What you like and dislike about being sexual orientation/gender identity

Well, that it's not "normal" but that's also something that I DO like about being gay, is the fact that i'm "different" or "special" in my view. I always knew there was something special about me, and my friends saw it also because there's nothing particularly standing out about me. I just think I give a vibe that i'm a non judgmental, friendly kinda guy. They cherish me and I cherish them. The other thing i don't like is how promiscuous some gay men are. Shit, sometimes I just wanna flirt, it doesn't mean I want to bang you in my car all of a sudden. One other thing I like is that I get to see what straight women see in men, why they even want to be bothered. It's quite an accomplishment to dig through all of that surface and get to the core of a boy.

 

I like that there's less to conform to. Society has the obvious stereotypes, but you're not judged if you don't follow them. Straight guys, however, have a lot to live up to - if they're slightly feminine, society says they're gay, for example.

 

Being Gay
pros: Whenever on a sport team thats all you get to see xD!
Cons: Hard to accept yourself in a religious setting. People dislike you because they think its a choice.

 

Pros:
*I don't care if you're a man, woman, transexual or transgender person. If I like you, it doesn't matter to me what you have or what you consider yourself.
*Sex doesn't take up my life.

Cons:
*People don't know what pansexuality or asexuality is.
*A lot of people don't even believe my sexuality exists.
*Some people just will say that I'm lying.
People assume that I'm just going to cheat on them so they don't want to be in a relationship.
*Etc... (too much to put down)

 

I've had to be pretty introspective and get to know myself on a deeper level than I would have done if I was straight, simply because I've done all this pondering about who I am and whether this is me. I've been able to make a difference to people who are struggling with their sexuality. I've met some amazing people who I'd never have known otherwise.

The negatives would be the social isolation at high school, the fear of being hurt, the knowledge that there are so many people who see me as a second-class citizen, and the fact that 90%+ of the people I'm attracted to won't be attracted to my gender.

 

Hate about liking guys:
- Feels wrong.
- Makes me feel like another person.
- People's assumptions/stereotypes
- Possibly not ending up with a wife.
- Possibly not ending up having kids of my own.
- Constant fear of my parents finding out.
- everything else I forgot

Like about liking guys:
- Having my boyfriend.

 

I like being attracted to men, women and trans people because I feel it gives me a better idea of how other people are oppressed. (Being white, male, and having class privilege doesn't give me too many ways to have any firsthand knowledge.)

What I dislike is the privileging of monosexuality and the terrible things that only people in the gay community say, like "I don't wanna date someone bi, because he'd just leave me for a girl."

 

Which is ableist.

 

Likes:
-I don't feel like I have to act masculne just because I'm a guy (which sometimes causes awkward questions to be asked because I'm not out to a lot of people)
-I understand minority issues a bit better
-I love making inside jokes with my friends I'm out to when I'm with large groups (I almost died laughing when my friends were saying I poofed a lot when we were playing a videogame where when you died you poofed up in smoke. None of them knew that poof can refer to a gay person, even though it's not a flattering term.

Dislikes:
-Not being out really hurts sometimes, and being afraid of being out makes it worse.
-Feelng like there are too few gay people out there to meet someone special.
-Feeling personally insulted whenever people call something gay or make fun of someone by calling them gay.
-Very conservative Christians, I disliked them but now they dislike me back.

 

Pros:
*There's alot of friends I've met who are better friends that also identify as LGBT
*I've gained a world of understanding about all this stuff.

Cons:
*It's all confusing as hell
*Bigots.
*Transgender isn't as well-known, but it should be.

 

Being a transgender bisexual guy;

I like:
-The feel that I have worlds to explore, sexuality-wise, and endless potential
-That I can take off my penis and go without it whenever I want, ha!
-That I can switch my penis according to my lover's wants
-That I was naturally forced to open mindedness
-That I had the opportunity to bed lesbians. Yes, say it, shame on me.
-All in all I love being me.

Dislikes:
-The dysphoria
-The judgements and hate from family, friends, and LGBT people
-The prejudices
-The tough acceptance of who I am by myself and by others
-....the long term effects of all of the above on my and my wife's health, and on our kids

 

I'm gay. I like how the increased adversity forced me to develop my emotional maturity. I dislike how ignorant I've found people to be regarding LGBT issues... although I "like" that I am made more aware by being a minority?

 

like: never having to worry about accidentally getting pregnant!

dislike: not being able to have a child that is biologically both mine and my partner's