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Brett · 2nd Mar 2008, 08:36 PM

So I've been reading a lot of threads lately that kinda' bring this up, and I was wondering what everyone thought of flambouyant gays.
I myself am very flambouyant, so obviously I don't really mind, but I've noticed that most ppl have a generaly negative attitude towards them. And I was wondering why.............

KatoKumi · 2nd Mar 2008, 08:39 PM

Well they think the people are ashamed of them. Because they "give gays a bad name." And they make stereotypes.

I'm a little subtle myself. Most people can pick up on it, but some people still ask me when they talk to me.

jroakwood · 2nd Mar 2008, 08:41 PM

i said "hate it" but i wish there was a choice in between hating it and dont mind.
because it depends on the guy.
some guys are worse about it than others.

divadarya · 2nd Mar 2008, 08:44 PM

I feel for flamboyant gay men(they used to be called "Nelly Queens or "Nellies") because, like us Trannies, they get blamed for "giving Gay a bad name" or "drawing negative attention to us".

CrimsonThunder · 2nd Mar 2008, 08:55 PM

They can be really annoying, I know one and he can be a complete jackass so I don't really like being around him.

Hepcat · 2nd Mar 2008, 09:00 PM

I don't mind. I'm not about to tell anyone else how they should act.

SkyTears · 2nd Mar 2008, 09:00 PM

I put I don't mind. But to me there are two kinds if flamboyants.
1)Those who don't care showing that they are gay.
2)Those who say things that I don't really think should just be said to everyone in public.

I don't mind #1 kind but the second bugs me

p.s.: It's flamboyant not flambouyant (don't mean for that to sound rude) just so it can get changed =p

2nd Mar 2008, 09:00 PM

I sort of am a flamboyant person, so, I don't really mind. The friends that I've come out to says that it's really easy to tell that I'm gay (or not straight).

But, I guess that's because I don't hide the fact that I'm gay. No one has asked me if I'm gay, and if they were to ask, I wouldn't hesitate to tell them yes.

Brett · 2nd Mar 2008, 09:07 PM

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Originally Posted by SkyTears

p.s.: It's flamboyant not flambouyant (don't mean for that to sound rude) just so it can get changed =p

Yeah sorry bout that, I seem to have been thinking about the word "bouyacy" the whole time I was writing this.......and have had to keep deleting "u"s in like every word of this post..,...

SkyTears · 2nd Mar 2008, 09:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Brett

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Originally Posted by SkyTears

p.s.: It's flamboyant not flambouyant (don't mean for that to sound rude) just so it can get changed =p

Yeah sorry bout that, I seem to have been thinking about the word "bouyacy" the whole time I was writing this.......and have had to keep deleting "u"s in like every word of this post..,...

haha, yeah. I can see that being confusing.

Doglover · 2nd Mar 2008, 09:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Hepcat

I don't mind. I'm not about to tell anyone else how they should act.

I agree, it's really hard to change your personality.

Wired106 · 2nd Mar 2008, 09:46 PM

I put I don't really mind because I'm gay and if you're straight acting but gay, you're still part of that "community". I was thinking about this and a good example of it is that if you're black and you have a friend that is a darker skin color than you and you tell him you hate him because he is darker than you, then that means you are pretty much putting yourself down because you yourself are black also. I know that might be hard to understand but I was just using tht as an analogy of what i think lol

davo-man · 2nd Mar 2008, 10:39 PM

I don't mind terribly, unless its in the extreme. Like if it's in your face, over the top etc type extreme. But I think that's the same with most things. Like I don't mind religious people, because that's what gives them hope and happiness in their life. I just dislike it when they are so extreme about it that you can't have a conversation with them without it becoming the main subject of the convo. You know what I mean?

So yeah, as someone said, it depends on the person, but mostly don't mind (especially because I become quite flamboyant when I am drunk)

Time · 2nd Mar 2008, 10:47 PM

Being pretty flamboyant myself, I don't mind too much. In extreme cases, it can be annoying, but overall, I don't care.

Thatsit · 2nd Mar 2008, 11:48 PM

heh i didnt really vote cause i thought the choices were kinda strong. I would put my vote in between "HATE IT!!!" and "I don't really mind"

TyraBanksIsFierce · 3rd Mar 2008, 12:43 AM

I have like different personalities with different people(its complicated, im more flamboyant to people I know better) so the real me is sorta flamboyant but not much lol

Swimmerboy · 3rd Mar 2008, 12:51 AM

OMFG! How can gays be so prejudice of flamboyant homosexuals, even giving them slurs such as "flamboyants"! Wow, they have to worry about discrimination from straight people and gay people too? You mean to tell me despite all of that, they still have the courage to be themselves? I have a lot of respect for flamboyant homosexuals then, and zero respect for any hypocrite who would call them out for being themselves.

