School Homophobia, kinda scared :(

Funny this post comes up, just today some guys in my class were talking about how they would kill their son if he was gay.
Now sure they don't have sons yet, and I doubt they'd go that far. But it still can make a guy worry!

But don't worry, most of the hate (especially in high school) is just talk.

 

Unfortunately kids are cruel. That's how they are. Do they mean to be hateful? In most cases, certainly where I'm from anyway, probably not - they do it because it's expected by their peers, and it makes them feel superior.

I'm ashamed to admit I was the same in school. I was bulied pretty badly, so anything that made me feel better than someone, even for a moment, was worth it to me.

 

Don't worry, we're still here for you

 

I actually have a pretty good group of gay/bi friends at my school. The ones who aren't as supporting are really mean. I have one though, and she's a legit friend, but she's homophobic. One time we we started talking, don't even remember how it came up, but there's two girls at our school who're dating, and she said "Yeah, I'm kind of a homophobe so.." I didn't tell her anything about me but it was disappointing.

 

Hahaha made my day :roflmao:

 

I don't watch Spongebob, but I am still angry at certain christians for calling POKEMON... DEMONIC?!?!?!?!

WHAT DAFUQ?

and i am not a hardcore HP and DND fan.. but Pokemon? WHAT

 

My school is "kind of" open when it come to homosexuality. Well, they do not know that I'm gay yet but there's a couple of gay students at my school and sometimes we would talk about them and my friends would be like "Yeah, there's nothing wrong with it." These are however my female friends. I don't know what my male friends think though, one of them keeps saying "I know it's kind of bad, but I am a homophobe man" then the next day he would be like "I don't support gay marriage but i'm not against it either." And he's not gay, that's for sure. But there are definitely homophobes at my school so I just decide not to have anything to do with them.

 

Thankfully, whenever I was at school (I finished it in June 2012, which Sixth Form here in the UK) people were generally very accepting about being gay. Some of the straight guys maybe found it a bit weird, but nevertheless they were always nice to me. There were, however a select few GUYS (I feel the need to emphasise that it was guys) who made comments similar to what you describe.

Let me guess - it's only a select few that make those comments in your class? AND they're all guys? To be honest, there's more WRONG with the straight guys than there is you, and really we should feel sorry for them. That's because the straight who make homophobic comments do so, not because they are actually "phobic" of gay men, but they think it "proves" their masculinity and sexuality i.e. proves they're not gay. So essentially, it's an insecurity on their part. The best thing to do, is just ignore it and act like it doesn't bother you.

But that IS why they do it - they think it makes them masculine and straight as a result of some insecurity/insecurities they have. But trust me - they DO have insecurities.

I'm quite saddened to read that you're experiencing this in 2013. It's amazing that in the 21st Century - other men are STILL worried about where OTHER men put THEIR genitals...

Be who you are - because, you're sexuality won't change. Live your life how you want to (but just don't intentionally hurt anyone along the way! lol)

 

I was out of school at 16 it got a bit rough and into a few fights not a nice time for me.

 

Not as explicitly, but theres always those times where people use homosexuality to bully others. Or liek people when annoyed would just say thing like ''omg why are you being gay''. People made it seem like gays were something to naturally dislike. This only happened at hgih school, its never happened at uni. I think people suddenly mature when they go to uni...

 

suddenly? what sorcery is this? lol

 

I haven't heard much of this. I went to a vey liberal high school and a pretty progressive college, so bigoted remarks at either location would have been really inappropriate and the person responsible would probably face some sort of punitive meeting.

That said, the worst type of anti-gay remarks I've experienced have been far more subtle things. Subtle as they were, I'm still in the closet for a reason.