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Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Eatthechildren, Jan 26, 2013.

  1. Eatthechildren

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    Just thought this could be a place to talk about how in/out the closet we are.

    Sexuality:
    Family: Out to my mum, my mums family, and I've hinted to one of my cousins on my dads side.
    Friends: Out to all of my out of school friends. I'm out to four people I see in school but don't see out of it. I've also implied I'm not straight to another guy (We talk about porn and how hot girls are, and I nearly dated his sister) but I haven't said out loud that I'm bi.
    Everyone else: Most people at school think I'm a lesbian. However, since I haven't confirmed or denied it, no one's treated me badly. I'm kinda happy pretending to be the shy school lesbian for now.

    Gender:
    Family: Out to none
    Friends: Out to three friends who I see regularly, one who goes to my school. Also out to all of my friends from my other queer youth forum.
    I've hinted that I sometimes bind to another friend.
    Everyone else: Deep in the closet.
     
  2. Lewis

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    Family: None at the moment
    Friends: All (that are true friends)
    Acquaintances: Most
    Randomers: Too many! (I tell people I've never met before when I'm drunk!)

    And of course myself and you amazing EC'ers! Great thread idea by the way :slight_smile:

    Considering my out status was 'Not out at all' when I first signed up to EC, I owe a huge thank you to you all!
     
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  3. Reptillian

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    Well, it's no one's damn business to know who I sleep with and I'm a loner. I'd prefer being assumed straight for minimal attention.

    Gender:

    Male, as I'm cis. Genders does not exist in my mind.
     
  4. Owen

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    Sexuality: I'm out to everyone I can be out to. I'm out on Facebook, and everyone in my family and everyone I'm close to in my family extended knows. I wear rainbow paraphernalia occasionally, so I'm also open about it to strangers who ask. While not many people know about the little endnote of my romantic orientation, I don't think it's as important that people know that, so I only bring that up if asked.

    Gender: I've mentioned it to my parents, but never stated it outright, so I'm not sure if they know. I've talked about it on Facebook from time to time, so people who pay attention on there know. When it comes to talking about it, I'm generally honest with anyone my age who asks about it; I'm more reticent to talk about it with people my parents' age and older.
     
  5. NickTsuki

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    Sexuality:
    My ex-boyfriend (who found the idea quite hot); my lesbian friend (who I lost contact when she moved); my best friend; my last crused/used to be bff (who I don't talk anymore for different reasons) and people from EC. But this site gave me more courage to actually talk about it to more friends. For family, only if I eventually get myself a girlfriend (I'm shy).
     
  6. Cecil

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    Family: None know and may not know until I feel like they need to for now.
    Friends: A couple of people know but again only if I feel the need to tell them.
    Random People: Sometimes actually. I get to know them a little first before I say anything. Got to be careful who you tell out here in Texas!

    Usually if someone asks I will make sure I can trust them enough to not want to shove the bible down my spine first. Otherwise I don't mind telling them. If they ask a very personal question then I will say its none of their business or ask them that question right back.
     
  7. Bolin

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    Sexuality: I'm currently in the closet, but I am by no means a closet case. I'm only in the closet because I'm still financially dependent on my mother. She's extremely religious and has both hinted and outright stated that she could not let someone live or associate with her children if they were gay. I'm all about being myself and being free, but I'm not stupid. That's all a moot point if I'm homeless. :lol: Most of my acquaintances and extended family are all connected to my mother's religion or congregation, so I can't really afford to be out to them, either. However, if someone not connected with my family asks, I'll be straightforward with them. I've actually hinted at it to my own family (especially recently), and I don't particularly hide my disdain for women when asked about romantic interests. xD
     
  8. OMGWTFBBQ

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    l'm like half closeted. One family member and he hasn't told yet.

    Have told some people over the years, a few that l was gay, the rest that l was bi.

    But have have been known as at least bi to a pretty large number of people, most of my family is aware of it by word of mouth(nosy cousins).

    As far as gay, still mostly closeted.
     
  9. musicgeek13

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    I decided not to do the whole action of coming out so it's kind of confusing to say how in the closet I am.
    Four of my friends and one of my sisters know for sure.
    Many more assume I am and most of my family has decided to pretend/pray I'm not.
     
