Being gay

Liking dudes is literally the only thing that makes a guy gay. So you fulfil the only criteria.

 

why are you lost? You like guys. That's gay. That's all. case closed haha unless you like girls which you don't mention.

 

Well aren't you lucky .

I don't see why that means you can't be gay.

 

Do you think you feel bad because you feel like being gay might make you less of a man? If so, I feel the same.

 

You think you're gay because you're an athlete?^

 

I get it. The guys on our uni team, they sit in cafe at same table, dress "like jocks", body slam and whack on backs, many in same frat. it is like brothers.

then they all go after the cheerleaders, who are in same sorority, and they get gf....and talk about the melons on her.

then there is...the gay football player feeling akward cuz um...

yep i can see it.

so, have you played a long time? are you going to get a scholarship? some guy one day will brag he got a football jock, wait and see...ah yah wait. valentines day...sigh.

 

Its all good man being a gay athlete is ok. No need to feel lost

 

No need to feel lost. Except for one thing in my life (liking musical theater) you wouldn't even ever think that I was gay. And I'm certainly no less a man for it. I've got a dick like everyone else, I just like people that also share that characteristic!

 

We get it. You're an athlete. There have been many athletes that have been gay. Even professional ones. Being gay doesn't make you any less manly. My advice-give it time and don't jump to any rushed decisions

 

As far as being a gay athlete, read "The David Kopay Story" by David Kopay. NFL player that came out in the 70s. I believe we now have requisite precedent, plus figure skating is in the olympics.

As far as being emasculated because you're gay? That leads to several questions.
1) What is masculine?
2) Why is it so great/important?
3) Why do you let society's dictated gendernorms influence your self-image?

You can aspire to fit into some precut mold society wants to shape people into, or you can just go with what makes you happy (so long as you aren't hurting anyone who doesn't want to be hurt {I like to throw that in for masochists}).

 

I agree. But sometimes the immediate reaction from straight people is that if you are a gay guy that means you are a feminine guy. We all know that this isn't always true and that someone can be a masculine guy and be gay. So for them, it is a common frustration to be emasculated by their peers. Because they really are masculine, not because they are trying to fit a mold.

(This has nothing to do with Kuntawkid's problem. Which I still am having a difficult time understanding.) How old are you Kuntawkid, if you dont mind me asking?

 

I think i know how you feel. I played a lot of sports straight through high school, I had to get over that way of thinking (I can't be gay, I play sports). It seems silly to me now, but when I was younger it caused a lot of confusion for me.