CelebrityHead · 3rd Mar 2008, 12:55 AM

Should there have been an option, "I like flamboyant gay guys"?

Some I do. I find they are usually very entertaining and fun to be around. Sometimes can be in-your-face, but I think I'd rather that than hang around a dull, boring person.

otc877 · 3rd Mar 2008, 01:06 AM

I don't like the stereotypes associated with flamboyant gay men, and I don't like those stereotypes associated with all gay men. I voted HATE IT!!! (a bit strong, yes?), but regardless of that vote, I am not against flamboyant men, but rather the social stigma that comes with it.

Fiorino · 3rd Mar 2008, 01:24 AM

Hmm, I don't really associate with them much because I'm afraid people
might say "wth does he hang out with them, is he gay?". Also, they're not
really my type when I'm searching for a guy. I don't appreciate the whole
stereotype thing either, because I definetely don't match it, but otherwise
it's their life and they can do what they want with it. Was that hateful?

View Poll Results: What do you think of flambouyant gay guys?
HATE IT!!!	15	18.75%
I don't really mind	65	81.25%
What's flambouyant mean?	0	0%
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2nd Mar 2008, 08:39 PM	#2
KatoKumi [Un]friendly Fanboy Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Let's Go. Out Status: Everyone Location: SoCal. Age: 19 Posts: 1,070 Join Date: Jun 2007	Re: Flambouyant Well they think the people are ashamed of them. Because they "give gays a bad name." And they make stereotypes. I'm a little subtle myself. Most people can pick up on it, but some people still ask me when they talk to me. __________________ I'm gonna paksiw in the face.

2nd Mar 2008, 08:41 PM	#3
jroakwood You're My Indian Summer. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Minnesota Age: 21 Posts: 671 Join Date: Apr 2007	Re: Flambouyant i said "hate it" but i wish there was a choice in between hating it and dont mind. because it depends on the guy. some guys are worse about it than others. __________________ "EVERYBODY SHOULD BE PRO LOVE." -BRITNEY SPEARS

2nd Mar 2008, 08:44 PM	#4
divadarya Warrior Princess Full Member Gender: MTF Transsexual Orientation: Trans/heteroish(I like men) Out Status: Some people Location: Native Los Angeleno, California Age: 60 Posts: 321 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Flambouyant I feel for flamboyant gay men(they used to be called "Nelly Queens or "Nellies") because, like us Trannies, they get blamed for "giving Gay a bad name" or "drawing negative attention to us". __________________ "I was as pure as the driven snow, but I drifted...." Mae West I am more than my Gender, or the clothes that I wear....

2nd Mar 2008, 08:55 PM	#5
CrimsonThunder Seventh Son of a Seventh Son Full Member Gender: Boy Orientation: Bi Out Status: Friends, Work, Whoever knows Location: South Australian! Posts: 3,536 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: Flambouyant They can be really annoying, I know one and he can be a complete jackass so I don't really like being around him. __________________ Biggest car buff around.

2nd Mar 2008, 08:36 PM	#1
Brett Extreme Heat Warning! Full Member Gender: I am a MAN! ROWR!! =^_^= Orientation: Homo-capable Out Status: Out enough Location: Weatherford, TX Age: 19 Posts: 2,200 Join Date: Jan 2008	Flambouyant So I've been reading a lot of threads lately that kinda' bring this up, and I was wondering what everyone thought of flambouyant gays. I myself am very flambouyant, so obviously I don't really mind, but I've noticed that most ppl have a generaly negative attitude towards them. And I was wondering why............. __________________ Marching band: It's a religion Trip....trip....ip on red wine! Lady Gaga FTW! XD

2nd Mar 2008, 09:00 PM	#6
Hepcat EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: New Zealand Age: 22 Posts: 314 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Flambouyant I don't mind. I'm not about to tell anyone else how they should act.

2nd Mar 2008, 09:00 PM	#7
SkyTears Head Thinking; Heart Bleeding Full Member Gender: Kyle XY Orientation: Gay Out Status: Pretty much everyone Location: Renton, WA Age: 22 Posts: 510 Join Date: Dec 2006	Re: Flambouyant I put I don't mind. But to me there are two kinds if flamboyants. 1)Those who don't care showing that they are gay. 2)Those who say things that I don't really think should just be said to everyone in public. I don't mind #1 kind but the second bugs me p.s.: It's flamboyant not flambouyant (don't mean for that to sound rude) just so it can get changed =p __________________ "Time carries us away from all the places we have come to love; just wishing we could stay. But maybe that's not the point. What makes this all so god damn beautiful is knowing that its bound to fade in time." The Rain-FOREVERINMOTION

2nd Mar 2008, 09:00 PM	#8
GunStarre Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Flambouyant I sort of am a flamboyant person, so, I don't really mind. The friends that I've come out to says that it's really easy to tell that I'm gay (or not straight). But, I guess that's because I don't hide the fact that I'm gay. No one has asked me if I'm gay, and if they were to ask, I wouldn't hesitate to tell them yes. Last edited by GunStarre; 2nd Mar 2008 at 09:04 PM..

