Names for less-common sexual orientations?

sometimes I think it is silly that people keep creating names for sexual orientations already named. when you ask a one why they dont call themselves bisexual, but they say it is because they are not bisexual, they are just attracted to people of both sexes, I scratch my head.

For a while I was keeping a list, and there were around 14 different names just for being attracted to both genders, and no difference between the people labeling themselves by them.

 

For lack of better terms I assume they would likely just identify as queer. I must say I've found myself wondering this same thing.

I know for a fact there are some individuals that are at least primarily if not exclusively sexually attracted to MtF transsexuals. I have frequently heard the trans community refer to them as chasers (I myself have had a really bad experience one). Though unfortunately I doubt there is a specific identity, and chaser is really more of a derogatory term.

 

I have thought about this a lot, because I strive to be trans positive and acknowledge trans existence in all of my theorizing. I am conflicted, because it would be nice to have a single word that describes these things, but the problem is that then people would have to know what they mean. And given that there are plenty of people who don't even know what transgender and intersex are, how are they ever going to know what your terms mean? I mean, if you tell them you're pan, they might think you want to fuck trees and dogs.

I like the word queer, because people understand it means not straight, and then if they are interested to know and you're feeling safe, you can explain what you mean by it.

Does that work the other way, or is there a different term for people exclusively attracted to FtM transsexuals?

 

I honestly haven't heard it discussed. I really just don't think there are nearly as many people interested exclusively or primarily in FtM's. That shouldn't honestly come as a big surprise though. If you simply look at the pornography industry, "shemale" porn is pretty popular, but you don't really hear about FtM porn. I actually do know of one FtM porn star and I think they are primarily popular amongst gay males.

Honestly, it may seem like FtM's are getting shafted here, but I'm not sure its a bad thing. "Chasers" get the reputation of treating transgirls simply as sex objects and only being interested in sex. While I can't say this stereotype is true of the entire demographic, it was certainly true of the individual I met, and I don't ever want to talk to them again...

Edit: Actually for the record, I used to have an account on a transgender dating site, and guy I talked to on there seemed rather... creepy...

 

According to Wikipedia, "transfan" is apparently a term used for such individuals. If we're to create a "-philia" term (which is often how one creates a label to describe a fetish), "transphilia" would theoretically describe the attraction to transsexual individuals, but I can't find a significant footprint of the term online.

 

These really elaborate sexuality names really grind on me. Let's stick with the basic three; straight, gay, bi and trans. Those seem to cover the whole spectrum of sexuality and allow others to understand our sexuality. Asexual is also another appropriate term which is understandable.

Okay, the ones that bother me are the ones that have 'romantic' in them etc. I really don't know why anyone else needs to know that detail. It's like some really annoying triple barreled name (John Arthur William-Paul II), lets just stick with John.

This is just my opinion and I understand others have a lot more depth to their sexuality. I really dislike labels, so I like to see them as simple as possible.

 

And that's exactly why people identify as more complex orientations: they feel the 'big three' are thrust on them with no room to breathe.

I have a friend who identifies as androsexual: they're attracted to masculinity (by the cultural definition) regardless of the perosn's gender.

And I'm homosapiosexual: I'm only attracted to guys, but I have a very very hard time being sexually attracted unless I've gotten to know them intellectually - which, lucky for me, fits with my "type" being nerdy and awkward guys - but can also lead to pitfalls because a lot of nerdy and awkward gay guys aren't the most forthcoming with their feelings.

See? Both of those are more multifaceted than the simple label of bi or gay, respectively.

 

I think the semantics police can spend their whole lives trying to figure out clever names for all the different sexual and gender identities and still not cover them all. I had a woman who identified as pansexual berate me for an hour for calling myself bisexual. It's "transphobic" and "promoting the gender binary." How about I identify as bisexual instead of pansexual for my own reasons and I shouldn't have to justify that to anyone? I feel like it's a form of queer-on-queer intolerance. Ridiculous.

I also feel like the "naming game" is a superficial detraction from what really matters, i.e. real LGBT issues like health care, awareness, equal opportunity, etc. We're all on the fringe; the least we can do for ourselves and each other is keep from denying each other the right to self-identification.

 

I think it should be left up to the individual as long as it's logical.
I usually say I'm bisexual, because imo it's virtually the same as pansexual and you'll not find many bisexuals that are only attracted to cisgendered people.
I do self-identify as demi-sexual to though, because it fits, but not to many people know about it so I almost never mind it.

 

if asked I will usually say that am bi/bisexual for the simple reason that most people will understad what that is and saves me explaining biromantic asexual.

although people close to me know my sexuality...