ive been out for years but im still yet to master or even see the point of telling my mum if/when i have a girlfriend (i dont have one atm lol). i always find it awkward and she seems to brush it under the carpet anyway and not take any interest/ask questions about it like other parents would. so my first question is for out people, do you tell your parents when you get a s/o? how long do you leave it if you do? me i dont see the point in announcing it straight away, because things could go wrong early on i would prefer to leave it a few months. im quite a private person and just somehow dont see the need to tell my mum until things were well established (i know a few months isnt a long time, but its when i would feel slightly more comfortable that the relationship might go somewhere) :| my 2nd question if someone was to not tell there parents until a few months in would you think less of them? i just always was pressured into telling my mum when i didnt think it was her business yet.....
I haven't really dated yet but in my opinion, it should be perfectly fine to wait a little bit before you tell the family that you are dating someone, especially when you are a technical adult. Personally, I'd want to avoid the hype (my parents would be ALL over me harrassing with questions) until our relationship is for sure not just a brief fling. That may take a while but I see no problem with waiting like a month, maybe two. As for the second question... If you wait several months... It is kind of a weird thing. I think it all depends on your s/o and what their opinion is on the matter so it is probably situational. In general, it'd probably be nice just to announce to your family if a relationship seems to be getting somewhat serious.
My parents are as accepting as anybody could possibly be. Just tonight, my step-mom was pointing out cute girls to me at the wedding we were attending. When I was living at home, it ranged from as soon as I made a date with somebody, to a few weeks into the relationship. Now that I have moved out of the house, I'd probably just mention an upcoming or recent date whenever I next spoke to them. I have never told them about one-night-stands and never would, although in general that's not my style. My step-mom gets REALLY curious, but she'd also understand if things were still developing and therefore wouldn't push too hard.
