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Dumbest question about your sexual orientation/gender identity?

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  1. wonderingdave01

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    The question's right in the title. Whether you're gay, bisexual, trans, pansexual or whatever what's the dumbest question someone's ever asked you about your sexual orientation or gender identity?
     
    #1 wonderingdave01, Dec 31, 2012
  2. phospholipase

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    Who's the boy and who's the girl?
     
    #2 phospholipase, Dec 31, 2012
  3. Pain

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    'So does that mean you only like guys lol?' That's what I was asked.
     
    #3 Pain, Dec 31, 2012
  4. BoiGeorge

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    "Is this just a phase?!" lmfao :grin:
     
    #4 BoiGeorge, Dec 31, 2012
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    Worse one I've gotten is "But you married a guy? Does that mean you're straight now?"

    I'm like - "no stupid, I still like boobies! I just really like my husband's penis"

    Ugh - I get that from time to time - it's like being married to someone of the opposite sex negates the fact that I'm bi. I didn't choose sides. I choose love. I could have fallen in love with a girl - but I didn't.

    You're right - love is love.
     
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    One of my friends did that. She also instisted there had to be gender roles even when I tried to tell her there aren't.
     
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    I've had a couple friends ask me the "top or bottom" question before. Why do you care? First of all, it's not a dichotomy. Second, it's not indicative of anything outside of the bedroom. Third, I'm not one to let people, even close friends, know about my bedroom escapades, and they know that.
     
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    "Do you like Queen, then?"
     
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  9. NicoleV96

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    People always say something to me along the lines of "So you like vagina?" and to that, I say, I like women, and then they say "Women have vaginas, so you like vagina." It's just something dumb that I hear way too often, because women are not just their vagina, and that's what makes me really angry. Are they that sexually active that all they see women as is their vaginas, should I just start calling every girl I see a vagina, because that's what they make it seem like. I tell people that I'm not sexually active, don't plan on it, and I don't see women as an object, I actually respect them. I understand people are sexually active and what not, but the question is so uncalled for. That's the number one question I can't stand. The questions where they ask, who would be the boy who would be the girl doesn't bother me because in society, people are so used to roles, and I don't find it all that offensive, but the question I stated, that's one that always makes me angry, because it's not only a false assumption, but it's just rude to think of women that way.
     
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    Mine's similar. My ex and I were always constantly asked, "So who's the man in the relationship?"
     
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    This. They assume that because somebody is discussing their sexuality, they mean only the actual parts and what they do with them. Granted it's common for skanky guys to do this, because males are generally more visual creatures who don't need as much of an emotional connection.

    Of course that doesn't make "I like guys" and "I like dick" the same thing. I found that I like guys as a whole years before considering their actual packages.
     
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    Oh, man, where to begin...

    Stupid Question #1:

    Me: I like girls.
    Guy: What?
    Me: I'm not really into men in that way.
    Guy: So, you're a lesbian?
    Me: Yeah.
    Guy: So, you don't like guys?

    Stupid Question #2:

    Guy: You... like girls?
    Me: Um, I do, yeah.
    Guy: That's kind of hot. Have you ever seen a penis before, though?

    I wish I were joking, and unfortunately the people who tend to ask me the most 'interesting' questions about my sexuality tend to be straight men. I barely ever get those type of questions from women or gay men when they find out, which saddens me, because it makes a lot of them come off as if they're just trying to live up to the stereotype of straight men 'loving lesbians'. You can easily pick out the ones who take you seriously from the ones who don't, because they usually have that "hint hint" look on their face like you've just been caught doing something 'naughty' that's just between you two. But I honestly don't think many of them even actually like lesbians, at least not in the way they think, because they only really seem to 'love' them when they can either watch, or if they're involved somewhere in the mix -- like they can't imagine a penis or a man not being involved at all. This is when it becomes very annoying for me.
     
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    #1 "So, does this mean you want a penis?"

    #2 "How can you like guys and feel like a guy at the same time?" ...:eusa_doh:
     
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    "So does that mean you like girls only now?"
    (No I like both men and women, always have...)

    "Are you seriously going to change your name?!"
    (No, I'm going to keep my feminine birth name... Of course I'm changing it)

    "But you dated a guy! How can you feel like a guy if you dated one?!"
    (Really?!)

    "So does that mean you're going to get a penis?"
    (And how per se am I supposed to just 'get a penis')
     
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    I feel like the question, "why are you gay?" is really dumb. Or anything along the lines of sexuality being a choice.
     
    #15 MickiNinaj, Dec 31, 2012
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    How do you find the self control to never have sex?

    To which I answered:

    Do you require self control to not have sex with men? Cause if you do, worry about your own sexuality.
     
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    You have to wonder about some people...
     
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    what made you lesbian? and you just havent had sex with a guy who know what there doing wanna try it with me? really like wtf
     
    #19 Kat kanu, Dec 31, 2012
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    My parents asked me the day after i came out if they were going to be buying a dress or a suit for my wedding....I was like "i like men not dresses" >>
     
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