Ok I need to ask this! Gay men!

Slim = skinny

 

Why do you want people to call you skinny?

To me, skinny means thin in an unhealthy way; no muscle, no fat, just quite literally skin over bone. It's a really negative word.

Slim implies you look healthier. Still less than average, but in a healthy way, if that makes sense.

So they sort of mean the same thing, but when people call you skinny they generally mean it in a negative way, when they call you slim they mean it in a positive way.

 

From the Merriam-Webster online dictionary

slim adjective \ˈslim\
slim·mer slim·mest

Definition of SLIM

1
: of small diameter or thickness in proportion to the height or length : slender

 

I just told you it's a negative word, and you say that's what you want.

Just skin over bone looks awful, and is really unhealthy. The fact that you can't lift 15 pounds should give you a hint.

If you know it doesn't look good (you say yourself you'd rather have a guy with some muscle), and you know it's unhealthy, then why do you want it?

 

slim is not an insult so you didn't need to get defensive about that! like someone said above, slim means below average, but in a healthy way. Regarding both sexes. For guys, skinny isn't a compliment really. It depends who says it and what their type is. For girls, though, it can be an insult or a compliment. A lot of guys that are not gay or probably lesbians too like skinny or slim girls.

 

I'm most troubled by your "eating disorder" comment.

I'm pretty sure you have an eating disorder. I could be wrong. But it sounds like it. It is one thing to WANT to fit into those clothes. I want to wear all Ralph Lauren clothes. I want to be skinnier. But that's not totally practical. Or possible.

You use the word "need" like you are obsessed. Have you ever been diagnosed, yourself?

I don't want to criticize you. I'm not even going to tell you what to do or what I think you should do. I just want you to be healthy. And I don't think you are.

 

I found this on an english forum.

They are slim and slender. (Nicest way to say it. Implies 'attractively thin'.)

You are thin. (Acceptable, but not flattering. Neutral.)

He is skinny. (Somewhat negative way of saying it. Implies 'unattractively thin'.)

I am personally what you would call "very skinny".

 

I agree with the above concerns - your description sounds like something someone might say if they had an eating disorder.

Personally, I have a very clear preference for skinny guys, but I want there to be a little muscle and at least some fat as well. You probably aren't going to find tons of gay guys out there who want you to be absolute skin and bones, so if this if really about being attractive to other guys that isnt the way to do it.

 

You ned to get on a SAFE and healthy track. Just eating spinach and crackers will not help you. Go to your therapist or however you see and work this out. I don't want to say the wrong thing.

 

Um... I am very concerned about your diet.
First of all, there are many vegetables in the world, even in your market.
Yes, spinach may be good, but you're also missing out on vitamins and other nutrients from other vegetables.

Also (I had to look this up), even though flax seed has all the proteins body can't produce, I am not quite sure if the amount is enough to refill you from your work out.

I think you need to talk to a nutritionist. I am not against you trying to keep a body shape and all, but you need to do it more rationally and reasonably.

 

Depends on the guy. Generally, not so much. I'm not into the whole body-builder stuff either. Having a nice balance is always attractive (to me.) They don't even really need to be toned, just some meat on them.

Honestly, my preference would be slightly overweight as opposed to slightly under.

 

Guys who are skin and bones thin are disgusting. You don't want to be like that. Some muscle and fat is way more attractive.

 

I think skin and bone is mostly sexy if you're under 25. Over that and you have got to have a bit of muscle or else you look like a zombie.

 

well i think gay men like mostly the attitude and decency. and to be honest. slim and fit is best for attraction

 

Skinny, as in their ribs are poking out? Not my cup of tea. But to each his own, I guess.
I can't really say anything. I can eat till my heart's content and not gain an ounce. :l