2nd Mar 2008, 09:46 PM	#12
Wired106 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Norcal-San Francisco! Age: 20 Posts: 557 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Flambouyant I put I don't really mind because I'm gay and if you're straight acting but gay, you're still part of that "community". I was thinking about this and a good example of it is that if you're black and you have a friend that is a darker skin color than you and you tell him you hate him because he is darker than you, then that means you are pretty much putting yourself down because you yourself are black also. I know that might be hard to understand but I was just using tht as an analogy of what i think lol __________________ "What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything?" - Vincent Van Gogh "The hardest thing in life to learn is which bridge to cross and which to burn." - David Russell

2nd Mar 2008, 10:39 PM	#13
davo-man Aspiring RENThead Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Completely Out (YAY) Location: Australia Age: 22 Posts: 3,709 Join Date: Nov 2006	Re: Flambouyant I don't mind terribly, unless its in the extreme. Like if it's in your face, over the top etc type extreme. But I think that's the same with most things. Like I don't mind religious people, because that's what gives them hope and happiness in their life. I just dislike it when they are so extreme about it that you can't have a conversation with them without it becoming the main subject of the convo. You know what I mean? So yeah, as someone said, it depends on the person, but mostly don't mind (especially because I become quite flamboyant when I am drunk) __________________ The Joker Rules all.... TwoFace comes a close second! My Friends are the best people in the world Ross: Wow, you guys sure have a lot of books about being a lesbian. Susan: Well, you know, you have to take a course. Otherwise they don't let you do it.

2nd Mar 2008, 10:47 PM	#14
Time EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Arkansas Age: 18 Posts: 437 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: Flambouyant Being pretty flamboyant myself, I don't mind too much. In extreme cases, it can be annoying, but overall, I don't care.

2nd Mar 2008, 11:48 PM	#15
Thatsit aka RyanMan (or Ryan) Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: The friends I care to tell. Family'll come later Location: Champaign, Illinois Age: 21 Posts: 259 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Flambouyant heh i didnt really vote cause i thought the choices were kinda strong. I would put my vote in between "HATE IT!!!" and "I don't really mind"

3rd Mar 2008, 12:43 AM	#16
TyraBanksIsFierce EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Most~ Age: 19 Posts: 666 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Flambouyant I have like different personalities with different people(its complicated, im more flamboyant to people I know better) so the real me is sorta flamboyant but not much lol

3rd Mar 2008, 12:51 AM	#17
Swimmerboy EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: I'm So OUT!!!!! Location: Dallas Age: 22 Posts: 411 Join Date: May 2007	Re: Flambouyant OMFG! How can gays be so prejudice of flamboyant homosexuals, even giving them slurs such as "flamboyants"! Wow, they have to worry about discrimination from straight people and gay people too? You mean to tell me despite all of that, they still have the courage to be themselves? I have a lot of respect for flamboyant homosexuals then, and zero respect for any hypocrite who would call them out for being themselves. Last edited by Swimmerboy; 3rd Mar 2008 at 12:54 AM..

3rd Mar 2008, 12:55 AM	#18
CelebrityHead <3 Friends! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: ≈ Everybody!!! Location: Melbourne, AU Age: 22 Posts: 1,575 Join Date: May 2007	Re: Flambouyant Should there have been an option, "I like flamboyant gay guys"? Some I do. I find they are usually very entertaining and fun to be around. Sometimes can be in-your-face, but I think I'd rather that than hang around a dull, boring person. __________________ "Gay by nature Fabulous by choice"

3rd Mar 2008, 01:06 AM	#19
otc877 ^_^ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Most friends know Location: L.A. Outskirts Age: 22 Posts: 790 Join Date: Oct 2007	Re: Flambouyant I don't like the stereotypes associated with flamboyant gay men, and I don't like those stereotypes associated with all gay men. I voted HATE IT!!! (a bit strong, yes?), but regardless of that vote, I am not against flamboyant men, but rather the social stigma that comes with it.

3rd Mar 2008, 01:24 AM	#20
Fiorino Fio Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Most people Location: Buenos Aires, Argentina Posts: 1,005 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Flamboyant Hmm, I don't really associate with them much because I'm afraid people might say "wth does he hang out with them, is he gay?". Also, they're not really my type when I'm searching for a guy. I don't appreciate the whole stereotype thing either, because I definetely don't match it, but otherwise it's their life and they can do what they want with it. Was that hateful? __________________ Why is it that as a culture, we're more comfortable seeing two men holding guns than holding hands?