Okay so I'm doing the straight thing. okay so you know how a heterosexual person just doesn't go around saying oh I'm straight so I'm not telling anyone abut my sexuality. Instead lets say I'm talking about my girlfriend* and act as if it normal for a Chica to go out with another Chica. Anyhow do any of you guys do that? *i don't have a gf that was just an example
my first day of law school, i met a guy who did that, just mentioned his boyfriend in passing like it was no big deal, and that's exactly how everyone treated it. i didn't know i was gay then, but the memory always stuck with me. that's how i deal with it myself now, and i've never had anyone react badly.
:/ l can understand these words individually but somehow together they make my brain feel confused and assaulted. edit: everyone is saying it's awesome, il'll just 2nd that.
That is the best way, especially with new people. Just act like it's common knowledge, and soon it will be. And since you haven't asked for their opinions, they will usually keep it to themselves if they have a problem with it. If you don't ask for their approval, they will not think they have the right to disapprove, for the most part. It's different with family, of course.
This. I sort of consider it as using peer pressure to my advantage. A lot of people will just follow your lead on how you approach a subject, so if you act like it's no big deal, they will too. And when no one else voices opposition to you, the people who might have otherwise said something will often bite their tongues, sensing that at their viewpoint is in the minority and might expose them to attack.
I recently decided to do that and so far it has been such a nonissue. People are generally just like "oh yeah I figured" or they nod and move on. I still haven't had to do the whole sit down "I'm gay" thing.
It works for me generally except for the occasional dense guy friend. I would have entire conversations about guys to one of my friends within earshot of them, and it would still go over their heads until I actually came out and said "I'm gay if you haven't put the puzzle together." There haven't been any issues, even with people that I might expect to be a bit homophobic.
After I told my two closest friends and my family this is how I have been handling it. Its really effective, If I don't make a big deal out of it, no one else does
I do. With the exception of the wobbles that led me to join this site I've been pretty happy with this. Sexuality is normal, and I do tend to lean towards believing that no one can accept that it is normal until we accept it as being completely normal. Or something.
That's generally how I am, although right now it's be ex-girlfriend for me. A lot of the time people will give me a somewhat quizzical look or ask and I'll have to explain a little more, but I've never had a bad reaction. I think it's partially because I have a quite feminine appearance- people just don't expect me to be gay! Sometimes it'll even take a minute or two they realize what I'd said and they'll have to backtrack. I find it pretty funny.
