on you and your partner, how you guys do the thing. Like setting mood with nice music, candles and everything. And by the way, anal sex isn't just like doggy style. There are many, many different positions which help ensuing the intimate romantic sexual intercourse. The book of Kamasutra is just a single publication with different positions. But as previously said, it can be just meaningless sex as well.
     
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    ^Its True :grin:
     
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    Yes, it definitely can. And for me, it really was. Very intimate, very special, and very connected.