I Want My Virginity Back

I pray to a god I don't believe in everyday to be a virgin again. I would do anything to have not gone through the sexual experiences I've been in. So my reasoning is different from yours but I would love to have my virginity back as well. I'm glad your first time was good for you, though.

 

My friend Curtis thanks for this special thread cause you made me think some stuff and go back to the past for a while!

I dont think my first time was special i dont even remember this time i would really like to have a special first time but after all i havent regret for my "virginity" ,its something that happens every day and to a lot of people dont think of their virginity in such a romantic way,thats a not a good neither a bad think in my opinion!

You obviously are thinking a lot of your previous relationship which makes you think a lot of stuff around of it ,you dont have to feel disturbed about losing your virginity ,for example i would prefer to have a beautiful flow in my life than a moment which is probably happening once in a lifetime, i suggest you to think it more general !
You are great !!!

 

I'm still a virgin and I'm not sure why you'd want to be one...

 

I think I would like to save my virginity for a girl I'm in love with, if I could.

 

Want mine? Nobody else seems to.

 

qft

 

My article "Virginity" is a meaningless concept expresses my views quite nicely.

 

I think virginity is a very spiritual and in many ways a romantic thing. For me, it is very important. I wouldn't want to waste it on just anyone. Some may think it is stupid or naive but I'd love for "my first" to be "my last."

 

Eh, took me until I was 24. I quickly made up for lost time, but I'm still bitter about the years I could've had. Can't wrap my mind around the idea of wanting to be a virgin.

 

^Same. :icon_sad:

 

Okay.

I just want to throw it out there that I think the whole concept of virginity is extremely problematic. Not least because its very existence stigmatizes abstinence and/or the sexually rejected, but because "losing it" is part of stigmatizing sexuality itself. (It's a rite of passage for men, but in the popular mind, men want to have sex with virgins. So in that wrong-headed view, female lack of virginity is stigmatized at the same time their virginity is stigmatized.)

There's literally not a single god damn thing good about it.

Here's a better way to think about it. You have sexual experiences. Some are positive. Some are not. You move on and try to make every sexual experience you have a compassionate and beautiful one. But in no way should "arriving late at the party" or feeling that one "lost" virginity badly be a part of a person's thought process.

I think it's unhealthy, and it needs to be done away with.

 

I can understand wishing certain sexual experiences would've gone better, or that certain sexual experiences wouldn't have happened. But I don't understand the desire to be a virgin again, really, which I think is separate and distinct from those other cases.

While I'm totally fine with "waiting" or not being ready, I think many people get hung up on "saving it for the right person". Because that implies that there is a right person - one specific person that you're "supposed" to give it up for. But it's not like this person will have a neon arrow over his/her head, saying "Here you go!" Yes, there are people you should probably bypass. No, I don't think you should just hook up with that pervy guy who hits on you in the mall restrooms because "it doesn't matter who you hook up with". But I don't think one needs to keep turning down opportunities waiting for some magical sign that you've found that perfect partner.

There's a lot of half-believed mythology when it comes to sex, and one such myth (extremely common in porn) is that of the virgin prodigy. The guy/girl who shyly says "I've never done this before" before performing sexual feats that would make a sex worker take notes. And fankly, it just oesn't happen (or it's amazingly rare). Sex is a skill, and like most skills, you tend get better the more you do it. First time sexual experiences are very often clumsy, halting, nerve-wracking, etc etc. But they're also very often extremely exciting because holy fuck, I'm finally having sex, omg omg.

I've talked about my first sexual eperience several times on EC. He was a hitchhiker I picked up in Arizona. It was the first time for both of us. It was fumbly, it was confusing, he was a bit too grabby, and way too free with his teeth. I've compared it to two buses repeatedly ramming into each other. Was he "the one"? Of course not. Was he the ideal sex partner? Not in the slightest. Do I regret having sex with him? Not a bit. I was horny,
I was ready, and despite all the drawbacks, it still was damned fun.

Lex

 

I'm still a virgin and I think about how to lose it every day.

Not that I'm willing to lose my virginity so easily.

 

I think people take the virgin thing way to seriously, We all have regrets i enjoy my first time i was 13 struggling with my sexually but we was on a school trip we had sex in the maze. We were friends and i used to have this hand held dictionary and we used to write notes to eachother and it turned sexual. We had sex for many many years after we stopped this year and were both 24 i don't regret it at all. Is he the right one for me? I highly doubt it he has two kids and a girlfriend but it was a fun learning experience for the both of us throughout the years. I messed around with other guys after but i don't regret it at all even if i never meet the right one i can still said i had a good sex life in the past. I really can't see my self "waiting" for the right one and before i know it I'm all old and beat up

 

As far as the OP's original statement - it's interesting to me that it doesn't sound like you regret the *way* you lost your virginity, or that you wouldn't want to lose it again (which I might be assuming, but it seems that way from what you've written) - but rather just because the relationship didn't work out.

I would say that just because the relationship didn't work out, doesn't mean that everything that happened in it was somehow inherently a failure - nor does it mean that you were "cheated" out of it (if virginity is a worthwhile concept anyway). If fact, if you can say you will always cherish the memory - then I say mission accomplished.

Just try to accept that it happened, that it remains a good memory for you, and that you got something worthwhile in return. Aside from the actual person themself as a romantic partner, you lose from the relationship only what you choose to lose (hopefully that makes sense).