Lesbian Femmes

If you're out boys will probably stop hitting on you ^^ (Sorry that's all I've got :s)

 

Or else the guys will tell you they are lesbians trapped in a man's body.

George, You might try Lesbian symbol jewelry or designs on notebooks and such. Making eye contact is always good. If you see someone you are interested in hold the gaze a beat or two longer. You have to be aware of the subtle signs as well. Hugs

 

I've wondered this myself. I would love to do jewelry, but I'm not out enough yet for that...and there are some people at work who will understand. Being so stuck in can't be helpful, I guess.

But, to answer your question...well, I can't, I'm interested in the answers though.

 

Give them to me. I can use some...

 

I handle men in tiers.

1) The first time they hit on me, I'm polite. Tell them that I'm not interested, no further explanation needed. If they can't deal with that and they try again...
2) I typically tell them they have more anatomy than I find attractive. It both confuses most of them, and serves to tell them I don't find men attractive without having to shout "I'M GAY OK?!"
3) And if they still don't get the hint, I get mean because sometimes that's what it takes for them to back off. Some examples of being mean include but are not limited to: telling them your penis is bigger, complimenting them on their feminine features (even if they have none), emasculating them in front of their group by showing them up in wit, strength, etc.

As far as women go, there's really not much else I can tell you beyond broadcast it, I guess. I'm a really open person, and I pretty much always have been. If something is on my mind, I just say it and consequences be damned. Yeah, it leads to some awkward situations now and then, but I can't really say that it's a deterrant for me to keep speaking my mind.

 

l don't really mind if they hit on me. Since l'm older if any of them give me a hard time l can just blow them off or if they ask about my "situation'' -_- l can just say l'm not dating anyone right now.

With other girls, l find that most of the ones who would be into dating another woman figure it out. Meaning we already know each other in some capacity, l'm not really interested in sending off vibes to girls l don't know lol.

Maybe l'm just too much of an obvious person when turned on but girls can tell whether or not l'd be down for anything xD

 

My femme partner suggests just saying hi how are you to the girl and seeing how your Gaydar reacts. After the introduction play it by ear. Tell her you think she's good looking or compliment her outfit or shoes. There are many ways to start a dialogue. I guess fashion. music and makeup lead the way. These things tell her you have been checking her out. She can make the next move. Hugs

 

I've not much to offer, as I've never been hit on (to my knowledge anyway)

But you could get one of those rainbow/ lesbian bracelets, or just be very open and confident about your sexuality. Like copy the way guys sort of stare at hot girls' butts, or comment on how pretty a girl is or something like that..

 

I'm not even femme and I get hit on by men. Not men my own age, mind you, only men that are like twenty years older than me. I have no idea why, but it's creepy.

 

You can't really stop it.

Here's how I stop it, just respond with cold-shoulder or indifference or manipulating their emotions that is if you're a unsympathetic person. Works for both males and females. Needless to say, I driven some people to emotional turmoil for doing this, but meh I don't care.

 

Guys are tricky. If they're hitting on you and you tell them you're gay, some will take the hint and move on. Others will see it as a challenge, or a chance to divulge their views on the LGBT community. Unless they become physical, it's obnoxious but not something you need to panic about. What gets really bad is when a man has legitimate feelings for you. In the last month, I have been told by 4 male friends that they are in love with me (or still in love with me, in the case of 2 of the guys, who I dated several years ago). The level of guilt I feel about not being able to return their feelings is overwhelming, especially when they tell me they've been crying over me or it's causing a problem with their significant other. So I am zero help in that regard.

I wear a rainbow bracelet, but nobody seems to notice. I think the fact that I hang out with all straight guys also makes people assume that one of them must be my boyfriend. Aligning myself with obviously gay girls seems to be the only tactic that's worked in the past. I wish there was a lesbian bar near me...or a GSA at my college.

 

This has always been, and is still a problem for me. When guys ask me out, I just tell them I'm not interested in dating right now.

I just recently bought myself a rainbow bracelet, and I'm so surprised by how many people have actually noticed it. Even a cute gay guy at the McDonald's drive-thru noticed it and said he wanted it. XD I've gotten looks from 3 women already. I honestly didn't think the bracelet would work, but it does!

 

You rang? :lol:

I wear rainbow stuff and act super friendly to attractive ladies. They usually respond. Open doors and stuff... that's what I do. Plaid also helps! Teehee jk. Those things are what I try. I'm pretty out for the most part, so minus a few exceptions I don't really worry about awkward moments of being found out or if I'd keep my girlfriend a secret or anything. (!)

Also... guys never hit on me... so I can't offer advice on that.

 

Plaid you say. Flannel also seems to work. LOL Maybe combat or work books.