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Bisexual or just bi-curious?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by ohthecuriousity, Jan 8, 2013.

  1. ohthecuriousity

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    Okay so for about over a year now, I've been really unsure about my sexuality.

    I've always just assumed I was straight from when I was a little kid. I didn't know what gay/lesbian/bisexual etc was until the age of 9 so I just thought men were always supposed to be attracted to women and women were supposed to be attracted to men. Then when I found out that that wasn't always the case, I did what a lot of little kids did ( and still do), say 'Ewwww.' I guess I just said that because the whole concept was new to me. I didn't know anyone who was gay at the time, I didn't know anything.

    As I grew up a bit more, I started to get used to the fact that not all people were straight. Whenever someone would say 'oh he's gay' or 'she's bisexual', it would come to a surprise to me but I was definitely not as judgmental as I was as a kid. I was accepting but surprised.

    Then when I was 14 I started to think to myself, 'Wow, you've come a long way from when you were a kid. You're so much more accepting now. It'd be so ironic if you turned out lesbian or bi yourself.' Now, I know for a fact I am not lesbian because I am sexually attracted to guys. But I can also be sexually attracted to girls. I have kissed both sexes before, though, I have only ever kissed girls in games like Truth or Dare. I am attracted to guys a lot more but still am attracted to girls. I've had two dreams (well, of what I can remember anyway) where I have made out with girls (that I know haha). I don't have a crush on them or anything but I do find them attractive, especially one of them. Now that I think about it, when I first hung out with her, she had sat on me and I loved the way her soft legs rubbed against mine and how her girly scented perfume followed her around as she walked past. I don't think I realised it at the time but I have come to the conclusion that I had a crush on her and was sexually attracted to her. I can't say she's my first female crush because I truly don't know. I might've had crushes on girls in the past and just never realised it but idk.

    Something else that has happened lately is when one of my friends (female and bisexual) rubbed her leg against mine, rubbed my neck with her finger, suggested we take a shower and have a sleepover together, I was automatically aroused.

    I am currently in a relationship with a guy but I feel as if I've lost feelings for him already. I think I am bisexual but there's just a little something that's holding me back, such as the fact that I don't know if I'd ever start a family with a woman, simply because I'd much rather have a child that's biologically mine, if you get what I mean. Would I have a relationship with a female? Yes. Would I have a sexual relationship with a woman? Of course. Starting a family with one? I'm not so sure.

    So my main question is, am I really bisexual or just bi-curious? I feel that I am more than just bi-curious, therefore, bisexual and my friend that I recently spoke to this about because she's lesbian and she knows what it's like to be confused and all that, says that I am most likely bisexual and just lean towards guys more. I wanted to know what you guys thought.
     
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    Sounds like you're bisexual. Just because you don't know if you'd want to start a family and deal with issues intrinsic to same-sex parenting, doesn't mean that you're just bi-curious as opposed to bisexual. Although you do certainly sound "curious" by definition, I think by your own terms you've noted that you're attracted to women sexually, which indicates your sexual orientation to be bisexual.
     
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    You made two threads about this, lol. For a minute I thought I was seeing things. I answered on your other thread. :slight_smile:
     
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    You sound bisexual. Welcome to EC.

    And don't forget, you can always have a biological child in a relationship with a woman. But I don't think the bond between adoptive parents and children should be devalued.
     
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    Ditto on what Hexagon said. I have a good friend whose parents are both women. I don't think it's possible for a kid to love her parents more, or vice versa.
     
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    ---------- Post added 9th Jan 2013 at 12:29 AM ----------

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    I'm sorry if you misunderstood, I wasn't devaluing anything. I just meant that if I had the choice to choose between a biological child and adopting a child, I'd choose a biological child. Not that I'd never adopt or that I look down on adopted children or anything like that

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    Yeah, lol I didn't know where to categorize this so I just made two threads :slight_smile:
     
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  7. Unknown5

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    Probably bisexual, but don't worry most people are accepting now a days
     
  8. counterspade

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    Yes, it does sound like to me that you're bisexual, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. The way I analyzed my sexuality as a teenager was that I followed my heart. I knew inside who I was and how I felt, and eventually when the time was right, I would make it public to others.

    When it comes to raising a family, there's no shame or wrongdoing in raising one with a woman. I believe that it's a great thing, traditional 'rules' aside that I never understood anyway.

    Sometimes your brain just needs to take a chill pill and your heart needs to grab the mic and speak. :slight_smile:
     
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    Yupp. I agree, more bisexual. Bi-curious goes more for someone who has never had any experience with it, but is curious about trying it. It`s, the way I have understood it, more about finding out if you could possibly be bisexual. But if you know that you are attracted to both sexes, if you know that you can get sexually aroused by both sexes, then bisexual is more fitting. A bisexual person can still have a preferanse, with for example enjoying sex with guys in a larger degree than sex with women, or they can feel like their interest change in periods. And I know bisexuals who can have sex with both, but prefer romantically or relationshipwise to be with one gender more than the other, or even at all.
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  10. cassexy

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    well first i was bicurious.but over the years, i am bisexual and even polysexual