Is this common? (Gay Men)

So I had a full page typed and my iPod deleted it so the just was that most gay guys talk to females because they relate to then ezer plus if a chick finds out your gay they will ask youto go shopping some time while a guy would more then Likely freak out

 

Ya Ik wat you mean even tho I am into the same things most str8 guys are into (video games basketball cars etc.) I still can't talk to guys without worrying and giving short one word answers.

 

Yes I find that it is rather common and a lot easier for us gay guys to befriend and talk to females more. Like you and many others, I'm just really awkward when it comes to talking to guys and I feel a bit intimidated by them.

I've always seen it as being kind of the way heterosexual people are in a very general sense. Typically straight guys and girls have friends of the same sex(which they aren't attracted to and can identify easy with) and find it awkward to talk to the opposite sex. For us as gay men, it can be easy to talk to females since I think we can identify with them a bit on some things and they're typically more open, accepting, and less judgmental than guys. I'm saying all this "in general," of course it's not true for everyone.

 

I've always been rubbish talking to girls tbh, sod all in common with them (aside from the obvious - and being in the closet means that's off the table), have always got on better with the guys. However that is probably something to do with being an IT Geek - at High School our form was biased about 2:1 male:female, and at college on our course of 60 there were ZERO girls, and at uni on the course on 200 there were a grand total of two girls! Since then I've been in an office of about 70% women (where the only people that like football (US: soccer) are the girls) and still find it easier to talk to the lads (although my department is 9:1 in favour of men!) - well until the subject of girls comes up then I'm completely at a loss.

 

I am into typical guy things, but the reason I have a hard time speaking with guys a lot of the time is that I myself feel weird. My sexuality is just always on the top of my mind, so I feel kind of deceptive...a bit of a liar...just not true to myself. Where as with girls, I feel more relaxed. But hanging out with girls just gets boring to me, since I don't really like "girl" activities. (i.e. I f-ing hate shopping lol)

But I have made friends with guys who share common interests (cars...video games...hanging out...etc) but I still find there to be awkward moments sometimes. I have a couple really close guy friends though where I don't have those awkward moments.

 

Until I saw your brackets I was thinking - Siri's a Dude! - And here in the UK he is - the guy who does it has a voice used on lots of stuff including the countrys most listened to radio station (BBC Radio 2) and various sat navs - I wonder if there is something different across the pond with voices on that sort of thing?

 

I rarely talk to women. Nothing in common with any I know, minus one I play Halo with some.

 

I've always thought it was weird that I don't know what to say to girls because it seems like most gay guys find it easier to talk to girls than guys so ya it'd say its common

 

I think the stereotype is that gay guys are supposed to hang out with girls...
I personally have always found it MUCH easier to hang out with guys. We actually have stuff in common. Not that I don't know any women, but really all my close friends have pretty much been guys.

But it really doesn't matter who you find it easier to be with. Just do what makes you happy!

 

Though I'm generally uncomfortable with new people in general, I actually want to say I'm somewhat more awkward around women, especially if they're attractive.

It's strange, because I sense that I could be very comfortable talking with women, but I'm just not accustomed to doing so, on top of the fact I don't want to give the impression I'm interested in one if I'm not [damn you social conditioning...]

 

I've always found it easier to befriend girls than boys.

 

I have trouble talking to everyone. Seriously, I'm the kind of guy that answers questions, not asks them, and I have a nifty knack for making them as short as possible! I know what that feels like!

I do, however, feel more awkward talking to a guy I think looks handsome / someone I have a crush on, but I believe it's natural. I think it's just you, because some people are just like that, having trouble talking to someone, and I think it's common.

Talk to men more often, it'll probably help eventually. People say that if you do something that scares you, then it makes you feel more "stronger" or something like that. Find a guy you think looks really handsome, and just try to talk to him. Maybe it would help a little.

Don't wait for someone to come to you, do the opposite! Go approach other guys and start a conversation. Even if it's as simple as, "Do you want some help?" it'll make you feel better, probably. Anyway, hope this helps some.

 

I've never found it problematic talking to one gender over the other. I find it difficult to talk to people I feel are stand-offish, and maybe I run into more males than females that I get that vibe from. But that's not a good chunk of the people I meet.

Lex