Has anyone here decided to not come out?

i decided im not for various reasons

 

Te only reason l do intend on coming out is so l won't be foreveralone. Though some people keep relationships secret. l wouldn't want to do that.

But l view my sexuality as a private matter, not out of shame. Like any of my other business is private. When l am "out" officially and to whatever capacity that will be, it will be on a need to know or whoever asks basis.

 

When I first came out to myself I felt that way. There was a lot of other shit going on in my life, on top of my anxiety issues. I didn't feel like coming out would be worth it. After things settled down, my feelings changed. It still took two years after that for me to finally come out (just started at the beginning of October.) Hiding hurt too much, and I didn't want to turn into a crazy cat lady and die alone.

 

as the "dumb teen" that i apparently am, im considering moving far away (like another state) from my parents when i am able to and i might come out then. but that might just be a stupid idea

 

this is also my stupid idea lol.

l think it's a good way to get perspective, part of it is that l don't want to deal with my family's reaction but another part is that it just seems easier.

But yeah, when you're a legal adult lol.

 

Pretty much this. It's funny coz everyone in my life is very liberal and not homophobic in the slightest but I still remain in the closet because I really can't be arsed having to deal with people's reaction's and how they may treat me differently. I like things as they are thank you very much. No need to rock the boat at this moment in time. That and what Miss BBQ said. :lol:

However, with an eye to the future...I can see myself coming out. The main catalyst for which would probably be me actually getting a BF. For me, that would actually give me a reason to come out or rather for people to become aware of my sexuality.

In any case, I don't believe in announcing my sexuality to anyone. When I feel like letting people know, and people actually express and interest in knowing, I'll let them know.

Oh and the idea of being closest for the rest of my life, I can't imagine it...I don't wanna be alone forever! :tears:

 

What I do in bed is no one's business.

 

I too thought about this once. But I don't think my parents would mind that much. I do believe it'd be best to wait until I'm financially stable though. As for going away, I've thought about Citizenships to other countries or states/cities but wouldn't want to move just because of that. Though others might, since I live a relatively accepting area.

 

I honestly don't know where I would be if I did not come out. Before I came out, I was really depressed and I felt like there was no point to life. I felt like I was just not being true to myself.

Now that I have come out, I feel like a weight has been lifted off of me. I still have times where I feel depressed, but it's not nearly as bad as it was before. I can finally act how I truly feel. That's a great feeling.

 

I've came out to my best friends, and then people on different forums I know, also now, but I don't think my family will know until they learn I have a girlfriend. I couldn't imagine being in the closet forever.

 

This! Exactly this.

 

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l think you;re saying a lot of what l'm thinking. For me it really is that l can't get into the reactions and everything, but not out of shame. l just VERY much don't want to feel like l'm...l dunno...responsible for everyone's reactions somehow?

Hard to explain but basically l just cannot be arsed like you said. For me it's like, l like the color green and l don't give a shet. And if l told other people, they wouldn't give a shet either.

l also like GIRLS and l don't give a shet, lt is pretty much on the same level for me at this point. But if l told other people l have to deal with their reactions which will NOT be in accordance with what l feel...lol.

Mostly just too extreme and l can't even put on the fake emotional coming out meltdown with them

cannot be arsed xD

 

I never thought I'd come out at first but I definitely don't regret doing it.

 

When i first thought about coming out, i was really scared and kept it a secret from my family and friends for over a year. To be honest it was drove me insane, i was quite depressed because i thought of all the bad things that might/could happen if i were to come out. I changed my mind the moment i thought about self harm. I told my step mum, my dad and my grandparents, friends and other family members. All of which were okay with it.. if some weren't at first they are now.
Now everyone knows that i am a Lesbian and i can't be happier. Even if those who have a problem with it try to bring me down, i just think of the ratio between those who will stand by me and those who won't. Which is good because the ones who stand by me wins every time.

 

I'm staying in the closet for now. I'll come out about my sexuality after year 11 I think