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Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by lxlJDlxl, Jan 29, 2013.

  1. lxlJDlxl

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    What if you state has legalized all kinds of marriage, would you want to get married to your boyfriend/girlfriend?

    Why or why not?
     
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    N/A. Not in a relationship. :lol:

    If I was it would really depend on what my partner wanted as well so I couldn't really say.
     
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    I see, so the feeling of getting married has to be mutual. :slight_smile:
     
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    We would marry. It would be more of a political statement than anything. We have been together almost 41 years what can a sheet of paper do that we have not already done?
     
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    wow.
     
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    Thank you sweetie.
     
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    I wish my relationship in the future could last that long too.
     
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    ^ ^ I wish your s could as well. Hugs dear
     
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    It would depend on how long we've been together, where the relationship seems to be heading and whether or not I can get over the feeling that I'd just be marrying for the sake of marrying. Plus... well, I do not put a lot of weight into "legal" marriage. If I commit wholly to one person, intend to be with them for the rest of my life, and put the effort in to do that, and they do the same, and we are growing as a pair then in my mind we are already married.

    I guess the desire to marry would mostly be fuelled by the importance they placed on it rather than my own.
     
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    Since I'm in Massachusetts (YAY!!! FIRST STATE!!) I would definitely do it for the right person.

    Now I just need to find them.
     
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    I would like to marry someday. Not that there's someone who would possibly marry me, but still. :grin: Ugh, why did you have to ask this question? Now I feel bad for myself. :grin:
     
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    Don't worry, I feel bad for myself too with regards to this subject.

    Our teachers asked us this question. And I cannot answer it. Like who should I marry or would I even have someone that will last up to a lifetime? xD



    Thanks everybody for the input.

    FruitFly - So your marriage is kind of like mental and emotional marriage?

    ---------- Post added 29th Jan 2013 at 05:21 AM ----------

    What do you mean by first state? Sorry for kind of being an ignorant here.
     
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    Yes, I would-- it would be Pennsylvania or Ohio, so a long way away, but there's no one like him, and if we could, we would.
     
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    I am missing something. No one like whom?
     
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    Basically, yes. I guess. I've never really thought about it from any perspective other than not needing/wanting a legal marriage in order to be, for all intents and purposes, married. I can see why people would want to get legally married as soon as they were able, but I'm not sure I could do that. It would be like admitting that whatever we had before was not as real as a piece of paper makes it, in my head at least.
     
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    It's legal here and I wouldn't, though that's because I've seen (and been the part of) marriage doing a lot more harm than good.

    I would however really consider getting married for the whole 'political statement' aspect.
     
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    Massachusetts was the first state to legalize gay marriage.
     
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    Honestly, I would get a civil union or a court appointed marriage. I am not at all religious and I don't want to have anything to do with a church. I really would just want to be married to get the same benefits that are allotted to heterosexual couples.
     
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    Even if it was legal, I dislike the idea of marriage, so no :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
  20. Oddish

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    This, right here. Not a keen person on marriage to be honest.