Hello All, well I am still snowed in..not that I don't like snow..but now have a bad cold (so couldn't go out anyway,lol) As you all probably know, when you are not well you could do with a bit of emotional support..after all ,you 'll just have to 'sit out' the cold... But if you read my profile you'll also know that my partner can't give me such emotional response..for him the world just continues.. So, please guys and girls,give me some virtua(&&&)l hugs
*hugs* l did look at your profile. l'm not entirely sure l'd blame someone's Asperger's alone for that issue. Maybe you should talk to people on an Asperger's forum. Maybe he doesn't sense what you need right now, it doesn't mean he doesn't care.
Is it wrong to self-diagnose? n_n I'm that guy~ *shakes off snow and hugs you* He should know that it's never stopped anyone. Is he really upset over it or something?
Unfortunately with Asperger's, lack of empathy is a common issue. It's not a complete lack of empathy like a psychopath, but it's like it's not calibrated right. They still feel empathetic for some things, especially extreme things, but they just don't understand the concept for certain things. It's not meanness, it's something they can't really control. It's not like he's choosing to ignore empathetic feelings, they just doesn't happen to him all of the time. I'm sure he understands that his partner is sick and upset, but from his point of view, he simply may not think that he would want constant support and attention. People with Asperger's will usually default to projecting themselves onto people around them, guessing what they should do based upon what they would want from someone, this is due to the difficulty they have predicting other's mental states. Communication might help, the thing with people who have Asperger's is that most of the time, they want to be warm and friendly with people, but they have intrinsic difficulties with social interaction. One of the biggest challenges for them is that they often have difficulty predicting or understanding what another person may be thinking without being explicitly told so. It's referred to as "mind-blindness", the inability or extreme difficulty guessing another persons mental state. Things that may seem obvious to us, like sad expressions, not talking much, etc, may be meaningless to someone with Aspergers (though many actually teach themselves what the various expressions and body cues mean, which is pretty damn cool if you ask me). So yeah, the OP actually telling his partner how he feels, and what he'd like from him may really help. One of my friends has Asperger's Syndrome, and he's a wonderful, kind guy. However, he just doesn't always know what to do in certain situations, so he chooses not to act out of experience of people being mean in response to his occasional tactless action.
Hi guys and girls, thanks for all your hugs.. Yes, slowly feeling better..even up to reading and posting in here,lol. As 4AllEternity has kindly explained,yes that's what it's like living with someone with aspergers.. If he could change , I am sure he would..no one wants to live with a disability..and it is a social disability,not an illness or anything