  10. andersonh09

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    Sexuality: Friends, Facebook, Work, my mom and a few of my siblings. I think my mom told my dad (I don't talk to him much) and my brother probably told my other brother. (we don't talk about relationships and stuff really) Pretty much when I came out, I came storming out of the closet.

    Gender: well I say female, but I lean more towards bigender. I have discussed it with a few close friends, but that's it. Not because I don't want others to know, but because I'm not really sure. I'm not really super into labels, (not against them) I just am what I am.:icon_bigg
     
  11. Oddish

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    Family: Out to my mum, and my dad. That's it. (I don't think I want to tell my siblings.)
    Friends: Out to all of my friends, minus some ones from school I haven't talked with much, lately. Basically my best friend knows, my other close friend, and my online friends.
    Everyone else: Most people at school could assume that I'm not exactly straight. I want to tell my therapist, but I'm still hesitant. At work, nobody knows, and I don't plan on saying anything. At this point, I'll tell anyone who asks if they're curious. I'm not announcing anything.
     
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  12. Niko

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    Family:Out to mom, dad, and sister....but they sort of pushed me back in, even though they accepted me.
    Friends: Two. One I don't really talk to anymore, and for other reasons, not because of me. The other is trans himself....
    Everyone else: No one~.
     
  13. Rivers

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    Family: My parents and sister. The only reason my extended family doesn't know is because I never see them.
    Friends: All of them. Every last one.
    Everyone else: If someone asks, I tell them, but I've basically told everyone I know already.
     
  14. justinf

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    Gender:
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    Gender Pronoun:
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    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Family: my parents and my brother. I wish I hadn't told anyone, though, so I could just go back to my ex girlfriend and forget about the past year and be straight.
    Friends: two friends. None of my closest friends, though.
    Everyone else: two of my former therapists.

    Also,
    this :slight_smile:
     
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  15. Level75

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    Sexuality:
    Family: Most know. Immediate family knows and one of my cousins knows. At this point, only my aunt, uncle, and older cousin don't know. Subject has never come up. I think most people have given up asking me when I'm going to find a girlfriend.
    Friends: Out to most of my personal friends. None of our family friends though.
    Everyone else: If by "everyone else" you mean work, then dear God no. Most of the staff working under me wear their conservative beliefs on their sleeves. I think I know of two who would be Ok with it, but given that most of our agency leans on the religious side, why risk it?
     
  16. theskywreck

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    Sexuality: Pretty much everybody (except my extended family) thinks I'm a lesbian. Which is fine, because most don't know about my problems with my birth gender.

    Gender: My immediate family knows, my psychologist, and a few of my friends. But the only person who treats me like a boy is my psychologist. I need to work on getting that to change.
     
  17. wilted

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    Sexuality:
    Family: Just my immediate family (mom, dad, brother)
    Friends: Out to all of my friends. Plus, most of my acquaintances/random friends from class.

    Honestly, I'm to that point where I don't care who knows anymore. However, my mom has asked me to wait a few months before telling extended family and making it facebook official. I just came out to my immediate family about 3 weeks ago, so I'm going to follow her wishes and give her time to process it.
     
  18. LailaForbidden

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    Sexuality:
    Family - immediate family things i'm either gay or questioning. Extended thinks i'm a complete gay.
    Friends - three think i'm either gay or questioning
    Everyone Else - none!

    Gender - out of everyone because i'm cisgendered (with boyish tendencies). Most can tell that i'm not too crazy about dresses and makeup.
     
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  19. MerBear

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    family: none but my dad and sister are trying to get me to come out
    friends: none but they keep asking
     
  20. Anthemic

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    Out Status:
    Some people
    Sexuality
    Family: Only my sister and first cousin know.
    Friends: Almost all my close friends know.
    Work friends: Only one person knows.
    Randoms: I'll tell anyone who asks. I'm not the kind of person that goes around telling random people.

    It's not exactly a well accepted thing in Alabama. :/

    Gender
    Everyone. I'm cisgendered. Happy to be the way I was born.
     
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