sexting

I think it's quite fun. But then again, it's all down to personal preference. There's no set of rules that say that you've got to enjoy sexting, nor that you need to do it at all. A relationship isn't exactly going to suffer just because you don't fancy a bit of sexting
I found it quite nerve racking when I first received one though...

 

I have a lot of friends who do it :s

 

It's good fun. And you actually feel really connected to your partner. Its's not as bad as people make it out to be.

 

It's something I know a lot of people seem to do.

I am not really keen on it, it isn't something that interests me at all and whenever partners have initiated it I've felt uncomfortable. Makes me feel a bit odd when everyone around me seem to really enjoy it. That may be related to lack of experience though... I end up having to go "I don't know what to say to that" and it kind of spoils the mood.

 

It used to make me feel exactly the same! Really awkward, especially if you don't know the person you're doing it with well enough. I definitely think practice helps, but sometimes it's just a case of 'what would I like to hear if I was in that mood'.

 

Not my cup of tea personally. Maybe a suggestive or romantic text, but nowhere near what you're suggesting.

 

I guess ive always just viewed sexting as a bad thing because id rather sex be real..you know..and the fact that i would really need to trust that person so they dont spread around the fact that you are a kinki lil sexter if you know them and are dating them than i ges you wouldnt have to worry about it. I ges i have trust issues with it as well as id rather be intimate with the person..while being there with them. Im sure its fun and it could be my lack of experience as well that makes me a bit anxious about it.

 

A lot of people do it, I think. I never have, because there is no way that I'd want a picture like that of me floating around out there in someone else's phone!

 

EXACTLY my thought lol.

 

No kidding. My general rule of thumb is that I never take photos of myself that I wouldn't want seen on the Internet.

Another danger of sexting - if you are not an adult and you distribute that kind of photograph of yourself (or another underage individual), you can actually be prosecuted for distribution of child pornography in many places. The last thing anyone needs is to end up on a sex offender registry. People aren't going to ask the details of your conviction; they will simply assume the worst and treat you as if you were a predator lurking around the corner, waiting to prey on their children.

 

My girlfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship, so for us we'd probably go crazy if we didn't. But I would never do it with just any person. We trust each other explicitly (no pun intended) to never ever share the pictures or texts with anyone else, ever, no matter what, even in the case of a horrible breakup. We've acted like adults and had a conversation about it before we even tried it out, and because we can talk like that, I think it's okay.

For me, personally, pretending with my girlfriend that we're making love gives me a sort of mental/emotional release that I think people need in a relationship. I crave the mental release much more than the physical, so while sexting is a distant second to actual sex, it takes care of a need in a similar way.

It also lets us explore a bit more than our physical relationship can, since we can do things with props, situations, and privacy we don't actually have in real life. And we can go through situations mentally before we try them physically, and since sexting is a media that encourages verbal expression, it's a lot easier to talk about what we want and like and don't like without feeling awkward or interrupting the flow of things. So I think in the context of a relationship, especially a long-distance one, it can be a really great thing.

Would I do it with just anyone? Absolutely not. To be willing to sext someone, I'd have to be emotionally willing to have sex with them. It's not something that's more "casual" to me. It's a distillation of one specific part of sex, the mental part, and thusly it's not as great as actual sex, it's a bit simpler (a bit), and it's not something you do with someone you don't trust.

 

I've done it before to be honest. I didn't like it, but I was with a girl and was still in the closet. So probably that is the reason I didn't like it.

I'll try it again maybe in the future if I trust him.

 

i invented sexting

 

Well hold on.

I think there are two forms of sexting. I don't send pictures we just write out erm...well sexy stuff to each other.

 

I think a lot of people do it. I have done it before but i would only do it with someone i was in a relationship with. I agree with what kisune309 said completely!

 

I'd end up laughing if someone tried it with me, or even just tried to talk dirty, but I do know some guys that do it with their girlfriends and enjoy it.

 

I could see myself doing it in a joking/flirty manner but noooot anything real hardcore lol. Wouldn't send pictures and stuff of it either.

 

If we were REALLY close... and both over the age of consent. (18+)

 

Aye.

The sending of pictures erring on the naughty side? Oh no. I've been sent photographs and I, being the prude I am, have refused to send any back and discouraged it from happening again. I have a little bit of a fear about something going wrong somewhere and one day having the teenagers I work with turning around and saying "Hey, Ms. FruitFly, I've seen your tits!". Not necessarily because of anything a partner will do, but the potential for people other than them to find the photos/videos and then upload them. Remote chance? Maybe, but I'd rather keep such things to a live setting with a ban on image capturing equipment.