How fast does it take for your Gaydar to get a lock?

There's no such thing as an actual "gaydar"--gay people aren't magically equipped to identify each other. What we call a "gaydar" is really just our ability to read social cues--so if you're really socially perceptive you may have a stronger "gaydar" so to speak.

 

This is how long it takes for my gaydar to lock-on:
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Hahahahahah I sent my gaydar back to the manufacturer to get it fixed! Lol :lol:

 

My gaydar works very quickly! Locks on to target almost instantly! :aD

 

Mine is busted :/ I wouldn't know a gay guy from a brick wall if I ran into it (most of the time)

 

l agree with what's said about it not being a literal raydar for gay people. People don't like that idea because it implies there's something inherently different about a gay person other people can see.

But there is such thing as being intuitive, in general. Some people are more intuitive than others. Some people complete lack any kind of sixth sense about people and interpret things on a literal level so they'll tell you that isn't possible.

That there's no way you can "know" something about a person until it's made obvious and tend to be types who don't really pick up on subtleties in general. Perhaps a lot of gay people develop the intuition for the purpose of finding a partner but it extends to a lot of different things IME.

So, l think what people call gaydar can be as accurate as you think it is in some cases, lt doesn't matter what you call it.

OFC you can't know how accurate it is until it's proven to be so

 

How is an obvious lesbian different from a non-obvious lesbian?
Or are you talking about seeing two girls having hot steamy sex with each other?
Cause that's not gaydar that's using your eyes.:icon_wink

Thing is, unless someone tells you, or you actually see them expressing attraction to the same sex, you cannot be sure and probably locking on based on (sub)concious stereotypes.

 

^My gaydar isnt as good for men. Though l'm not less perceptive in general the second someone has a penis...lol. IDK why, myabe it's just more developed for women because that's what l'm interested in.

How ''obvious'' a person is to you really boils down to how much you're trying to determine their sexuality because if you aren't the interested in them only the stereotypical people are going to be obvious to you.

in some cases l find gay men have similar personality traits to me, mostly developed if we were both closeted. l can spot that in another person but otherwise l miss gay men that are "obvious" to straight women.

 

So basically you and your friends are good at recognising lesbians who exhibit certain stereotypes.
Doesn't sound like actual gaydar to me.

 

He said his gaydar wasn't good for lesbians.

 

I have a top-notch gaydar. My eyes just lock onto a guy if it thinks they're gay, not sure if its accurate though!

On a serious note I think we can just sense a mutual understanding with other gay people, rather than actually just knowing they're gay. I notice straight guys just walk past without a single glance, gay guys at least look and then look away if they're not interested or if they are...they carry on looking.

 

Gaydar is picking up on lots of things, including social cues and possibly subtle biological cues, that are common to many gay people. Some people trip everyone's gaydar without being gay, though, and their are plenty of gay people that do not set off anyone's gaydar (until they do something really blatantly gay and make it obvious, such as openly hitting on same-sex people).

But for the most part, it isn't particularly relevant. I mean, either they are out, in which case you will know soon enough, or they aren't. And if they are claiming to be straight, then for your purposes, they are straight, really. I mean, it's really best to take people at their word. And frankly, for a closeted person with limited experience of gay people, I would be hesitant to trust your gaydar. It improves with experience.

I realize you are still not out yourself, and therefore you are looking for ways to identify, by divination, which of the other men around you are in similar circumstances. But what will you do, if you think some guy is gay?

You definitely should not regard your gaydar as infallible. Sometimes, you'll get it wrong, in either direction.

The only way to really feel out whether someone might be gay is to reveal that you are, no matter what your gaydar says. And sometimes, they still won't tell you, even if they are.

The things that gaydar picks up on are most likely traits that are influenced by the hormonal balance in the womb during prenatal development in a similar way to sexuality. So they frequently appear in people who are gay. But every trait we know of that is like that is only statistically more likely to be found in gay people than in the general population; there is never a 1:1 correlation. Not everyone who has the trait is gay, and not everyone who is gay has the trait.

Anyway, what makes it "gaydar" is that you can't explain why you think the person is gay; it's your unconscious picking up on something. If you can point to what it is that is making you think they are gay, it isn't gaydar.

I've definitely had the experience before of looking at someone and just knowing they were gay, and having no idea why I thought so. Even when I wasn't attracted to them. And being right. It's a weird thing.

 

Definitely agree with this. Usually it just strikes instantly from how I'm interacting with someone. Even when a straight dude is acting camp, it never trips my detection - it just stays that dude's straight and fooling around. However, there just seems to be a different interaction when I sense that the other dude is LGBT as well - and I think they notice that I am a well whereas none of my parents or friends ever had even the slightest notion.