Girls are incredibly confusing..

Well good for your friend for being able to see past looks and for liking someone's personality.

 

Judging people based on their looks is really shallow. Would you pass up on an ideal partner if you found him attractive and your friends didn't?

 

This; and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You may be the only one who finds your friend 'extremely good looking' while everyone else finds her 'ugly', and you may be the only person who finds her boyfriend 'ugly' while everyone else finds him 'extremely good looking'.

I'm not saying you can't judge people's attractiveness, because we all do, but if it's negative then it's usually best to keep quiet...


If you do think there's something wrong with his motives then you should talk to your friend about it.

 

Would you prefer the alternative: girls dating cute, interesting and attractive guys? I'd much rather have those just for myselves : p

 

That!

And I need to add that it's a very good thing that people have different tastes in the matter of perception of beauty and about what makes for an attractive personality.

 

Who knows. Maybe she has seen the good qualities that this guy has. I think in so many of these situations women choose to see only the good things. This could be a very good thing or perhaps bad in certain situations. Sometimes too, we just need somebody to love us, so we take the first thing that comes our way. I don't know. I am not saying I'm right. I know these things happen sometimes but I really can't say.

Most of the attractive girls around here only go for very attractive guys. I'm friends with some picky people.

 

We all have our own perceptions of what we find attractive. Attraction and beauty is surprisingly (or not so surprisingly) subjective. I would say the mere fact that there are so many varied forms of sexual & gender expression as proof of that.

I have many friends who I perceived as being too 'good/attractive/etc' for their partners, so its not an unnatural feeling to have an opinion. Still, its important to respect your friends taste/choice, unless the guy is genuinely not so great of a person.

 

I get what your saying and I see it a lot too. Guys tend to focus more on look then girls do, not always but generally speaking, and personality tends to rank higher for girls but even still they tend to end up with douche bags way too much, though in the end after a few terrible mistakes in partners they find someone with the perfect balance for them.

But guys do the same thing in their own way, they date the really hot chicks who tend to be bitchy and crazy before finding someone with a balance of attractiveness and personality.

But people have to date and make mistakes to find out what they want and who they are compatible with so eventually they don't make the same mistakes again. I see it all as a learning process.

It does suck though when your on the outside and can see all the reasons why this person isn't right for your friend and most likely your friend cant see them yet but hopefully they will in their own time. You just have to be their when shit goes sideways XD

and nah your not coming off as a shallow douche, well not to me anyways, looks are just as important as personality and you need compatibility with both for a relationship to work out but it is true that not everyone's ideas of beauty are the same so its all subjective.

 

I agree with Luke! The more I feel like I know about girls, the more I don't understand them. I can comprehend them completely and then the next moment I'm like "Hahaaaa you're someone else's problem to deal with..'" (but this is usually when they're coming on to me, and I think I'm too rude to girls when they do this. But I mean, come on, I know I'm not flamboyantly out, but just why do girls have to keep hitting on me?? THis is counterproductive to all of us!) Ok goodnight.

 

Well. Is he a nice guy? Maybe there's something she sees in him. Maybe you could talk to her about what she likes in men?

 

Interestingly, your complaint was that they were ugly, not that they were awful people...

 

She could be attracted to a specific character in those guys? Just remember looks aren't everything, people really do become more attractive once u get to now them

 

"Girls are incredibly confusing.."

I think you mean people. The majority of people in general are incredibly confusing. But you're right, women are far more bothersome than men in my experience.

 

There are more pretty girls than hot guys.

 

Let me tell you something. Take two men. One is a fat mess, the other looks like a hot androgynous model.

The fat mess is funny, lively, kinky, and fucks like a pornstar in heat. The model is boring, lays there in bed, and and doesn't even have enough personality to pass the Turing test.

I'll take the fat mess, thanks. Looks are one part of an entire picture. Without a gross disfigurement, they don't matter if they have everything else you're looking for.

Maybe he's rich. Maybe they're a kinky couple. You don't know. Don't bother trying to figure it out. He's got something she likes more than looks. Leave it up to her.

 

You meant "ugly on the inside", right ? :icon_wink