Offensive?!

we have discussed this here before.
some are like you and think words like this mean nothing if you are joking, same with saying something is gay.

I however don't like fag, faggot, dyke, or saying something somebody does stupid is gay...anymore than i enjoy hearing black men on the bus call each other nigger. all them are just utterances, but if you know they HAVE a meaning that is intended to hurt, there could be somebody nearby who overhears and is offended...or really traumatized.

I am NOT politically correct. I just don't usually use words that are commonly used to hurt others.

btw, many lesbians use dyke.
I like Queer.
some peeps hate queer too.
I like it because it means weird, but has a Q.

 

Yes, I personally find the word faggot offensive, whether it's said out of malice or not.

 

I find faggot very offensive and I get mildly annoyed when people use gay as a derogative term. I often label myself as queer or genderqueer, depending on whether I feel particularly male at that point in time, and I used to say I was dykey when I was more of an androgynous female, before I realised that female doesn't apply to me at all.

 

Faggot and queer i find offensive

 

If someone tells me that I'm a faggot in a derogatory sense I don't get offended, though I do take it as an excuse to offend the person who said it. I mean, hey, they're trying to offend me so why not offend them? "Yeah, I'm a fag. At least I'm not a *insult here.*" Typically I go for racial slurs, but if they're white I insult something else. Usually something like "fatass," "redneck," "inbred," or "worthless bitch" (if they're female). Or I'll call them a dirty jew. Surprisingly that offends a lot of white people, regardless of whether or not they're jewish.

Black people are the best. Their reactions always tend to be so disproportionate to mine.

 

I don't particularly like the words 'faggot' or 'dyke'. They just aren't nice words, whatever the setting. 'Queer', 'poof' etc don't really bother me. I've been called worse...

 

I think that even if you are joking, you can easily offend people around you, even if you yourself are gay and your refering to yourself.

 

Wonderful, a gay bigot hater. :dry:

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is POOF a UK slang? I have not heard or seen it signed here in US. What does it refer to? I think of women's 1980's puffy sleeved dresses.

 

I think it is UK specific. Not sure where it originated - longer version is 'poofter'. Possibly relates to stereotypical gays being 'soft', but thats a guess.

 

My intent is not based in bigotry, rather it is to shock and offend the person who has tried to offend and/or shock me.

 

I personally find a lot of the derogatory terms offensive--faggot included--whether it was meant as a joke or not (maybe I'm a little sensitive...lol). I actually recently had a talk with a close friend of mine about this, because (though it was a joke) she often referred me and my group of friends with that word when greeting us and I found it offensive.

I would just try to avoid using any sort of derogatory term altogether (or any word in a derogatory sense). What you said as a joke could truly offend and hurt someone else if they're that kind of person.

 

Don't find it offensive at all.

Words are only as bad as the individual makes them. If person x knows faggot annoys person y, he's more likely to insult person y by saying faggot BECAUSE person x is aware it annoys him so much.

So really, people. Not gunna lie, by finding it offensive, you're supporting this vicious circle and keeping it a taboo word designed to be hurtful.

The same way that most coloured people now, atleast my age/generation/location, don't find the N word offensive. I don't personally use it, just incase, but really, I see MANY facebook status's from them themselves saying stuff like 'shit -n word here-, that stuff is crazy!'

And I'm actually doing English Language A level now about how taboo words come about, and part of my syllabus is quite literally saying that taboo words come about by people caring too much, summed up... haha.

 

since i have never heard it before and it has no positive or negative feeling to it to me, it sounds cute! poofter...i could name a fluffy kitty that! my little fluffy poofter! awwww!

 

^lmfao
To me it's all about context. If it's accidental and/or not meant to be used as a derogatory term, I'm okay with it. However if they intend to use it as an insult they better be doing so in the right context

 

I agree with this. I wouldn't let a word steal my joy... that's just giving the other person power over you.

If someone called me that I'd just be like, "Yuuuup." LoL

 

:roflmao:
I hope you're gonna post pics - can't beat kitty pics

 

I had kitties when i was a teen. I called them puffy, and fluffy and they loved it! it made their tails fluff big and go up. oh and because an orange one had a tail with the end looking like the pussywillow fluff, i called their tails willow sticks. okay so next cat mom gets i shall name him Poofter, the Fluffykin! He will be the puffiest , and have the fluffiest willow stick of all!

Shut up I am straight!