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The birds and the bees talk.

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Colours, Nov 18, 2012.

  1. Colours

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    I've never had a birds and the bees talk with my parents. The only time we talked about any sex-themed things is a few days before I went on a holiday to Ibiza last summer, when my father told me to be sure that I practiced safe sex over there. It kind of struck me because we had never talked about sex before, lol.

    Anyone else who has passed puberty and has never had any talks with their parents about the birds and the bees? I sometimes hear people mentioning this and it makes me feel it's odd that my parents never had such a talk with me. I can't be the only one, but... am I?
     
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    No, ur not the only one :/ We're from an asian country so my parents r very secretive & does not like talking bout sex...not even when I bring it up. I had to learn about sex and stuff from friends & from sex ed class in school :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: I wish they can b more open with me :/
     
  3. Nocturnal

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    ^ Same with me.
     
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    My family's never been especially open about sex, so the overwhelming majority of my sexual education came from school (which was surprisingly comprehensive). Despite having gone to a Catholic school, it wasn't abstinence-only education, and you weren't allowed to pass gym class unless you passed the sexual education portion of it.
     
  5. Z3ni

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    I never really any conversations with my parents my life... And it will never happen now..
     
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    My mom tried having it with me after she walked in on me jerking off (embarrassing..), but I let her know I knew everything and didn't need her to tell me.

    And then a while after that, around the time I started going out, my dad told me to always be safe and that I didn't have to keep secrets and he'd rather have me bring girls home than do stuff behind their (my parent's) backs.

    That's it, though, never had a real "talk." Thankfully. Just.. too awkward.
     
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    My parents just told me not to do anything stupid. (They mean having unprotected sex by this.)
     
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    No it's never happened. Didn't learn anything from them or school, I had to piece it together from different sources and eventually just googled it. The only sex ed I had in school was catholic people talking about abstinence which was not helpful in the slightest.
     
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    That stuff wasn't really mentioned in my house. I learned all of my stuff from friends and health class. My mom walked in on me watching porn once (before I suspected I was gay) :icon_redf and after an extremely akward moment she left, those channels were (temporarily) blocked and it was never discussed. Now anything involving is kind of just metioned in conversation (usually by me, ironically), but it's not really discussed. Theres never any detail (that's still kinda akward)
     
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    My dad basically just told me to wear a condom. Sex was never discussed in my house and my middle school's sex ed was a joke, and my high school didn't have any sex ed, it was a Catholic school. I learned everything off the Internet.
     
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    I live with my dad so he gave me a brief chat.. and i only learned from school, google or hearing friends talk about it.. So i can promise you aren't the only one.. But Im kinda glad he didn't cause I would prob just sink into the floor from embarrassment.. lol
     
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    My parents basically just left, "How to talk to your kids about sex" books around the house and expected that I'd read them and teach myself (which, to their credit, I did). Beyond that, I learned everything I know about sex now from the Internet (especially Tumblr) and from my sex-positive friends. If I ever have to raise a kid (it's unlikely, but who knows?), that'll be one of the few things I do very differently from my parents.
     
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    My mom tried to have the talk with me a long time ago. All I remember is myself cringing. My mom has always been someone who just doesn't talk about dating/sex, etc. My brother is like that too. I'm pretty sure I just stopped the conversation because I just didn't want to sit through it. It's probably 15 years later and nothing has changed.
     
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    No my parents never had the "talk" with me thank god! That would have been extremely awkward I basically just learned everything myself by googling guy stuff or whatever.
     
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    I was never taught anything, I learned from Google too =P
     
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    lol. my mom never talked to me about that other than to clean my peen so that no pathogens or crap grows between the sheath...
     
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    They tried to have one and it was awkward!!! I wish they never tried lol, I knew everything anyway (thank you internet). :slight_smile:
     
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    My dad gave me "the talk" in a truck ride back home from when I went to work with him about nine years ago. It's such a shame because it was mostly irrelevant to me in two ways; one, I was certainly not very interested in girls, and two, it's been almost ten years since and I've never had sex proper. Go figure.
     
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    I've never really had a sex talk with my parents, either.

    Though granted, I grew up with my dad. And me being a girl, it was prolly waay too awkward to try to briing it up to me. It was too awkward for me to ask him, anyway.

    We didn't really talk about sex, or dating at all the whole time I was growing up. So I mainly learned everything from the internet.

    though about a year ago, I had a serious boyfriend and got a urinary tract infection, and my dad asked me if we were having sex, because sex can be a cause of UTI's. He also asked if we were having safe sex. That was a bit awkward...
    And a few months ago, I talked to him about going to a doctor and getting on a birth control, cuz I have a boyfriend and wanna be responsible. We talked a little bit about that, it wasn't as awkward as the other time though.
     
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    I never had the talk with my parents, my Mom just gave me a book about it to read. :lol: