Alright. I have a friend. He's not currently residing near me, he's off in college for the moment. He's not seeing anyone recently, and has commented on how it's depressing how he can't seem to find anyone. He's gay, I'm gay. I can't tell if he likes me, and he's heavily withdrawn. As am I. It seems we are at an impasse. He thinks I'm adorable, and keeps trying to get me up to his school to see him. I think he's pretty damn cute, but me being me, I think if I made any mention to him that I might be interested, I'd scare him off. I'm not someone who would hug or compliment anyone outside of my family. I feel like I've submitted average kid problem #100000000, but I honestly can not find a great way to approach him. Especially with it being long distance at the moment. Maybe you guys have some insight. The only thing I have thought of (now that it comes to mind), is me going up to his school when I get some time off from work and taking him to dinner or something. derp me
I would suggest chatting to him as much as possible and then going up to see him when you can and seeing what developes.
If he says that he thinks you're cute, have some confidence! I don't think he would be saying that unless he was open to getting with you .
You're right not to get super clingy, but if you want to be with him, you've got to give a little. The secret is always expressing the same amount (or close too) of affection that the other person is (unless you think they're shy, in which case you make the first move, but that's not the case here). In this case, I'd suggest taking him up on his offer one day, and then after having a great time together, go in for a hug. A little physical contact here and there won't drive him away, just make sure you don't start getting grabby all the time and everything should be fine. As for complimenting him, just compliment him when you mean it and he's done something to deserve it. If he just finished a project he's proud of, be warm and openly compliment his success. The only time complimenting comes off as fake or cheesy is when you either don't really mean it, or you do it all the time for tiny things. The bottom line is, you both like each other, so short of suddenly undergoing a major personality change, being warmer with him will not drive him away, on the contrary, it will only bring you closer together Good luck!
