Why is everyone so obsessed with labels?

Labels help other people to recognize you if that's what you want. And whether or not you pick a label, you will be labeled.

 

label works kind of like a simple identification tool.
I mean, I can kind of understand where you come from, but I think we should start with that not everyone is good mind reader...
like, would it be okay to call you Argentinian?

 

Haha. First and foremost l love the "That's just like,your opinion, man" avatar.

Ummm. Not really going to comment, l guess l just really wanted to say that.

One tiny comment l have is that if a person actually does "live up" to or at some point in their lives practice the activity associated with any of their labels then rock the f*ck on.

lt can be a little tiresome to listen to the incessant chatter when that aspect is missing

 

I don't have a particular fondness of labels, but a few help me to explain some things to others who ask difficult questions.

Granted, I wish they weren't needed in the world.

 

I think they're just used to help sort everything out- both for ourselves and for others. They're not necessary if you don't want to use them, though.

 

Just a way of identification. I don't go around screaming, "I'm attracted to so and so!!" but if I'm asked at least I have a name for it and a way to explain it. Just makes things easier, especially with those who understand all of the jargon.

 

I think some labels can be ok, but it gets a little too excessive when there's so many.

I mean, I seriously wonder if there's a label for someone who likes guys, but only on Mondays and when it rains.

Playing Devils Advocate, though....I would say that there was a point in time where we were just the "queers." So, we had to add things like LGBT. You know? I'm totally fine with LGBT.

I guess I just realized that you're just adding labels. Hmm... I solved my own problem!

But please, before adding 1000 new labels..think about it, first!

 

^Yeah Convenience. Personally, I don't care about other peoples sexual preference. For me, its neck accessory preference.
It seems to me that people label others just so they feel more comfortable knowing who they're dealing with. Take gender for example. When babies are born, people immediately ask the parents, "Is it a boy or a girl?" Society is pretty devided with gender, and it's becoming that way with sexuality too, though heterosexuals are the majority. Of course, society's straight vs. gay thing often lumps bisexuals and transgendered individuals with the "gay" label. I think people categorize people by sexuality because people are obsessed with sex and make a huge deal of who other people are attracted to.

 

Well, the thing is people just want to know who you're open to and that is all. From the average laymen's point of view, your sexuality is who you're open to and/or the prosperity of who you are open to. That's why labels are regarded as important, plus not to mention how labels seems to comfort most people as they feel like they found more people like them. From a person with a background of some basic understanding of sexuality and the academic materials involved, sexuality does not necessarily have to do with who you're open to and even who you feel you might most likely be with even though it is a indication which is not always right. One strategy to go against the emphasis on labels is to mention parts of the complications regarding sexuality and mention examples that shows it, but you're going to have to go against laymen who don't understand the issues of complications regarding sexual orientation and the likes.

When people ask me for my orientation, they just want to know who I am open to, they don't care anymore about that and they do not care about actually learning about sexuality in depth. I will answer that I might be open to girls (there's a post to see why would I be interested into a relationship and there are conditions I'd have to see met before initiation of a relationship. I do not do things out of emotions as that's the last thing I will put my perspective on).

 

rainmanmonday?

 

I like labels because they help me to explain who I am to other people. I mean, it's so much easier to say "I'm gay" than to say, "I'm sexually attracted to men with occasional incidental sexual arousal to women, except that I want to have sex with men and don't really have any interest in having sex with women. Oh, and I can be romantically attracted to men and women, but realistically I'd like to have sex with a romantic partner--and most women who want a romantic partner also want their partner to have sex with them, so realistically it only makes sense for me to date other men."

Two words vs. eighty-three.

 

Another reason is the quick explanation advantages to labels instead of detailed description. Let's face it, who gives a shit about a speech? I'm pretty sure if I describe my past life details and long details about my own history regarding my relativistic attraction, people would be snoring long before I finish my speech about my sexuality history. I'd imagine if I had to do a speech about my sexuality, it'd be over 2000 words, no questions about it and why should they even bother?

 

*ponders this* Precipital-Xyious Monendayian

 

84 words if you read "I'm" as "I am" or break "don't" to "do not" or "I'd" to "I had"
85 if you break two words
86 if you break three.

but that's a long description XD
Can you write a novel about your sexuality? Can I? :roflmao:

 

I don't mind labels, like I don't mind being a Pastafarian.

 

I actually like labels for myself. This past year I've been trying to overcome my denial and get through a questioning phase, and considering different labels and "trying them on" for myself helped me with a lot of the confusion I had. They're also a good way to communicate with other people in language that they can understand.

I like labels in other areas of my life as well - I went through most of my high school years thinking I was stupid and lazy, but when a doctor gave me a label of ADHD, I was able to redefine my behaviors in a different context so that I could work on coping skills to be successful anyway.

 

lmao. Yeah...l don't...l can't even...

Only because you can tell when a person is more interested in talking about themselves than anything else. Like, you like men? Okay. And you like women? Ok. Cool, nothing l haven't heard before.

Versus:

You might like a ___ at some point, but you aren't interested in it now, you can't say when you will be and you aren't even interested in sex or a relationship and get weird if l ask about it?

Oh. *ponders*

Yet, as uninterested as they are in the activity surrounding some aspects of the label they have, they are interested in talking about it very often.

 

Probably not enough material for a novel. But maybe a short story or two.